I love my mother dearly but

There is always the but that comes to mind when it come to dear mom. It is normal to feel this way. What I would suggest out of respect that she is your mother that perhaps next time she asks for you to watch your sister that you point out sure no problem, but I want you to remember that when I ask you it cannot be a no. Reason why I am saying is that I suspect you will never say no to your mother when she needs you. Unless you speak up she is not going to change here ways. So I do not see any problem with you putting forth your request. Best of luck and for the sake of mother and daughter relationship it perhaps is best communication continue in this area.

Hiya Dana, You feel like you are being used and being there just for your Mom. These kind of situations can cause a lot of heartbreak. Can appreciate how you feel too. Without saying anything more than I have been there with that kind of situation and the more I did for them the more they wanted me to do. In the end I had to learn to give up and start saying no. It´s not easy as you want to please but they ride roughshod all over your feelings sometimes.

Do not always give that thoughts,it will give you negative approach to your mother just do what she showed you right and do not follow what you think is not. Just follow what you think is right for your own kids which your mother did not do to you. Let us love our mother no matter what for as long she is not hurting us physically and emotionally to the extent of affecting our being.

No No you are completely wrong my friend..she is not using you it is that she is caring very much for and please dont think like that because no one in the world will care you as your mother does so please i request you dont think negatively...Hope you got this Advice

Well, you are the only one that knows your situation best and if you feel this way about the situation with when it comes to watching each other's loved ones, it seems to be only right that now your an adult to sit down and have a serious talk together about how you feel. It's not right if it's one-sided. But because I'm a mother and a daughter, I know that it can defintely be possible for us to overlook situations, especially due to our busy minds and life so there should always be room to give persons we love the benefit of the doubt and confide in them. Your situations remind me of some situations my family and I have had and in the end communication usually works things out if used with care. However, in the event the serious talk results in the same manner, you can honestly only rely on giving her the same treatment to see how she feels. It may sound immature but I have been the other person and sometimes, we need a little reality to realize how good we had something with a loved one. With love,