What do Women Look for In a Guy?

United States
March 11, 2011 6:35pm CST
I am single and am wondering what traits women really value in men. I have been trying to show that I am caring and compassionate because I feel that this is a trait they value. Are there any other values I should try to develop or show?
8 responses
• Saint Lucia
12 Mar 11
Each and every woman looks for different things in a man.I look for a responsible,kind,loving,hard-working man.He must love spending time with family,make his family priority,knows what it means to be a partner and he must have a great sense of respect and humour.He must be tidy and clean.Know how to cook or willing to learn. He must be the kind who will go shopping with me whether its for clothing,grocery or just to window shop.Tery to be home for dinner and just have the willingness to do things as a family.And always be yourself when you are trying to impress a girl.
• United States
12 Mar 11
Thanks for the help! I've been trying to be myself, but just wondering what traits to emphasize a little more.
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
For me, I am usually attracted to men who has a great sense of humor! But you don't have to be funny if you're not that type of guy at all....otherwise you'd find yourself trying hard to be something that you're not. What I'm getting at is simply this, be yourself! Pretty soon, you'll find someone who complements your personality...someone that you have chemistry with...and most important, someone who will like you the way you are.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
13 Mar 11
Honesty, hardworking, compassionate. I can't deal with an egomaniac. A sense of humor. The ability to communicate. Family oriented, open minded, forgiving, and above all things.. He can't be afraid to hurt my feelings and be able to stand up for himself, as well as me and our family. The ability to say "No" is a HUGE thing with me as well. I dated a guy once who would never stand up to anyone. He wouldn't ever tell people no. Although I was just 2 years older than his 15 year old sister, when it came time to do the family harvest, that girl did NOTHING, while I worked out in the field gathering crops and baling hay despite having severe allergies and asthma. His parents just expected it of me, but not of their "little princess." No, I didn't live at their house. Lots of things like this happened involving his family through the years and at his work place. Once I was older and we moved in together, that very fact drove us apart. I found more and more reasons to spend less and less time at home and eventually found someone else. I was young and approached it wrong, but I just couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life with someone who I didn't think could stand up for me when I couldn't raise my voice for myself. I tend to grow a little big in the head at times, as well and yell alot, and that does require a wake up call. No being nice about it. If he can't tell me that I'm acting like a snotty little b!tch, what good is that?
• India
21 Mar 11
Dude ! Dude ! Dude ! You are damn Innocent ! Love is crap ...girls need cash ! Show them the money !
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
23 Mar 11
I know there are many girls out there that like bad guys but I like actually the opposite, I don't even find Brad Pitt, a cheater any attractive, really. I like a long term best friend kind of guy, those are the guys I've dated. I know they are honest, nice, kind, care about me, knows my value, seek for me, is available, I love this kind of things, and that they are good guys, it doesn't matter they are handsome or not.
@rivha23 (11)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 11
actually just one woman search from the man : "heart" that is the important part for sure..just always honest and not become playboy im sure you will got the partner of life :) Like my self im is ugly..be honest im ugly lol..but i have the girls..and she is really cute and kind for sure..
• United States
12 Mar 11
I would say unless the partner is of equal of me I will not emphasis and or entertain. No point in trying to save someone while in the interim I am struggling also.
• Romania
12 Mar 11
hey there well it really depends on each girl or woman what she is looking for in a guy there are the types who look for the honest,loyal, understanding, patient, caring and loving type of guy and those are usually the ones who look for a serious relationship or long term dating there are the ones who just look at appearances and like cool, popular guys, who are fun to be around but in my opinion those women only look for short term dating