Had an indefinite breakup.. Bad times for me, friends..

Hello Princelierocks, Yeah, you are right, the more i think why she did that the more i am going to get hurt. One day however she will realize how much i loved her. I have no time to think about her or if anyone else has come into her life. I will make my self stronger, pray to God and things will work out well for me. I am definitely going to get someone better, maybe someone else who would love me as i am, and i have no idea if my girlfriend will return to me. I guess my mind would be made up by the time she wants me back, but for the things we have been through together for over 2 years i know i am going to listen to whatever she has to say then, but the rest depends upon i react to it, of which i am totally uncertain. Anyways, thank you so much for the response, Princelie. I appreciate it. God perhaps does have some plans for me. :)

Hi Vandana Yes, you are so right, she is so stupid. I really loved her so much and now i don't want to miss her anymore. I do believe someday she is going to come back to her senses but i am not sure if i would accepting her back into my life. Indeed i am going to listen to everything she has to say about the break up but she will have to try hard this time if she wants me back. Lets see what the future holds for both of us. I am willing to forgive her but i can not forget what she did with me. You know, i have really been wondering the number of times we used to talk about our future, about marriage and all.. Was she really serious ?? I don't know.. But if she wants me back she is going to work a lot harder for it this time.. God knows i really loved her... Thanks for dropping by, Vandana..

Hello sid556, Yes, it is true, i have been through a lot since sunday. That is the day she said she can't be with me anymore. I am really thankful to all my friends who helped me through this. I don't know how would i have done it without them ! :( Thank you, sid. I don't know if she would be coming back to me, but i really have no time to think about that because that thing is only going to eat me more. I only have one thing to say, if she really loves me she would be coming back to me. I am going to be open to her, i only have to make myself stronger. I know God is always listening to me, and i am sure He has got plans for me ! Thanks, sid.

Hehe.. :) in a way yes you can say that lucky, i have to be thankful to her for making me stronger and letting me face such things in life. This incident has got me closer to God, if not much, just a little bit closer. I know someday my true love will come back to me, and if my girlfriend truly loved me she would be coming back to my arms. Till then i have many other important things to do and secure a nice job and become a secure man. Even if she doesn't come back to me, i am not going to get hurt because i am slowly starting to get over her and i know i will definitely meet a person who is going to love me as much i would love her.

Hello lucky ! So nice to see you after a long time ! Yes, you are right, i gave her everything i had and that was probably my mistake. I am letting my doors open for others, but i am not sure it would be open for her again. She has to explain me the reasons and i deserve to know why she did that to me ! I let aside all the bad things about her and loved her as much as i could, and she gives me this.. Now i really need to think about the person who deserves me ! I have self respect, i never realized this... Until my friends talked me through this. I am so grateful to have such great friends and they really made me feel so good about myself. I hope God helps my girlfriend realize what mistakes she has done in her life, and i hope she is happy with whatever she has got in her head there. I am only feeling pity for her now after all that anger and sorrow.

ofcourse you regret and miss those two years togerher. you're sad because you were not able to patch things up and all your effort has gone with the wind...but sooner...when you meet the true love of your life, you will thank those girlfriends you had relationship with for the experience they shared with you inorder to be a better man and finally find your other half for now on your younger years, enjoy and build something you can always be proud of don't feel grudges about your pasts but feel good about them because they already happened and this gives you another opportunity for a brighter future

Hello jenny So nice to see you here. I just don't know what to reply, but reading posts to this discussion of mine in itself is going to make me feel much better..! Yes, maybe she needs time, and yeah i need time for myself too! Thank you so much for coming here, see you again and again and again an.....

Voldrox, whatever you do, aim for the best you can do. Don't think of who your success will be for, just work it as best you can, then you will not regret it in future. You are young and you have time to reach all. You know that I love you, so you can't shake me off easily.

Thank you so much, jenny. Yes, i need a little more time. I am sure i am getting stronger each day, trying not to think about her. I sometimes get angry at the way she acted, so careless about my feelings. I get angry to feel better, but hell, i loved her and that would stop me from cursing her for what she did ! I hope God gives her the strength to handle herself too. She might go away from me, but i hope whatever she does, she would be happy with it. I love you too !

Hello macayadann, I agree, stability and security are very important for staying together in life. I just hope she realizes what she is doing and i want her to do her studies well too, i know it is me who has to work harder but i also wish she does good for herself. God knows how much pain she is in after acting like that but i have a feeling she isn't hurt as much as i am. I going to have to make myself stronger and better and if the future holds anything for both of us i guess i will see that coming at the right time. Thank you for responding to my discussion, macayadann. :)

do not focus yourself on her for you may not be destined together and so you will be wasting time.Have your experience help you stand and be brave to keep on going.

