Say &quot;You LOVE Me&quot; 27 years ago ...from Japan with LOVE :p

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello asra, I've known him a good friend,and i also don't want to ruin our friendship. I want to think it's just a joke and just laugh at him. I don't want to hurt him either,we've been good friends before and he's a good man as far as i know. Maybe he just assume or maybe he really is just teasing me (no one knows) thanks for your response and have a great day

mylesnarvaez

@mylesnarvaez (5451)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

we have the capability to love at different degrees in different ways. as a friend, if it would mean that much to him, then i would probably say what he wanted to hear. but i wouldn't push too much hope in his direction for any romantic love that wasn't even there in the first place. i would rather say i loved him as a friend... even a special friend... even a close friend that time. goodness that's 27 years ago for you guys... he should get over it and move on. hehe why bring it back now? unless he plans on getting together with you somehow. hehe hmmmmnnnnn hmn hmn hmn -lol-

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love

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

myles dear, I admit that,we are very close to each other during those time. Many among our friends/classmates and students who never knew us personally would think we have a special relationship that time. But,it is because i treat him as a brother. One more thing,he knows who is my crush,i never keep any secrets from him. I really wonder what his motive for asking such question and why he has to tell me that he has come to loved me long time ago. I do not want to think that he is trying to play some naughty tricks (i've known him as a good guy) Until now i don't want to think there is behind,or he has something on his mind. I want our friendship to stay and will remain good friends forever. Have a good day dear,and again....when will the ring bells

Daddy Neil

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Mar 11

hi sis. i think there is really no sense of knowing the 27 year old feelings. but if that really satisfies him, why not. anyway, there is nothing to lose.

so my answer to this is, YESSSSSSSSSSSS!

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Daddy Neil

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Mar 11

Zayzay getting bigger? not so much. imagine how hyper he is? he seems no downtime.

he never stop talking and mimicking the power rangers. lol

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

17 Mar 11

that makes him bigger than the other...he is too loud and active hahaha

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

17 Mar 11

hello neil, Nah,can't afford to tease with him...he might take it seriously

But,let me think...say YES! and then what?...delete him from FB?

How's little zayzay?...growing bigger each day?

mobhomeir

@mobhomeir (7558)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

There you are again mi bonita...if you ask me?I will say big YES.. for that 27 years ago question...then I would ask him/her, Satisfied NOW? Cheers my dear bonita mia... Mobhomeir here..

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello Martin

Thanks to be the first on this topic (love yah) Okay fine...i will admit if it's true. But,NO,i never...actually he knows who is my crush during that time (ugh!) He came home last February,and even called me to met him. I really want to met him in person,but i decided not to,because of his speculation. How i wish he is still single...maybe that would make another story (hahaaha) Missed you my dear...nice to see you again

mylesnarvaez

@mylesnarvaez (5451)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

j, would it be a big deal to meet him after almost 3 decades? i would have liked a few juicy tidbits of that "another story" you didn't make. hehe jk

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@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

@ jaiho, I want to meet this guy maybe we can talk about this 27 years old feelings over dinner

well if you really don't have a feelings what you are afraid of?

, lets meet him I DEMAND

. love yah!

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ckyera

@ckyera (17331)

• Philippines

18 Mar 11

lol! look I've been missing here...hehe anyway, I can really relate with this one, because I also have a friend whom I met again on actually friendster first before facebook. after we met on those social sites, it opens a communication line between us, we chatted and talked about our good days in high school, actually even the bad days...hehe and just like you and your friend, we end up talking about us and our feelings back then. haha its funny because back in high school, we are not actually friends, but we are kinda a "love team" haha I don't know but our classmates always teasing us, whenever they saw us closer they will tease us which we don't really like until one day we just stop talking and act as if we don't exist. haha we acted that way even if we are always partner whenever there's a school activities,like JS, school plays...so on. I know that he has a crush on me back then coz he's vocal about it and his action really shows, and me? well, I have another crush but I find him nice. As we talked, I admit that there's a certain time in our high school years that I got a crush on him, I know the feelings is mutual but both of us gives more importance to our religious affiliation as well. hehe On your part, just tell him the truth, or maybe, if keeps on insisting, just tell him to believe what he wanted to believe.

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ckyera

@ckyera (17331)

• Philippines

18 Mar 11

yeah yeah...those days...hehe actually both of us wonders why we didn't become us when feelings are already obvious back then! maybe we are just not meant to be coz you know even after graduation, we become a bit closer but our communication just loses and when we met again, I am already married! haha and you know what did he said to me? why didn't I wait for him. lol! anyway, maybe your friend just become confused with your treatment on him or maybe he's just hoping that your feelings 27 years ago are also mutual. hehe

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

18 Mar 11

yes you are right there amiga, he is expecting the feeling is mutual way back 27 years ago... i just laughed...it never came to my mind really..he is just a brother to me that time

