Cellphones breaks realationship

i try not to make a lot of fuzz about messages and phone calls received by my bf. anyway, that is his phone and i don't want him all over my phone as well. so i guess in our case, we can't let cellphones break us.. and we are using phones rather to connect us both. i love cps, and i do not think of it as some destroyer, but a tool to be used for our convenience...

Yeah a cell phone can cause major problems. My problem...my husband is addicted to his. He talks/texts constantly. We are at dinner...and he is texting while I eat "alone". IN the car he talks on the phone and even texts. While we watch tv..he is texting and first thing he does when he wakes in the morning is check his phone. Not to be disgusting, but as soon as we are done "doing it" he gets up and goes and checks his texts messages! I am so disgusted and angry at him. I get about 50 words a day from him, but boy he burns up the lines texting and talking to others. We fight about it all the time, but of course..he wins. I have no right to tell him what to do on "his time". Mind you he is 64, unemployed and quite rude to many but they keep texting back! I spend alot of time alone, ignored and in silence. Yes, cell phones are breaking up my marriage.

Hi hexebella, to avoid such undesired situation to happen again, I suggest you to place your phone nearby where you are doing your chore or any other things. Make it a habit doing so for your cellphone is the solely convenient device to relay message for the two of you living in separate countries. In this way at least you could hear the calling and can keep in touch all the time My cellphone is always with me whenever I'm away from home. I did blame my husband for not switching on his communication device a couple of times. This was because I called him for something urgent but in vain. Fortunately that the first time my brother came and helped me to replace the punctured tyre after receiving my call. Another time I called him from home but couldn't get his answer though I had made many calls. I then asked the visitor to come again later. Oh gosh I was told his cellphone was switched off accidentally after he finished chatting with someone Since then he is very alert and always makes sure that whether his phone is switched on. Happy posting

Seems to me, problem isn't cell phones. If you guys didn't have cell phones, he may send you 100's of emails & wonder why you only responded twice. In that case, computer broke your relationship? I don't believe that. Those are just things we use. How do you think people dealt with long distance relationship before cell phones were invented? Problems in relationship existed long before phones of any kind & computers & so forth. It's a personal issue, not technology issue. Technology just gave some people an excuse to blame their problems on something else.

No, cellphones can make new strong relations. We can make new contacts. We can make new communications. We can built new paths to communicate a good way. We can share our feelings, thoughts. But it depends on our behavior, we have to give importance to them, to with whom we are in contact in cellphone.

Maybe when a couple is not that well a cellphone, or even the computer might bring more problems. Like facebook for example, there are obsessive jealous people that keeps tracks on their loves many times a week.

Hi hexebella, the story is quite common for me, i face this problem everyday, i feel irritated and shout at my friends sometimes but later on i'll adjust, but 24*7 phone at the ears is not good for health but what to do its the only way i can keep her happy.

Dear hexebella, don´t feel sad, I´m going to show you the coin´s other side: I mean: ME. I tend to be the kind of your boyfriend. Sometimes I have not enough time to spent on a cell call. Or I am very anxious and excited to hear my huby in the cell, and when I can´t reach him I just feel frustrated and irritated. I´m working with this con of my behavior. My parents had a very bad relationship, indeed they got divorce 8 days before my wedding. Well, however, I fight for the love I feel for my huby, and I feel just as a child calling him eagerly... but this kind of emotion gets frustrated if he isn´t at his cell. I know I shouldn´t it´s not mature of my part. But it is a must to develope, I know, I just try to be more self confident. Though it is not easy. Be patience with him, just a bit, and try to make him feel comfortable... I think that he just want to hold you and he can´t do it because you are in different country. Love him as he is, and help your relationship, find a way to love you both, better. Blessings!... Dainy

Interesting... I was about to say that maybe it has more to do with your bf's insecurities, but if cell phones didn't exist, he wouldn't have a choice to test his self esteem with it. I agree that cell phones and other 'convenient' gadgets can really become inconvenient sometimes.

Since I am divorced and live alone, I don't have that to worry about. Even when I was married, I didn't have that problem as we both had cell phones, but I would always use mine more than he used his, as our daughter would call me to talk and never him. I do think though, that cell phones can cause problems in a relationship like is has yours because he calls you and you don't pick it up to talk to him. whenever I get missed calls, I call back immediately. Maybe, you just need to explain to him why you missed his calls, and then maybe he will feel differently, hopefully. Of course, he might not believe you either, but if you try to tell him, the why you missed calls, then at least he will understand what really happened that you missed his calls. I am gald though that i don't have had to worry about. Take care, and have a very good day.

I think that cellular phones is a great invention, and it is up to the person using it how to use it. My boyfriend and I use the cellphone to communicate a lot but we never fight because of a missed call or a text that was not returned. I guess you both should really talk about it that your phone won't be with you 24/7 and that having missed a call or when you don't return a text that it already means something...

Yes, it happens to us. I think one of the problem is people are getting more and more impatient because the technology allows instant connection, people expects instant response. I know it is nice to hear the voice, but an occassioanl SMS may also remind the other person you were thinking of him/her. If you were at home, why not get connected through free services like skype? You could keep it on all day.

u are telling the right thing of cell phones and u are telling the personal matter of u and ur boy friend and cell phone is the personal use or anything we can make with cell phone one thing i would ask to u if there is a missed call in ur cell why u became anger take it easy love is between the two hearts but not inbetween the two cell phones.You are telling about the cell phones ok thats your a problem but cell phones are gathering the distance and then shrink that distance into small distance thats why the cell phones becomes very popular its shrinks the far distances into the nearer distances i am also fighting with my girl friend but this time also i am quarelling with my gf in the cell phone only its common thing cell phones destroys everything and gains everything its a real thing in our lives fighting is the common matter for lovers one thing cell phone is the gaining of some achievements in our life.

Hi, i understand how annoyed you are. and for sure you are not alone, loads of people are experiencing that (but lucky me, i don't). It's just a matter of a good communication for a better understanding. Better, set times when you both are free to talk. The simplest way for both of you to avoid fighting. Let things clear to him that he must TRUST you. Too much asking of annoying questions does only mean you have less trust to your partner. Everything must be under control if both of you have a strong trust to each other, no matter how far you are to each other.