I am frustrated!!! How to overcome this?
By thetigers
@thetigers (108)
Philippines
March 14, 2011 7:54pm CST
Since i gave birth, i resigned at work and be a full time house wife and a full time mother. for two years having no work i still can't overcome. I am bored most of the time. I can't even tell that i am full time mother as the whole day my kid is with her nanny. I don't even reffer myself as a full time house wife as my husband is always working and the helper do the chores. during night time we should have a bonding as a family but we can't because people are coming to our house. Why i am saying people, it is because my husband is serving the people. people are coming to seek for help. and i sometimes get irritated. i hate what i am feeling right now. i am still not comfortable with this for three years since i gave up my career. I used to go out at night before but not anymore, to protect the image. I am pissed off and really don't know what to do everyday. I am sick and tired doing nothing!
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8 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi thetigers,
How about a part-time job, may be not the traditional 3 -5 days, maybe more like 1 - 2 days a week. This will keep you busy somehow and pre-occupied from thinking so much.
Or how about signing up to some sort of community charity, there are many who could certainly use the volunteers.
Either way I guess what I am saying is try to take up something even if it is for one day per week so that you have something to look forward to each week. It really has to hard to not do so much all week.
Best of luck and hope perhaps something will come up withing the realm of ideas I listed above.
@thetigers (108)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
we have this house for the streeet children, and my husband assigned me to visit there at least 1 otwice a week because its 2 hrs drive. but lately i feel like his commanding me to do it just like his worker or staff, it's not like i don't like to help those kids but it's between me an him. What is goin on with me!!??
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Sweetie you are still very young so it is normal to feel this way. You just need a little fun and nothing wrong with that. Remember dear youth does not last for ever so try something for fun and it may amaze you.
@isha1111 (18)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
You feel that way only because you are used to working and when we say working for a living that will mean working hard. You are a mom so even there are helpers around you, it is very impossible that you are doing less. It is just that you are used to do much. It is not easy to give up career or should I say give up earning when it has aleady been in your system and it is not easy to leave home for work either when you know that more than care, your baby needs your time to show her how much you love her. Career is about independence, making money of your own, growth, and self worth. You'll find that at home. Think of online jobs or home business.
@thetigers (108)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
That is what i am doing now i am looking for online work but can't trust those site. i am making time for my son but he's always calling his nannny to play with him and wanted to out the yard to play. And i don't like playing outside the yard, i dunno why.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
17 Mar 11
I totally understand you. When I first gave birth, everybody wanted to come visit and see the baby. I was so upset with it, the house was a mess, I was extremely exhausted from giving birth and the sleepless nights... I just want to tell them can you not come visit for a while and let us settle down first... I was having a hard time to go to bathroom (no.1 and no.2)after I gave birth, knowing there were people in my house made it worst and I couldn't go at all... And I had to pretend friendly and welcoming... that was nightmare.
I'm bored most of the time as well, I do housework, I go out sometimes, I surf on the internet pretty much it is what I do everyday; I don't have families and friends around so it is even worst.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
I know how you feel. I myself is used to go out for work, but when the time came that I got unemployed, I'm really bored and feel like more stressed while staying at home, more so doing nothing. But in your case, even your kid has her/his own nanny, you can spend time with the kid. Let the nanny just be in your side for assistance. And in case of your husband, why don't you try to involve yourself with what his doing? Try to suggest some thing you could share to him, maybe if he feels your concern an interest in what he's doing, he would be glad and on your par, you might love it in due time and will soon your routine just like doing task and activities like working in an office. Simply involve yourself in some activities to keep yourself busy. It's also a career...serving. You never know, you would be more active than how your husband is. Happy mylotting.
@saibal10 (89)
• India
15 Mar 11
Madam, from your letter it apears that you are good lady. yes, there may be a set back leaving your service place due to upliftent of your ladiship, yest I am using the term upliftment. You see being an Indian we place our mother above all and you become a mother of a beautiful child. You are the great creator. Why are you crying for another job when a great job is awaiting for you as a mother. You have a lot of jobs to make your child complete man. And we have a great hope that you have given birth of a holy creature
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Maybe you should start an online business? So you won't need to get out of the house, but you will have something to do and not be bored.. Or maybe you can get another job, one that won't be too time consuming for you so will still have time for the family.
I just hope that you will find a way to make your life less boring, cause nothing is sadder than being bored with your own life, and the feeling of being alone and being trapped inside your home. I do wish you well. 
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
hello thetigers,
Why not start having a business,or maybe if you have any hobby that will keep you occupied then start it now.
I used to be a full time mother and housewife but,during my free time i make my hobby to keep me busy.
I do some paper arts,scrapbooking,cross stitch and crochet.
It's just a hobby,but i started earning money from my crochet and scrapbooking.
Have a great day and enjoy your baby...you will gonna missed it when she grows up
