Young children having children!

I agree with you somewhat. I have heard a lot of teenage mothers who really try hard to be good moms, but there are a lot of them that should have waited to have children.

Hi Baysmummy, you have a good point, but I also think it depends on the person, and how balanced they are. I agree that 16 yr olds are generally not emotionally matured yet. If she keeps "taking off" it may be possible she has some other problems which only she can chooose to address, and it may well be better for the child to be brought up by someone in your family who is stable. Though call good luck.

I think it is sad to see a child, having a child. It is such a responsiblty being a parent, and quite often the skills are not there to be one, so failure often occurs. And who is the one that suffers the most?

I agree with you to a degree. I have seen 16 and 17yr olds who have more responsibility then some adults I know. I was 19 when i had my son and I took full responsibility for him. His aunt(fathers sister) who was older than me would leave her daughter at her mothers for months at a time and only come oevr to visit and bring clothes so she could go out and have her fun. I thought that was wrong and I told her off. She tried to say i would eventually do the same and I never did. Currently my son does live with my mother and my 3 girls ive with me but that is because we were kicked out of our appartment and were living in a local camp site and we only had 1 car and I couldent get him to school so my mother offered to take him in, I did not just drop him off and not go back. I have constant contact with him and he comes to visit me whenever he wants. He is actually doing better since he has gone to live with my mom than he was with us.

I also feel that its all about how mature you are. Its all about your willingness and ability to grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your child. My cousin is 14 right now and pregnant, so, this is where I say, I agree with you to some extent.

I agree. They know how to prevent against getting pregnant. But yet they still make stupid choices. It makes me very angry.

My mom had me when she was 17 years old and she did her very best. But then again at that age my mom was already married to my dad. They got married when my mom was 15 (her mom signed papers that allowed her to get married at that age). So my mom was not "forced" to get married due to an unplanned pregnancy. And as a matter of fact, my mom completed high school at 15 (she got her GED) because my dad was in the army & they both decided getting her GED was better than bouncing from high school to high school. Not only that but then she had my brother (at 19) and my sister (at 21). Your sister started having kids only a year younger than my mom. BUT my mom started her FAMILY a year younger than your sister. And quite honestly, if your sister was sexually active at 16 (or 15 if you count 9 months of pregnancy). She was well aware that pregnancy was a very real possibilty. If she wasn't ready for children she should have stayed celibate. As for myself I was married at 18 & had two children at 20 (no not twins, they are 10 1/2 months apart). I'm 21 now & although I know I'm not perfect I do take care of my children & take their best interest into consideration when my husband & I make big decisions.

I do't think it is a good thing. I think that as a parent you have to give your childeren all the things they need. Many people say love must be enough but I know that that isn't always true. They need a lot of stuff and a good education to give them a good start for their live.

I agreen and it is a shame that the child is the one who is suffering the most. the unforunate part is there is nothing anybody can do to stop this sort of thing from happening.

i agree but i was 18 when i had my first child and i took full responseablity for him. I guess that it all depends on how miture on is when it comes to being a parent. I think that being 13 to 15 is way to young. My sis had her first when she was 17 and she took very good care of him at that age.

I had a child when i was 16. I thankfully had the help of my parents. I graduated high school and have supported her by myself since i left home. Her father wants to be a dad when he wants to. Yes its a bad idea and i wish i would of waited but not all women who have children young are like your sister.

I know someone that had a child young. She showed up with the baby shortly after I had my first daughter and left her for what was supposed to be a few hours. Turned into two weeks. Just shows up and decides she wants to be a mom again. This baby has been bounced from house to house. She just finally decided she wants to be a mom again, and has settled down, we hope at least. I don't think kids should be having babies. Regardless of what kind of parent they end up being. There are still some things that are going to be lacking in a teen parent.

Some people are bad parents plain and simple. It doesn't neccesarily matter how old they are. Plenty of older parents abandon and/or mistreat their children. It's about maturity level, having the maturity to accept your responsibilities.

Many young parents fall into the steriotypical view of their child being conceived from a drunken one night stand and the parent living on state benefits. I have to admit i had my little one when i was almost 15 but i was mature enough to deal with it. I finished high school and got all the grades i needed to get into the college course i have always wanted to do. My gorgeous boy is 3 now and i'll be 18 next month. I am still with my sons father who is 20 now and currently my fiance =) We have a mortgage - He works full time as a software developer whilst i go to college to study midwifery and watch our little one. My son may not have been planned or ideal but he has made our family stronger. We have supported him and love and cherish him every single day. I have not once relied on anyone to bring up my son except me and my partner. We teach him right from wrong and we are doing as good a job as any older parents. Everyone who meets my son says he is developing at a very fast rate for his age as we spend so much time with him teaching him things and reading with him. He can count to 20 and he has just turned 3! At the end of the day, not all young mums are bad mums.

to have a child at the age of 16!!cant imagine.i am 19 now and i still dont think i am mature enough.bringing up a child is a huge responsibility.the character of the child is influenced by his/her parents.if the parent doesnt have that sense of responsibility then the child gets ruined.all this depends on how mature one is

i think it is dumb

it depends on the mantality of the young person. i had my son real young (17)and i did none of the things your sister did.

young childrens means 22 years old

I think that is not right the girls need to have child when they are 20 or over but not 14 not 16 not 18!!!!

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