How long does it take you to make a decision?

Hi sarah ruth beth: Thanks for this advise. I like this idea of the three categories. In the case of the questions where the answer is "maybe" what did you do to take a fast decision? Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Maybe remained a maybe. I didn't com to a fast decision. It took a while. Then It turned into a no. Most become a no. most of my yeses Come withing seconds of he question.

Ok. Thanks for your answer Sarah :) Have a nice day. ALVARO

Hi hard working gurl: I agree with you. Have you noticed how some persons try to force you to take a decition now. But it's not a good idea, at least for me to decide something without thinking about what I really want to do and how I see the things. I prefer to make people waiting but to be sure that I have made what I considered that it was the best decision I could take. ALVARO

Hi stowyk It is the best way to go!

Hi starsailover, and also to Fazel. In decision-making, you need to decide one thing up-front: Is time of the essence? Granted, given the luxury of time in the world, I can take all day or all year, but by then, the answer might not have mattered. A life could be lost, a job could be retrenched, etc. etc. If time is of essence, then decide what is the best by weighing what hurts least. It's easy to go for what benefits most, but that might also result in what hurts most. For example, when pressed by a salesperson to make a quick sale, the one that hurts leasts is NOT to buy otherwise your pocket hurts. For those that need not be time-critical, take your time. Seek counsel from others, like friends in the real world or in myLot, just like what you are doing now. We all make wrong decisions in life sometime, make that many times. Just learn from it if we survive through it...and move on, move on.

Hi chiyosan: It's great that you can take so much time to take these big decisions. In my case, it's sometimes difficult, specially in my work but I try to manage both things: making a decision fast but taking a time for me (some minutes or hours if possible) to carefully think about what to do. ALVARO

Hi Ikbooi: that's what I think about this subject too. The only problem is when you feel that you can take all the time that you need to make an important decision. That's a tension moment for me because I don't like this kind of pressure. However we have to face this situation and try to think about the subject as quick as possible and take the wisest decision we can. ALVARO

Hi dorann m win: I think it's ok to take the time you think you need to make the good decisions when you feel that it's not a simple one. The only problem is when someone is forcing you to take a decision as quickly as possible. ALVARO

Hi jak: Same happends to me. I don't like to take a decision when I am not sure about what to do, specially if we are talking about something big or about takin a decision on a subject that I don't really know what to do or when I don't know which will be the consequences of my actions. ALVARO

HI ellie: Thanks for your answer. That's actually a technique that I usually use in my personal life. Sometimes we are too stressed, so going to bed is a good help to put everything in order in your mind and the next day you feel better to decide what you really want to do. ALVARO

Hi lyneemg: That's cool. In my case I can't do this because I don't trust too much on this sticnts. I prefer to take a rational decision, evaluate different possibilities, etc. And that's something that we can't do so quickly. ALVARO

Hi pic jim: When I can ask to someone with more experience that me I'll do this too. That's the best way to be a wiser man I think. ALVARO

Hi sender: Same happends with me. Now tell me, how is your mental process when you need to take one of this difficult- or more complex decisions. ALVARO

Hi katie: I think the same. That's the reason why I take my time to make a decision: because I want to be totally sure about what I want to do. And I'll assume the consequences of my decision no matter if they are good or bad. ALVARO

Hi danas: I agree with you. In fact when a decision is important for me, people should wait for me until I find what I want to do. I don't like to take a decision when I am not sure if that's the best for me. ALVARO

Hi donski: I agree with that division. The problem for it's when I have to take an important decision. I feel sorry but I can't do this in just a few seconds. I don't like it and I prefer to be alone and deeply think about this. ALVARO

Hi mogul cherubim: I think that your boyfriend is right. When we usually take a decision on these states of mind we decide to do some things that in a normal situation we wouldn't do or at least we'd think about them a lot before knowing what to do. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Hi gatror gurlm: I am not sure about how much time that it takes for me to make a decision but I think it's almost the same. I don't like to decide just by using the first thought that came to my mind. In fact I think that's the way I commit the more number of mistakes. ALVARO

Hi naija real: I agree with you. We can't take all our decisions as fast as for example deciding what to wear or how to do our work. When decisions are more complex or have results that we are not sure about them it's better to think more than once before making a decision. ALVARO

Hi Michael Nil: That's simply awesome I think. I can't do this and I have had problems sometimes when people try to pressure me to take a decision fast. How do you do this. I feel interested. ALVARO

Hi Fazel: That's right. The question is what's more important for us? To make a fast decision or to make a good decision. I think we all know the answer. Asking someone that you trust for and avise is also a good way to find what's the best for you. ALVARO

Hi kokomoricci: That's nice. You should feel proud of yourself bvecause not everybody can do this. In my case it's almost impossible to take a decition inmediatly when it's something that I am not sure about what to do, specially new things. How do you do that? Please, give me an advise. ALVARO