Hello Hatley, I don't know if she playing around with other guys now, i can guess that, but i don't want to find that out as it is only going to give me more pain for all the love i gave her. She meant a lot to me and i was really looking forward for a long time relationship with her, we even talked about how we would be spending our weekends in home and all that, eh i can't afford to think of the things we spoke about, our dreams our fantasies. Now it's slowly vanishing and i am beginning to change my mind slowly. I am not sure if she would one day come back to her senses and come running back to me with all her excuses and apologies, well i am going to listen to her but i don't know how i am going to react to that. As for now, my heart is still open to her coz it is going to take me some time to forget her, to forget all the sweet memories we shared. Anyways i don't want to think about our good times together. I have to make myself stronger, pray to God and believe that He has got good plans for me.

Hello Piya. Thanks for responding. Yes, everything heals with time as they say...

Hi bamrahkirti, Awe, that is such a nice story. I want my life to go that way. I don't know if she would be coming back to me, but my friends told me to let go of her, if she loves me truly she will be back to me. I am so grateful for having such great friends around. I really have to work for myself, and i am sure i find my true love one day. All i know is that i loved this girl very much and i don't know what is going to happen next but i should give time for myself to think about her anymore. She will come back to me if she loves me very much and if she doesn't, someone who really loves me for what i am is going to come my way. Thank you, bamrahkirti.

I wish you best of luck for your future endeavors. I truly wish that a person like you who is so full of life and positive energy get a partner who loves him for what he is.

Hi sids, Thank you for the inspiring words. You know, i have give all my credits to my great friends who helped me get strong ! I was broke and crying when she said she can not be with me, i could not think of anything else and was lying on bed thinking how could this have happened. Apparently, she has somehow found something else she is able to shower her emotions over. But anyways, if that is the case, if she really has found someone else i would most likely feel proud of the person i am, of the heart i have for loving someone. I have been true to her all the times, i really loved her so much. But now i think she doesn't deserve me. This is so complicated ! She never told me she was losing her feelings for someone else, or this was because i had ruined my studies. Either ways.. I don't have to think about her anymore. I have to accomplish my real goals and later if she sees this coming from me, maybe she would start talking of what really happened. The sad thing is that, by that time i don't know how i would react to her if she would want to come back to me, because she has hurt me so much! And she gave no reasons ! That is so unfair.. Future holds it's own suspense and i want to face that later. Thank you for nice words, sids.

Thank you, sids ! Well, i never knew i could actually face this thing, i honestly was very insecure about our relationship and feared very much about losing her but i have to give the credits to all my friends for making me stronger. All of you too. I hope i can help others in my situation, and i hope to take part in discussions where i can be of any help. :) Friends are the most important ones following your family. I don't know how i could have done it without my friends. Yes, i am sure i am going to find that person who is going to love me for the person i am and love me as much as i am going to love her. And for that my friend, i will have to concentrate on my studies. hehe.. See you around, sids.

I understand exactly what you are feeling about - both as of now and for the future when you may react a bit differently if she returns back. I feel that such incidents either have a deep negative impact or a great positive impact on the one who feels the heat and I see you taking it positively. This of course is something to be really proud of and I am proud to have a friend who realizes and moves by practicalities... A tough thing to do for many. And yes, when the time would come, I think you would have either found a better person in life or if not, she will be the one you would need... Or you can just have a laugh on this small issue which seems so large today... Once again, all the best for your future and yes, you will me one of my icons for sure

Hello junrapmian, Thank you so much. :) Yes, i should be doing my stuff and i should not let my mind wander. If she returns i will see what she has to explain and if she doesn't it simply implies she really never wanted me. But the next time she comes back to me i will have to be stronger and she had better be good with her explaination and she will have to try hard this time to convince me that she is really into me otherwise things aren't going to work out between us and i will have to make space for someone else in my heart. Someone who really deserves me and who is going to love me as much as i am going to. So it's best to leave things to her. She has done this and if she wants me back she will have to be good at it, for convincing me too. I know i am not going to fall for her easily, again.

Thank you so much for the motivating post, chuyins. Yes, and all the credits goes to my wonderful friends who have been with me through this. All the credits for making me think otherwise and making me seek God's help. I know God is always there, we just ain't listening or seeking him. It's mostly in times of need that we remember God, but now i am going to thank Him for the smallest of blessing..! I love this song from Jeremy Camp - "letting go".. Listen to it when you can, it's such a nice song and suits to my situation.

I will not stop praying for her. I hope God helps her through it too. God help her, whatever she does.

