How to you forgive those who have hurt your feelings?

Once i was terribly hurt by my relatives. It was ten years before. It affected my life and gave much problems to me. to be frank i have no idea of forgive them. but i take no revenge. I never wish them failure or sad. I want them to live happily and peacefully. I will be happy if they get improvement in their life. But I never like to have contacts with them in my whole life. I also had times with my hubby. that was also terrible. I don't know whether I forgive him. But i am sure I forget the problems with me. i think i love soooooooooo much. that is why I am able to forget the problems in between my hubby and me.

I think by talking to them. I heard about this exercise and there were 2 people that I thought that I hated but was thinking about them all these years, it was really difficult cause I couldn't understand why they did things that hurted to me, until I started to say "I love you, I forgive you" to each individually. It's not easy, I would repeat that even without feelings sometimes but I heard that when we don't forgive we are the ones who get hurted. I think after 2 months it was gone. Since then I don't feel any hate, or think much about them. They are just gone from my life, from my mind. I think I forgave. They weren't right but hey, I need to live you know.

Well, it depends on the situation. Sometimes I don't forgive people easily especially when they did something that super hurt my feelings.

I have forgave many people in my life, I have forgave friends and families and even enemies. The reason why I forgave them is because it's a lot easier living with less hatred. It's the right thing to do to reach out your hand and forgive those who have hurt you. This friend of mine deleted me on facebook because he wanted me to pick his side over someone else, I'm not a person of choosing sides especially if the person hadn't done anything wrong to me. Then he gave out my number to telemarketers and other companies that annoy me. When he passed me in the street, the old me would've cursed him out but instead I said "hi, how are you." Right then and there he apologized and told me that he was going through some stuff and took it out the wrong people and I forgave him. We aren't friends anymore but I'm over it.

its very difficult to forgive someone who hurts you heartedly because When Heart Brokes Sound will not come but It will be very painful..So we should think before hurting someone..

Despising someone who hurt you is a common thing. From my experience, I have this hatred on a friend for betraying me. Somehow I felt that the more I hated her each day for what she had done to me the more unhappy I was. It was difficult for me to let go of my hatred until my best friend told me to pray about it. Slowly, I was able to forgive her. The heavy burden in my heart became light. I can say that it's best to forgive someone. I have learned to let go and let God healed me. We must get over it and focus our attention on worthwhile things.

forgiving does not mean you forgot, specially the hurt. in my opinion forgiving means you accept already the fact that you got hurt and you are already facing the fact that you can forgive even hurt. we humans never forgets but we can think to forgive when it is healed already. just like bruises, you know its till there specially when you see the scars but that doesnt mean you forgot how hurting it was. it was healed already so it is easier to forgive. just my opinion.

If someone has said something that has hurt my feelings, I stop and think about what was said and why it hurt my feelings. I ask myself a few questions first. 1. Is there any truth to what was said? If there is, that is probably why it hurt my feelings so badly. The hard fact is that the truth can sometimes hurt. If that is why I feel so hurt, I do forgive rather quickly and try to make a positive change in myself. If there is no truth to what was said, I move on to the next question. 2. What is that person going through in his/her own life that may have caused him/her to say things that hurt my feeling? I am not saying that just because a person is going through something in their onw life that it is okay to hurt someone else's feelings, but sometimes, when people are going through hard times, they say things that they really do not mean at all, and it is more of a reflection of how they are feeling about themselves than it is how they feel about the other person. In this case, if there is something going on, I try to think about how it may have effected them hurting my feelings. Sometimes, there is nothing out of the ordinary going on at all, and if that is the case, I ask another question... 3. Does this person normally say and/or do hurtful things to others, including me? If the answer is no, I try to let it go and forget about the hurtful things they have said or done. If this person does do hurtful things on a regular basis, I generally stop communicating with the person all together. I may be upset or hurt for a while, but once I have stopped communicating with the person and just move on with my life, I do forgive them. I still have nothing to do with them anymore, but I don't dwell on the issue and allow it to continue to bother me. The most important thing that I have learned about forgiving someone is that by holding on to the hurt that was caused, I am only hurting myself more. I am allowing the person to have some control over me and my emotions even after they have moved on. By forgiving them, I am sending the message that I will not hold on to past hurts and allow them to have control over my life. I can and will move forward because I have control over myself. So, to me, forgiving someone is more about regaining control over my own life than anthing else. Let's face it, when someone hurts us, we will not forget that it happened, but we can show that we will not let if rule our lives bylearning from it and moving on from it.

Forgiving will set you free from hatred,grudge and most of all from heart problems. Besides,why not forgive other people,we also commit mistakes. Granting that we did not commit same mistakes like those people who hurt us or did something to us. But the thing is,if other people can forgive us,why can't we. i know it's easy to forgive,but we can...slowly the pain lessens...just do not keep it in your heart and soon it will disappear. The reason why other people find it difficult to forgive because they keep looking back and digging up the past. Let it go and so with the pain and hurt...and you will be at peace.

In order to forgive someone, you have to forgive yourself first. Most of the time that helps. You feel angry about someone because they have done you wrong but the real battle really occurs within you.

Well i am not the kind of person who forgives things easily because i would want them to show me an act of trust that would change me. In fact me and my best friend have been together for a long time and suddenly my best friend finds himself a girl and then he forgets completely about me. I really got hurt badly and this thing i came to know from his girlfriend that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. His girlfriend and me have become kinda good friends only and nothing more and he thinks that i am hitting on his girl. SO that's why he won't talk 2 me! What the hell is that? Cheers!

Forgiving someone who has hurt you is not easy, but letting go of the hurt feelings is something that will make us at peace with ourselves and with others. We have to enjoy life, let us not live with hurt in our hearts and make ourselves miserable but instead have a forgiving heart so we may live a happy life.

Forgiving those who hurt you is the best thing ever because it puts your heart at ease and gives you peace of mind.Nobody is perfect we all can do something to hurt others & it might not be intentional,Forgive others so that you can also be forgiven by God the one's you hurt.Thou it's easy to forgive but very hard to forget especially if someone did hurt you intentionally.

I don't easily forgive someone especially if that person made such impact in my life. I would usually think of the things first, of what happened and ask myself why? I always check my self first. When I know that it is not my fault, and it's his or her fault, it takes me so much time to recover, I forgive that person after such time and if he says sorry, but ofcourse to me our relationship would not be the same because of what happened.

It depends on who and what they did but simply know that I am that on a private level develops numb feelings. I can be amicable but never entrust again. To a sense yes I can forgive but can never be expected to forget. forgetting for me simply means that to a certain level I am open to being hurt again. I do not hold the issue over the person head on a constant level but in the back of my mine I will never forget. See I have been burned many times before and just know that because of my kind nature I have been hurt by the same people more then once time over. So I would rather distance myself from certain people and not take the risk of the pain again. If I have to I will be amicable but they should never expect me to reach out and be the initiator.