how do you handle things when people try to tell you not to do something?

The best thing is to talk your parents and find out why they are doing it. Of course they should have talked to you and I have no idea if your son said he does not like you or whether your parents said that you are an unfit mother. I think having a counsellor would be a good idea just in case there is a fight. By the way is something wrong with your son that he has to be in a group home?

I would perhaps try and talk to your parents about this issue. And maybe let them know how you feel. If you guys at least try and talk about it, it might help clear the air, and such. It might help the situation. I might be wrong, but if you talk, you get to hear and understand the other people's perspective and reasons.

Luckily i do not have people tellin of to do things i do not want to do. And, if there are people to bother of and tell of things, i would just listen but my decision is still what i will consider

I think that the first thing that you need to do is to talk to your parents and try to find out why they made the decision that they did regarding your son. After that is sorted out, you should also let them know how you feel about the entire situation. I don't know if they did this to spite you or maybe the reason that this is going on is something that is completely a big misunderstanding. I just hope that you can work things out without burning any bridges.

you are really caught in between . I think it is better that you talked it out tell your parents about this and explain your side. It is good too that you talk with your son as well to fix things up. Let them understand what you feel and talk about issues .

How old is your son? He must be under the age of 18 because the grandparents got guardianship papers on him. They usually do that if the parent is unfit or like I said, the Judge asked the child where he wants to go. When I worked in court as a Courtroom Clerk in family court, when the child is at least 9 years old, they will ask the child who they want to live with. Mom or Dad. The child has a choice, if they are competent to know what is right and what is wrong. The Judge will ask preliminary questions to find out if the child is psychologically okay. You can write him a letter, right? And whatever issues there may be on your side, explain to him that you are working on it. And if he has issues, discuss with him what those things are and try to work out a possible solution. Showing him that you love him is the best thing that you can do. Write to him every week if you have to. The children will look for you when the time is right. When they will have their own family and go through all the hardships in life, they will realize how hard it was for you as a parent because now, they have a family it is happening to them too. Until they have a family of their own, they will never realize the sacrifice you did for them. Sometimes, the only thing you can do is to let go. Stop torturing yourself, stop thinking of the past because it brings you nothing but pain. Don't worry too much about the future because this will only stress you out. Worry about the future when you come to it. Think of today, now at this very moment. What is the best thing for you to do? Concentrate on the positive things in life. Don't do negative things, don't think about negative things because it will only bring you done. This is not a legal advice more like a friendly talk. I hope this helps. Go to youtube.com and type in buddist meditation chanting. This will help you relax while you are in bed. Keep on listening to the music and breath in deeply and exhale. Don't think of nothing, concentrate on your breathing. give yourself 30 minutes everyday to relax the stress you have in your life. Don't forget to pray, think positive thoughts. What month, day and year is your son born? If he is the year of the dragon and an aries (like me), you will not be able to control this kind of person and also if he is a saguittarius (half human, half horse) they like to roam the world. They will not stay in one place.

First thing you need to do is to talk with your parents about why they did what they did. A sit down discussion, without being nasty. Then you need to find out exactly what is going on, as it sounds like there might be more going on than you know. It was wrong of them to go behind your back, and you can hold it against them, or try to work with them, so that things go smoothly, and you can communicate together.

What benefit does your son derive from being in the group home? Does he get case management? Is he classified as adult disabled? Will he continue to be able to live in this group situation when he is over the age of 21? Have you talked to Child Protective Services in your area to find out why your parents were made guardian? You may all need a mediator. Honestly, your son had the right to talk to you if he wants to, even if they are his guardians. Please keep us posted about how things turn out.

I think it is sad that your parents would do this to you. Is it possible to find out from them the reason for their action? Did your son ever tell you why he didn't want to live with you? How often do you call him or does he call you? You might need to sit down with a third party (a counselor or lawyer?) and talk with your parents and your son to find out what is really happening. It seems like they are feeding lies to both you and your son and creating a lot of problems. I may be wrong on the way I interpreted your statements, but it doesn't sound good. Good luck with this!

I do take into consideration what someone tells me. then i still have to make my own decisions on what to do with the advice and information. I dont just do something beause someone told me to. I will do something if it is really what i want to do.

So sorry to hear all the conflicts that your parents have inflicted by the lack of communication. I would try and calmly explain to your parents on how you feel and how all of you can resolve this. Not saying anything is going to continue to eat at you and make you feel at a loss. I do wish you well and hope you can all come to a mutual understanding.

in my opinion sounds like they do not want to comunicate with you so take it one day at a time