Is this love?
By nicregi
@nicregi (1934)
Malaysia
March 14, 2011 2:34am CST
I have created a long topic in relationships topic but here is just a simple question.
Broke up with this girl 2 years ago and until today, I still miss and think of her. I have not think of any of my ex except for her. I remember so clearly the things we do and even our happy moments together. I jsut wish to see her smile and I am just that happy. Due to break up, we lost contact for 2 years and yes, just met up with her recently.
Am I really in love with her or what? This is definitely driving me nuts!
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30 responses
@ernest220105 (179)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 11
yes, you have been caught up in the shadow of your days always miss him and I wish there was hope to come back why not try to make their way back, I guess that's better?
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
14 Mar 11
Once I had problem like this. I had break up more than four years. I hated and hated that man. I tried my level best to forget him. i couldn't forget him. Only the treas remained. At last i got married to him. Now i am living happily with two sweet children. you are the doctor to your heart. Nobody will come to help you. if you feel that you can't forget her through away your ego and go to her. don#t waste your golden youth period.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
14 Mar 11
Just having hope. No man. Start with action. now itself. After four year breakup my hubby took telephone to me. I shouted and scolded him for more than one one hour through telephone. he was in germany and i was in sri Lanka. He paid the telephone bill. Start to have contact now itself. Your meeting or contact may be unpleasing or difficult or dangerous. be courage to face anything.
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 11
Definitely. Hope is very important. To be honest, I don't know how much is my chance to get her back. However, like what you said, I must try my best to get her back. I don't care if it is a uphill task but if I don't do it, I know I am going to feel this forever in my heart.
I also don't want to see her walk down the aisle with another man...sorry for being self centered but, I guess I have to fight for what I really want.
Thank you so much!
@isha1111 (18)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Saphrina is right. You have to go with the flow until such time you have fully moved on. You know you have moved on when you realize that the last thing you do is think of her. You can't fight love. It will just hurt you to fight it. All you have to do is just enjoy the time you have in your memories. Be friends with her and just enjoy your friendship. Who knows, you'll realize soon you'd better be friends.
@kramsgir (146)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
two years is a very long time to forget somebody. i think maybe the two of you were very close or have this deep connection since your feelings never fade away. that, definitely what we called LOVE!!!you haven't moved on obviously. you still love her. but here's the question,is she really worth thinking for?,. i mean, do you think she still loves you?.., if not, maybe it's time for you to move on...
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 11
You got a veyr good point. That is exactly what I was thinking. I am not sure of anything. All I know is that, 2 years and can't forget her? Something is wrong with me.
Yes we certainly has our good time but I wonder deep inside, does she still have something in me? Well, even if it is just 1/10,000 of her who has feeling for me and that, for me is enough!
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Mar 11
Question raise by kramsgir is valid but you must try to know her feelings regarding you as well so if you both want to be together once again than go ahead rather than just thinking and smiling.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
14 Mar 11
Hello!!! i think you moved so close to her rather than with others, that's what making the difference, or may be you said you met her recently which made you think all the days you had with her, just think of it again, as it is your life, if she's really worthy then why to miss her?
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
18 Mar 11
IT's not so. Though u are still missing and thinking about her in the last 2 years til now, to the moment u met her again, your current feelings might not be love at all. U are just feeling happy to se her, as she's someone able to fulfil what u wanted, whereby your current gf is not able to give. This is not fair for all 3 of u because i'm sure u will start missing N again when u really patch up with J.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
14 Mar 11
Was she your first love?? Coz first loves are hard to forget. I broke up with my first love like 4 years ago but I still kinda think of him and the things we did. I;m absolutely sure i don't love him but can't seem to get him out of my head. maybe because he's my first love.
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Hello nicregi :)
Your so sweet! :)
I really find you inlove with your X-girlfriend.
That's what I always felt to the boy I loved the
most but things just won't work out fine.
Well dear if you really love her then find a way
to win her heart again ^_____^
You can do it! God Bless!*
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
maybe you love her and maybe you are upto something why you can't forget her... if you still love her from the moment of break up until today, why do you let her go and why did you agreed on a break up situation?
@asrararmar (209)
• India
14 Mar 11
I think you are definitely in love with her the above mentioned things are signs of the love which you proved here so get back and propose her untill it gets too late friend..Good luck to you and your princess...
@msivaprasad565 (1)
•
14 Mar 11
yes it is love. you are saying that you feel happy when you think of her. you also sayingg that i forgot my all ex. that means you are intrested in her, for that reason you are unable to forget her. so, i feel it is love...
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Mar 11
hi nicregi I was just thinking of a close friend who asked one of our other friends how do I tell if I am in love? the other friend told her
"if you have to ask then no you are not" and I did not understand until
I really fell in love. If you have to ask nine times ou t of ten you 'are really not. When you are in love you will really know it as you
want to be with her or he all the time and you want this person in your life forever. anything less is not love just like. Just keep dating and beingwith her and if you do not want to be without her you are falling in love. you really will know it oncey you really are. nobody has to tell you,.
@codysmacks (102)
• India
15 Mar 11
you know what i think.. You should tell her how you feel and find out if she feels the same way. If she does the join back with her.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
15 Mar 11
Well, yes and no.
No, because you never love anyone but yourself. (No, you're not selfish; NO ONE loves anyone but themselves.) You just love 'who you are WITH her' more than 'who you are WITHOUT her.'
Love is like a lightbulb that way; you can 'flip the switch' all you want, but nothing lights-up unless the two crucial elements (bulb and socket) are complete and connected.
So yes, you are 'in love' with her ... that's sort of what 'being in love' means---you like the way the light shines when you two 'flip the switch' together (more than when you 'flip the switch' with anybody else 
)
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@shinmae (19)
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15 Mar 11
you've got yourself in a difficult situation. but here's what i can say to you, you've broke up with her 2 years ago, and I'm sure that she's really in pain that time, maybe it took her a long time to move on and start a new life. So if you are really planning to pursue her now, be sure that you won't hurt her again. because hurting the second time around will surely break her apart. so think first and whatever decision you will have, be a man and face it. Another thought, don't pick the flower if you just want to play with it and throw it away. Hope you will be enlighten! Take care!