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

18 Mar 11

hello amiga, Wow...good old days of love and memories hahaha

On your part that would be fine because you both have mutual attraction. In my case i was a bit shocked,thu sometimes we are being teased by classmates, but never ever he admitted any crush or attraction in me. Or maybe he just hold his tongue becoz he knows that i had a crush with someone in higher level that time. Anyway,those were the days,and it's really fun to cherish and recollect all the those happy moments...i really loved it...fancy thoughts (hehehe) with giggles (more hahahaah) you really missed a lot my dear...but i am happy you never forget

shinmae

@shinmae (19)

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15 Mar 11

just be true to yourself. If it is no then it is a bog NO. if you have feelings for him back then say yes but you will make sure that he understands your current situation now. You are both married so there's no need for him to ask you those questions. And clarify that you are answering his question because he is being persistent of your answer. And let it be the end of your discussion. Whatever happened in the past are just lovely memories for us to reminisce on the present... Hope i was able to help you!

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello shinmae, Way back 27 years ago,we are good friends,very close friend like brother and sister. So when he tells me that he loved me during those times,i just laughed at him and tell him he just teasing me like the way he did before. I don't want to ruin our friendship... Well,he never asks me again when i told him,we should remain friends or end our friendship. He promised not to asks same question again...he is a good guy i know,and he kept his promise. I know he just want to express his feelings,maybe he doesn't love me till now,he just want to know what will be my reaction and answer that's why he asks me such question. thanks for your response and welcome to mylot

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

16 Mar 11

hello again, I am sure he understand. I am sure he loves his wife and kids,and won't do things that will ruin his family either. Thanks again and have a good day always

shinmae

@shinmae (19)

•

16 Mar 11

maybe you could just answer him with what you really felt back then and assure him that your friendship will still be the same and nothing changes. hope i was able to help you so don't worry in time you will be able to let him understand what you really want to tell him!!

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Sreekala

@Sreekala (34312)

• India

15 Mar 11

Hello my dear sister,

He took long 27 years to open his ‘love’

. I really don’t understand what to tell now. If am in your position, and I never loved this person, then I won’t change my stand dear. It is not my responsibility to make a married person happy. Do you think he will be happy with your ‘yes’, no dear, his intention is different. (that is what I felt). You can handle it wisely, I am sure.

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strange love

kalav56

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

15 Mar 11

His intention is to satisfy his own ego Shree!

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello dear sis

, When he tells me that,i just laughed and took it as a joke. But i am not sure if he really mean it,or was it just a joke. He just came home here in our country last February and called me few times asking to met him in person,but i never met him. Now he is back again in Japan and we still communicate in Facebook,but i am not active much in FB. I don't want to ruin our friendship,i want to think he is just teasing me like we were before. We are very close to each other,like brother/sister and i want that to remain between us. He never asked me again about it (love)nor we never talked about it,we're back with the usual friendly/brotherly talking. thanks for your response here dear sis and have a great day always

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shibham

@shibham (16977)

• India

15 Mar 11

Hi didi.. I think he was an introvert guy at that stage and really loved you but did not expose. So, here the story begins after 27 years... and he exposed the hidden truth of his life... Now you cant be together according to situation but as he has disclosed the truth.... the decision is upon you. If i were there.... i truly say yes.. similar case happened in my life. Anyway... new high heel is sent... you may give a look. Take care.

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello dear bhai, He is a good friend,one of my strongest competent in our class,that made us closer during our highschool days. But,i never thought he really feels that way. We were too young that time,and we only had 2 short years together because i transferred to another school somehow lost contact. Let me check the new shoes anywa

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

@sids, your mamu falls in love when he is 5 or 6 years old

theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

15 Mar 11

mamu what is this? You are 32 or 33 years old and someone had fallen love with you 27 years back?

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27 year old love

LetranKnight25

@LetranKnight25 (33121)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

Hello there sis Jaiho

, I think it's not easy when a man says something like that, though i know some how probably he's thinking that it's too late and simply wants to say such

. Love as i have said before is complicated because the heart isn't as straight for every one. maybe you shouldn't have treated him special 27 years ago so that he wouldn't have assumed otherwise. but am sure he's grateful to it. No, i wouldn't asked that kind of question because NO women had ever treated me special, i wouldn't want to because like that friend of yours, i don't want to assume........ Have a nice day.

