Being a Mother...how difficult is that?

March 16, 2011 3:42am CST
I thought I'd be the best mother in the world! When i was a young girl i adore children, growing up i developed a nurturing instinct that i thought was enough to be a nutturing mom but now i have kids of my own and in every turn i fight with my teenagers. I often ask myself what am i doing wrong. Being a mother is suppose to be simple. My children are my life but why can't i get through to them. Are you a mother like me? Can you tell me how difficult is that?
6 responses
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
When you are a mother, all the burdens are there. You need to give a lot more patients in growing up children. You need to strive hard and treat them in the best manner possible.
16 Mar 11
thank you so much for your response. it means a lot to know someone understand my predicament. ^^
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I guess being a mom is the most noble work in this world.It's hard to be one because you sometimes have to sacrifice your own time, happiness, career and even a night out with friends.I guess being a mom is sacrificing some of the things you want not because you wanted it but you have to do it....Children nowadays needs love, hugs, attention and appreciation from mothers.Me, I stopped working when my daughter is 3 yrs old.At first, I was hesitant but now that my daughter is a 6th grader I can tell that I've made the right decision...My daughter is so smart, consistent honor, very loving,we have this kind of connection I'll miss if she'll be on her own someday.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
17 Mar 11
I think when the kids become teenagers, it is the most difficult time to deal with them. I often think about it, I don't want our baby to be a punk teen in the future... and at the same time, I don't want to fight with our kids or let them feel they are being forced to do something... I think being a parent especially mother is not easy, we need to take care of the kids and we have to take care of ourselves good first and have a controled temper.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 11
Hi, I am totally agreed that it is not easy to be a mother. I am a mother of one little boy, I spent most of my time for my son,I sacrifice myself for him. Actually I intend to go out and find a job,because of him, I have to put it on hold and probably have to wait for few more years,then only I will have chance to work again. Of course, having a good relationship with our kids are pretty important and as a parents, we have to spent more time with them since they are young. Bring them out for a walk once a week and play some games with them at night. Read them a storybooks before going to bed. Try to control your emotion not to fight with your kids, have a good chat with them and solve the main problem. There is no point to fight against each other,the family won't live in harmony. You can always consider to have a family getaway,that will be a good chance to know your kids better and understand each other better.
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi jade, Being a parent for me has to be the toughest job in the world. Children do not come with manuals so it is a learning process the entire way. It take a great deal of quality, love, persistence and discipline to handle their upbringing. I have been very successful with the two thus far and attribute it to my hard efforts and prayers.
@thetigers (108)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
When I was pregnant, i thought twas the hardest times. But i was wrong now that i have a son i finally realised that the hardest among the hardest is being a Mother. And now i am able to admire my own Mother on the ways how she raised us up.