love or security?

I would like to respectfully disagree with you when you said that we need to be more practical nowadays. If you fell in love with a foreigner, so be it. But if you are just in a relationship wit a foreigner for security purposes, that's not a good thing. We marry someone because we love them and we can see a bright future with them. If you just want security, then why not find financial security yourself by getting a great job, working hard and preparing for the future. I know it's hard but I tell you when the time comes, you'd be prouder to yourself than you've ever been. Just my thought

I'm not against someone marrying for the wrong reasons.It's a noble job to sacrifice yourself for the sake of money and security for yourself and your family.It's not easy believe me.I've been in the situation and I tried my best...but in the end I'VE DECIDED to marry someone I love. You can earn money as long as you are diligent enough to work.Money can't buy everything especially peace of mind and happiness.

My sis in law, has married a turkish guy... he has mentally bullied her for not being able to give him kids - he knew! Not allwed to do certain things and has ran off twice! And hope he never comes back! She thinkd that she owes him something but he only married her to get visa to live here... Feel he is with someone else and do hope he has to be deported!! Nothing against others btu he is a dog and deserves everythign he gets!

I think security will soon not be ejoyable as we really seek for love all the time. After only security comes the lack of love could get one in an affair or something. Instead of human beings I would say we are love beings, it's like we are born seeking for parents love, then friends, then a wife/husband...

I agree with you because many people just want to date someone within their race and culture and they are so closed minded when they meet people that aren't in their race and I don't think that's right. Love shouldn't be something you fight against even if they aren't what you expected or what you have always dreamed of. I hate people that are so judgmental and they can't take a risk and go out with the person even if they aren't white, black or spanish. They don't realize the numbers of feelings they hurt. Some people start hating themselves because they feel like they're not good enough for somebody.

Well I'm a guy and I believe to marry for love. The race of my wife could be any and I would not care. As long as two people love each other they should be allowed together. Nothing should stop true love, especially not race

I think security is more important than love… tumultuous love of the youth, stays with us for a few years and after that, we need to have a stable partner to have a happy married life. Marriage means a lot of responsibilities towards each others and also our families and then there are kids to consider too… until and unless the partners are matured enough to offer stability, love doesn’t stay too long in the face of responsibility. And someone who’s matured enough to offer stability, will offer love automatically.

As for me, security and love should go together. What is marriage life when you are secured yet no feelings for that person? I mean, love should have a great weight in a relationship. Nowadays, more and more are really into security and they say it is the most practical way. Well, that is their perception in life because it is part of their dream and that it is just their way to escape with poverty.

Experiencing the recent crisis, actually, not only here in the Philippines but almost all over, is now the normal situation. And yes, most people who think that having a relationship with someone who they think they could depend for security reason is being practical when it has to do with security. But how can someone be sure of the stability of something we only see with our eyes? My thoughts on this? I would not commit myself for a lifetime uncertainty just for security. Emotion is a feeling that we have for lifetime, that makes it to be always be considered, but work, money, and even friends can earned while we travelling the years of our lives. So for me, I think, I would priotize my emotion over security. Anyway, people varies in views, and opinions, and this is just mine. Happy mylotting.

Hi Sheeny everyone has an opinion as to why they do what they do and who they choose to be with. I can only speak for me, and I was married to man of my own race and I am Puerto Rican born and raised in the US. My marriage did not work out and very personal about the reasons, just know that my safety and my children's safety was more important. Sometimes we do not pick who we fall in love with, I certainly would not live and or marry a man who I did not love. I can tell you that living with my Caucasian boyfriend now for five years have been the happiest years of my entire life. I would not trade him for anyone else regardless of what anyone would think about our two different races. I certainly would not marry and or live with a man for security either, all I can say is that he has shown me for the first time in my life the true meaning of love and respect and this regardless of our difference in race is priceless and nothing will ever change it or no money in the world will ever replace it.

I cannot imagine myself being married to someone because of money. I got married because i was in love and not for any other reason. However, we cannot blame people who got married for money reasons. The time now is really tough and especially in our country where the economy is not really doing well and the unemployment rate is getting higher and higher, most women would rather choose to marry a man for convenience and comfort. They would say that they can teach themselves to love the man soon anyway.

It is the trend nowadays. They settle with the man who could give them the security in life. As for me, I would say that marriage is a decision, and LOVE is more of a decision rather than on emotions. Because when you are in a relationship a lot of things will be involved and if you don't hold firm to your decision to love you might end up fallen apart. While you can be practical enough to choose security, you should remember that life is not all about being secured. Life is more about LOVE than anything else in this world. And loving encompass and involves a lot of aspects/factors in life! :) So for me, I would choose and decide to LOVE and get married, not out of security reasons or plain emotion. :) God bless you! Have a happy life!

well we have our own choices and I respect yours. Actually, in my own view i don't have criteria whether he is a filipino or an american, poor or rich. as long as I love him and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him then that would be it.

I would definitely go for the 1st word that is LOVE because without love one cannot live his life happily ans security is the secondary one whereas Love is the primary one...

For a long time i thought that i will marry a man only because i love him. But after you have devoted yourself in a relationship for more than 6 years and then broke up with him , i begin to realize that there is nothing like eternal love in this world. Life is short, All of us living in this world is struggling to make a living. So if that man is not so bad, why not marry for security? and by the way, feelings can be cultured once you get along with him after marriage.