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love long gone

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

But when a man confess or propose over internet it's something well in my opinion

No one treated you special

come on you are a knight okay from now on we will treat you in a very special way hey to get mad at me okies i am just making fun out of this

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello LK, Oh,my little big brother is talking about love (hmnnn....)hehehe When he tells me that he loves me 27 years ago,i just laughed and say "ows,joke" But he seems formal/serious or whatever. And he also say's "that's why i don't have the guts to tell you about my feelings before because you might think i am just kidding/joking or teasing you,but then again,you still said the same words " (whew!) But still i don't want to ruin our friendship,he is a good guy and a good friend. I just hope,he can get over with it so we can remain good buddy way back 27 years ago. Are you sure no woman ever treated you special or you don't just want to think of someone?

c'mon little big brother...you are now a man..not a little kiddo okay?

starsailover

@starsailover (7829)

• Mexico

15 Mar 11

Hi jaiho: If I were you, I think I'd say Yes and then I'd make a joke like "but I was a little bit silly at this time" lol. I think you can say yes even if you know it wasn't like that just to make your friend feel better but I hope he stop talking about this subject. I think is uncomfortable when a friend fall in love with you, specially when you both are married

. ALVARO

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello Alvaro, Yes,it's not comfortable when a friend falls in love with you. And that is what i feel the moment he confessed about his feelings. Moreover i do not want to ruin our friendship either. He is a good man,and i've considered him as best buddy and brother. I want our friendship to remain,i hope he will realize the value of our friendship and just forget his feelings. Thanks for your response and have a great day always

theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

15 Mar 11

Hi jaiho

No, I would not say I love(d) you if I did not. Things can get messy and embarrassing if I lied anytime on such a sensitive subject. And even if I had loved, today that we both are married and happily settled, I see no point in saying yes as again it might go the wrong way... 27 years is a real long time. For the crush thing, if I had, I would say yes

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello dear bhai, When he first told me about it,i just laughed and say "you're kidding again". He said "NO",this time it's real. Okay,it's real...but i don't want to take it seriously. I just told him that ,"let's be friends and remain that way". I don't want to ruin our friendship,he is one of my good friends for a very long time. I just don't understand why he needs to tell me about his feelings way back 27 years ago. Even with the crush thing,he was never my crush and he even knows who is my crush during that time (hehehe) Hmnn...do you still have crushes till now my dear

theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

15 Mar 11

"bhai"

to didi I still keep falling in love with so many people and things... infatuation, crush and what not... but nothing as compared to my love for my dearest and only wife... and she many a times feels jealous

... doesnt believe yet on my love for her...

penrockerchic

@penrockerchic (1903)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

Woah! That guy had some guts but unfortunately, it was 27 years late. Anyway, I find it kind of romantic in so many ways and that's just about it. If I were in your situation, I might not have said YES especially if I really didn't feel anything for him back at that time. That is quite an interesting situation you got there.

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hello pen, It's quite interesting but somehow serious thing. I do not want our relationship to be ruined,so i just laughed at him and say "you're joking". I want to think that,maybe he really has special feelings in me way back 27 years ago,but i considered him as a good friend/buddy and a brother. And i don't want to spoil any good memories that we've shared. thanks for your response and have a good day always

Toni

@toniganzon (72517)

• Philippines

16 Mar 11

How can I admit to something that I didn't do at all. I think it would be unfair to deceive someone by admitting just to make him happy. And besides, what's the point? Both of you are married now and whatever he felt for you in the past won't matter any ore unless he's trying to start out something with you. I think it's better to tell him that you appreciate his honesty in telling you that he was in love with you, but you didn't have anything for him then.

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

16 Mar 11

hello toni, I just want to think he is just kidding or teasing me. I never asks too much about it,i don't want him to think that i am interested to know what was his real feelings towards me 27 years ago. I want our friendship to last,and i don't want to ruin it just because of what he confessed. I just laughed at him and say..."forget it...we're just good buddies nothing more" Thanks for your response and have a great day

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

hi jaiho, You are really lovable

, well if i am in that kind of situation i will not say YES just to satisfy his doubt besides you said you really don't have a feelings for him, if you say YES what will happen?you will not satisfy his doubt or feelings but his EGO of course he confessed his feelings and assume that you feel something also so he is looking for a positive answer from you. It's just like this if your ex boyfriend or ex husband ask you if you still love him and you said NO then he will keep on insisting that he feels that you still love him what are you going to do? Besides there is no use of saying YES it's been 27 years if he still have this kind of feelings for you it will be useless if you are both committed or one of you are into a relationship. love you

happy mylotting

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@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

bhaby, He texted me February 13,asking me to meet him if i am free. Good thing i don't have much hard time saying NO,I CAN'T ,because me and kids were in Baguio that time. He called on the 14th of February greeting valentines and asking when will i came back in Metro,and again asks me to met him on my free time. I told him,i will send him message when i am free. I never texted him and then he called me again,saying he only had a week to stay hoping we could met before he goes back to Japan. I told him,i want to met him..but i am too busy (i don't want to met him after what he told me) I don't want to ruin our friendship...so it's better to avoid before worst thing happen. love yah

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

aw,he is very much alive and you can see him in my facebook. i will show his pic when we got the chance hahaha

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

15 Mar 11

Oh is that so?or you just afraid you might fall in love with him and say YES

well maybe he is still alive after what happened in Japan so you can meet him next time

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kalav56

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

15 Mar 11

Jaiho1 If I were you I would tell him pointblank that he is imagining things and I cherished no such fanciful ideas ever. If he would like to delude himself like that he is free to do so .But I would also silently stop communicating with him for noother reason except for irritation at his pigheadedness.

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