Yes, sometimes we are in a situation where we are compelled to go back to God, cry unto Him and seek Him. God will always be amazing for us. Continue to seek Him my friend, you will not regret a life lived with Christ! God bless you!

Hello scentcastle, Welcome to mylot. :) Yes, i still love her and from my side i haven't completely let go of the feelings i had for her, not so soon. When i said i love her, i meant it and if she isn't coming back to me then that is going to prove she really wasn't into me and i am not going to get disappointed with that, as i think i am slowly letting go of the thing i had for her. All i know is that if she wants me back she will have to try harder to convince me this time but yeah i am going to give her the chance i think she deserves because i loved her very much and despite what she did to me i can forgive her but it's not going to be easy for me or her. What she did was uncalled for but love can forgive, right ? I don't know what is going to happen but all i can say is that i am going to single for a long time now and it really hurts to be in a relationship. I know i am going to find the perfect one for me later, once i completely let go of this girl. Yes, completely right i am going to pursue my dreams and move on with the things which are much more important to me. Thank you so much for responding to my discussion. Keep posting.

Hello youichi, It was really hard me to handle. I am so thankful to God for giving me such great friends! They helped me through it, and although i am not completely out of it from last sunday, i am sure i am going to get much stronger and i am finally going to find my soulmate in the future, and i should not be worrying about that for now. I just need to concentrate on myself and i am going to find that girl who really deserves me. Thank you so much, youichi.

Hello Sreekala, Lol, i have been dealing a great these fast few weeks. Yes, I wasn't actually busy with my studies. This girl gave me such bad heartaches. Sounds so light when i say "heartaches". But believe me, it was really painful for me when she started talking less to me and would not tell me the reason. I talked to another friend of mine, a more mature girl, and she said it is most likely my studies and a couple of other things that finally made her gave way saying she can't be with me anymore. How unreasonable can one get ? From that time onwards all my friends suggested me not to think about her and to study well and try to qualify IIM so that i can become a big man someday. After she sees me improving she might come back to me, that is if she really loved me that much, and after all this happened i really don't know how much she loved me, even though she said she loved me very much. Anyways, i should not be thing about her and concentrate on myself and come close to God. Thanks for posting, Sreekala. So nice to see you here.

Hello, jaiho. I have to say God has plans for me! Things on one hand are going good, even though my heart can't rest so soon. I need some more time and i am sure i can get over it. I am so thankful to God for have given me such wonderful friends who helped me so much..! I have to wait and see if were really meant to be together, God knows. But of all things, i can't dare think much about her, it is only going to pour salt on my wounds. I have to spend more time with my friends. I have all of you too, such wonderful people. Thanks for posting, jaiho. Happy posting! :)

So nice to see you here, hardworkinggurl. It is such a bad time for me hardworkinggurl, i am so grateful to have such great friends who supported me through this, i am so lucky to have such great friends. . I would like to thank all of you too ! You all have been so nice to me, and i am never going to leave this place. Wish i replied earlier but you know i need sometime of my own, with my friends too. Yes, i really need to keep busy at this time and if she really loves me so much she will be coming back. I suspect she has got some other good "friend" of hers who listens to everything she says, she claims she even told him about us, and from that time she hasn't been paying me the attention i deserved to. I don't know what is going on and i also have her facebook password and i am never going to use that check out, coz it is only going to hurt me much. I hope she sees that couple teddy i gave her on hug day during the valentine week. Two teddies hugging each other, i told it was both of us. How sad... You know i really loved this girl, and always thought about the future with her. How unfortunate this happened with me, and she somehow seems to control her feelings, or maybe started to stay with this friend of hers, i don't know.. You know the best thing that keeps me running now.. It's the feeling i had been true to myself and true to her, i have always been loyal to her, and i am proud of what i am.... I can say i have a big heart and that i can forgive her if she realizes what i gave her.. The only thing is that i don't know is if she turns back to me someday realizing what she has done, i don't know how i will react, i don't know if my mind would have changed. I don't know if that would happen to the best or the worst. I would only pray she finds herself, knows what she wants and be happy with herself! God help her.. I won't stop praying for her.. :( See you around, hardworkinggurl.

Hello annapplez, If anything i am sure of, i know i love her very much.. I am going to have to change myself, i mean improve.. I have been too giving in our relationship and that really scared her, because i didn't think much about our future or for myself. Now is the best time to show i am capable of standing on my feet and making our future secure, and that i can do well on my own if anytime she needs to depend upon me. Thanks for sharing your comment, annapplez. Yeah, there is a chance of a reunion, unless she has completely made up her mind.. But, still i have to fight for myself, and i have to win her back.