How do you get a word in?
By DanaS2011
@DanaS2011 (351)
United States
March 16, 2011 12:07pm CST
Everytime I have a dispute with a certain person who shall remain nameless. They never let me get a word out or my point of view across. Even when I do get a word in the make faces that say yeah yeah you're just talking or what you have to say doesn't matter anyways and that throws me off track of what I'm trying to say. Earlier they went to the extreme to make an annoying noise as I spoke. I told them they were acting kiddie and exploded saying oh now I'm so a kid I'm 23 and I'm a kid when I didn't say they were a kid I said they were acting like a child at the moment. Everytime I'm in the middle of a sentence he has no problem cutting me and talking over me even if it's about something comletely different from what I'm speaking on or he walks off after he spoke and I try to get a word out. If I'm trying to complete a sentence he completes it for me because he thinks he knows what I'm going to say even though he's always incorrect. This is starting to become a pet pev for me and I don't know how to handle the situation. Sometimes I sit back and don't reply then he gets upset because I have nothing to say other times I just nod my head in agreement so there will be no disagreements. No matter how I handle it though I can't win for losing. What would you do if someone continued to do this too you and you have expressed this to them and told them you think you deserve a chance to speak?
5 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Mar 11
I have had my fair share of people like this and at first I use to approach it with speaking louder and found it boiling my tension level.
So I have been now approaching by simply when they start to speak, I simply say, excuse me but if I am not going to be allowed to speak I will not stand here and listen.
Anytime they say they will listen and actually rudely interrupt the conversation is definitely over.
@DanaS2011 (351)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Thats what I will do next time because I always feel like just walking away.
@jessa311 (15)
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26 Mar 11
cant win for losing, I know that feeling! But it sounds to me like respect is whats needed. If he doesnt respect you enough to hear what you have to say then I believe your wasting your time. In any relationship (family, friend, or significant other) respect is a must from both parties.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
If what I'm saying is really important I stress out something like "Hey listen... and then talk while looking straight to their eyes. This works all the time. You should try it.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
You will never win over an arrogant person. he thinks that whatever you have to say is rubbish.
So why waste your time explaining to someone who never hears your out? Just save your words and keep it to yourself if that's always the case.
If i were you, i would never ever speak to him again. I will give him a cold war until he feels the pressure!
@Psychedelic (22)
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26 Mar 11
Hate that!
Gentle tone: "How can you continue talking when you don't even know the other side of the argument"
"I don't like non-productive arguments and if you're going to argue with me you ought to change your ways"
"Are you going to keep cutting me?"
If it continues
- make them see your side of your side, in a gentle tone
If they continue and raise their voice and you run out of patience and end up doing the same
- cut them off as well and let them see how you feel
.... but it depends on who the person is and whether that person is a family member who has a higher position... I am aware that in some cultures beating is a norm.
