G R U D G E S .... make you disturbed.....

I don't want to keep grudges to myself. For me it disturbs me a lot thinking that i have an unresolved issue with somebody. I can't sleep well at night having that. If i have a grudge, i would let the person involve know about it. That way, she/he will know how we could peacefully settle it.

For many years I have felt that the only person who was hurt by a grudge was the person who carried it. I felt this way because of the examples I saw in my mother's family.

Back when I was still at school, I often held grudges against people who have wronged me in so many ways. I even got to a point where I cursed them and hated them so much. Anyway, the time came when I realized that holding grudges against someone is unhealthy. It easily makes you day a bad one. It sets down the mood for your day. I told myself, if I would let them get to me, I might not be able to move on with my life. So with the help of some few good friends who I treasure the most, I began diverting all the energy I used when holding grudges to something more positive like self-improvement and developing new skills. That's it.

I often believe that I hold grudges but then I think a bit clearly. It takes a great deal to get me angry. I am not one to get angry easily so the offense has to be severely harsh in order to get me going. At some point I loose total feeling. I do not hate, dislike or care. So not sure if that means I am holding a grudge because I really just do not have any feelings one way or another, as if I was numb. If I must I am amicable, will greet if the circumstance calls for it. Basically the way I see it is although the person is not worthy of my kindness, I still on the other hand am a very respectful person.

Life is short live it. Why to make all these grudges and show anger on our well wishers..even if they are not our ppl we must respect others and accept their opinions.

When I was younger I was bad with holding grudges and I would stay upset with people for year but the older I got I realized life goes on and while I'm still mad at the situation and holding a grudge the person my grudge is against has completely moved on about the situation and are happy in life while I'm still dwelling making myself miserable. I also felt bad when people held grudges against me and I think that it was about time for them to forgive me and let the matter go. It made me realize that I be the same way and I should really break that bad ugly habit. It sure does make you disturbed and the person you had grudge with might have a certain feeling about it that has them disturbed too. You can breathe easier when you let things in life go.

live in peace hearts and do not hold a grudge. Is not God teaches us to forgive, and not the heart to forgive is to give relief. To Catholics, if he has a grudge in his heart then he is not worthy to receive Christ.