An Excuse!
By Toni
@toniganzon (72277)
Philippines
March 11, 2011 5:25pm CST
Most people who are single long to be with someone. Most of them say they want to get married with the person that they love. They even hate being single. Now here goes one friend who's embracing single life and telling people that marriage sucks and people who say they don't are just a bunch of fools who hate to admit that it does suck!
Now i believe that friend is just making an excuse for himself because he couldn't find a partner for himself, less a a person to marry. Sour graping?
There are a bunch of married people who are really happy and i was a witness to that. There is no relationship without a fight! But the most important thing is, you both try to make the relationship work and ended up happy being together. Once a person is married to another perfect partner, one cannot live without the other. I've seen that in my grandparents, they can't stand without each other and i can see so much love in their eyes.
Some marriages fail, but not all marriages suck!
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12 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
I believe in the saying, It's better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.
When you love, you should not take it as a bed and roses. It has its ups and downs but nonetheless, the feeling of being loved and having someone to love is something worth having!
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@toniganzon (72277)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
I agree and to have someone beside you when you wake up every morning too! 
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
12 Mar 11
I am not married as yet but would love to someday soon.One thing i know about relationship is it starts out as friendship and attraction then love comes along to complete the circle.I have learnt that love is the key to all things.Some people search for true but true love is the love that never gives up hoping to grow stronger each day,its the truthfullness we accept in each other and when all these things are included nothing can go wrong.I have seen marriages which grow stronger with each passing year and when one partner is away the other is anxiously waiting.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Mar 11
I'm single after a marriage and as much as I'd like to say that all marriages suck from the hurt, I don't think this is true to all. I still believe that some people can really work on to making a beautiful marriage. Some times, that effort may go down the drain due to a mismatching but I think a beautiful marriage is still possible if you can find someone who is like pretty much your 'other half'. If your friend was really 'embracing' single life, he wouldn't need to say anything about marriage.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Mar 11
Holy moly and I too agree with you. Although I am not married and do love my boyfriend very much, without effort there is absolutely nothing, so why then make excuses and think you change the way many think about their own decisions.
My hats to you for this discussion! 
@kokomoricci (20)
• United States
12 Mar 11
Your friend has been talking to too many married couples that are not truly in love. If a marriage is based solely on love, it will work. Even if it doesn't work, it will not be a sour split, because they truly loved each other.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
11 Mar 11
Toniganzon I think you are right, once we have begun a marriage it´s even more difficult to break it. I see it in my parents that got divorced a week before we got married. If he hasn´t never ever been joined to nobody... so, maybe that is easier to a divorced one. I know my husband since we were 13 and 15, we were friends for 11 years, just neat friends, and then we got married, I can´t figure life without him. He is part of my daily being. I wouldn´t be me without him. I imagine your friend is living a hell (with all the respect) an inside hell that wants to cover. Just as my brother. The point is if they find true love, they must marry. If they don´t find true love, they must not marry. To have true love in life is a blessing... we must size it, and pray for those who haven´t found it. Blessings!... Dainy
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
I guess your friend haven't found the one that's why he's able to say that all marriages suck.
I was talking to a friend just last friday, because she read this book about a guy who changed his mind of killing this girl because he fell in love, and my friend was saying that what kind of reason is that. I was telling her that it's love and that there's no other better reason but love, and I told her that when she falls in love she will understand the point of the book. She was laughing and she said that yeah maybe when that happens she will call me and tell me that she has changed her mind.
You can have a totally different point of view from two people where one has experience true love, and one who only have experienced pain from love. 
You can have a totally different point of view from two people where one has experience true love, and one who only have experienced pain from love. @cassandra88 (15)
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12 Mar 11
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Unless one is prepared for a lifetime adjustment and challenges of being married, he should stay single for the rest of his life. Of course, being single is fun. But once we decide to settle for the one we love. We should be ready to do some sacrifices.
