how to live under one roof with a dirty person especially a man !?

Oh... i am also the same.. I am a study oriented person, hence you may find books, papers, pencils, pans laying on floor or here and there on my study room. But who are you to entrance in my study room without my permission? my question to my wife would be like this. It never means dirty... i dont think. Take care.

He is probably used to her picking up after him. She had to have known how he was even before they were married. Your friend needs to come out and openly talk about this with her husband. Good luck! If you want a clean male marry a clean one.

Men can be dirty and slubbish but some women are too! So I am surprised you are being sexist here! Maybe more men are then women but not all men are dirty! That goes with people who are clean freaks! It can go both ways!

I used to be a dirty person. Not as in not being able to clean the stink off my body, but as my housekeeping skills were really not up to par. I have since learned a lot about germs and how they creep up in sneaky places, so I'm a lot better about keeping my house clean now. If I lived with a person that had that problem I would be very understanding because I know the thought process that goes into not cleaning up after yourself. I would also probably just clean up after them. I had a friend that was constantly yelling at her husband because he didn't clean up right. If I were in her shoes I couldn't do that, I'd rather have half the mess to clean up after than the whole mess. I'd follow my Granny's lead and tell my man what an incredible turn on it is to see a man cleaning the house. And when he left for the day I would do a quick pick up after him with less work to do because at least he tried.

Hiya Jack, She can try leaving the mess he leaves around him for him to clean up yes but it would be more useful I think to try and talk to him and get him to realize that marriage and living in a House is about more than one Person. Now that we are in such modern times he ought to realize that. Okay some don´t they act like it was about 40 years back in time. Would try talking to him normally and not shouting as that might make him clam up even more than before. No easy way out of this one except to keep talking and working their way through it. If he is understanding he will see that she needs help around the House even if she goes to Work or not.

I am living in a girl's bording house and you can't imagine that girls can also cause such a mess or be that unhygenic or messy. Some girls in the house do not wash their hands or flush the toilet after going to the toilet while some just leave all the dirty dishes in the pantry after cooking. It is really annoying, especially those doing the cleaning duties in the house. We give them punishment for not keeping the house tidy. For example, if the day girls make a messy within their studies, they will not be allowed to get back to their studies for the whole day until they have sorted out the mess. I know your friend cannot punish her husband directly but she can do it indirectly. She can just leave all the chores and ask her husband to sort out his mess, at least picking up those paper lying around before she will do her daily house chores again. This might help but because I have not seen your friend's husband, I can't tell what exactly he will respond to such an act now.

I'm sure most woman can feel the pain. My husband, is actually a little germ-a-phobe, but he's messy as hell sometimes. He insists on leaving his clothes (pants, shirts & socks) right next to his computer, which is in the dinning room. He stacks all his papers all over the place and piles the mail on the dinning room table, which is already small. But after a lot of complaining, and some screaming matches, I at least got him to help (a little). Since he had a complaint against me on why I couldn't keep the house spotless. I pretty much told him because since he lost his job, he's home 24-7! Anyway, yes...a messy (i won't say dirty because dirty can be sexy at points lol) man is a huge turn off. But if men knew how TURNED ON a woman (at least a wife) can get when her man cleans for her....they'd clean all the time. I know I find my husband sexy when he's washing the dishes and mopping the floor!

Hi jacklintan, Everyman has different nature and different appeal. Since i am a man so i dont know if you feel i qualify to respond on this or not but i feel you accept a person as a whole not in parts. So if he is not good at keeping house clean he might be good in 100 other things which can be much more turnon than turn off unless someone is very judgemental on everything.

Hi, Sometimes I do complained my husband for being careless and make dirty on the floor or some places.I just think some men tend to get messy on their own thing and even their bedroom is in mess. I can't stand those dirty and messy stuffs, I like to organized my things well and put them in proper place,so that when I need to find something, it is easily to get. And I like to keep my house clean everyday. That is why I mop my house floor everyday and I always remind my husband not to make dirty the floor or kitchen as I have cleaned them.

I hate dirty persons and especially men. It's very hard to cope with their habits. I hate this because I have to spend a lot of precious time to clean after them. My husband is very careless and I try to change him by putting him to do cleaning to see how hard it is. But the bad thing is he forgets very quickly! I used to be very tidy and I love all thing in their place. Sometimes I feel tired of fighting against dirty...

I want to ask that woman,what have you done before merry him.you should know him, and love him, then merry him.If you can not tolerante that,you should not merry him.

ya i agree ..what is the point...specially a man? why..woman might smell more than a man..

I knew what my husband was like. I can complain a little but to complain a lot would be wrong. I just put the stuff up and move on. If he takes the trash to the alley weekly I'm happy.

I completely agree with you..After a long day of work you come home and all what you need is use your clean bethrom and then...........there is pee everywhere! OMG! It drives me crazy. Or when you just organized the kitchen and 10 minutes after it is all messy. OW no... I still talking to them saying that they have to be more clean or it is not gonna work. It is really hard and if they dont change we cannot take to long. conversation is the best way to make it stop!

If that's all he's not doing, really... count the blessings to a point. I've had the same roommate for the majority of the last 12 years. He's a slob. And when I say slob, I mean that he throws almost all of his garbage on the floor, except food waste. He'll throw things like Qtips in down into the toilet, even though there's a garbage can RIGHT there. Anything he does do, besides cooking, is done half-a$$edly. Since I got sick again, my roommate's had no other choice but to do things around the house, I've barely been out of bad in the last 2 weeks. She needs to talk to her husband. If that doesn't work, do the things herself.. throw all of his things that are lying about into the garbage or out the door, but that will probably cause argument. Really, if it makes her that unhappy the best thing to do is to talk to him about it and if he doesn't change and it's still bothering her THAT much... kick his butt to the curb... along with his dirt and papers!

Thankfully i do not have that problem.However if i had a man like that or even a woman living in the same house as me, then to be honest i would tell them to clean their mess up as well as their self.My husband is a very tidy man and has to tidy up behind the people that all live here at mine.

Hi jacklintan, I can see where in a home where a woman day in and day out scrubs and cleans to later have a significant other untidy the place be oh so stressful. If papers is the only thing then really there is a simple solution to that really. She needs to out right let him know of her unhappiness, but not just say clean up but continue to point out she will not stand for it. It's almost like with children you have to continually train them until one day they get the message. If it is simply way too stressful then the woman has to re-evaluate the situation. Of course this meaning how much love she had for her man. I hope she can have a tidier home soon.

Play dirty to them. Act as what they act. They are not actually dirty physically. In my own opinion they are called or in the stage of pack rat or love to collect the so called treasures of them.

Wow! I have definitely been through that and I can also say that all men are not like that because one of my ex was a neat freak and didn't like how untidy I was lol but on the other hand my kids father is just disgusting I mean to actually be comfortable I actually had to constantly clean. If I wasn't around for a week then came over to spend a week I would clean up first before anything else and I think he dilberatly left the house like that because he knew I would clean when I visited especially for my kids sake but it was always easy to clean because all I had to do was get huge trash bags and walk around and throw EVERYTHING away then wipe everything down and do laundry. When I'm completely done with the house its like a breath of fresh air and you can breath a whole lot better.. He's appreciative but its just nasty how his house is sometimes and it irks me. I don't think you can make someone change their living habits because they are comfortable in that kind of environment.