what to do
@deevinenature (6)
United States
March 16, 2011 3:28pm CST
Ok. So.. I'm starting to think being in a relationship is puting a damper on my free spirit. Being asked where I'm going , having a tag-along all the time will suck you dry. Now people will say just go on your way right, right. One problem tho. I love him. What to do?
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Mar 11
Hi deevinenature and a warm welcome to myLot!
You say you are in love and being in a love relationship should not mean you be sucked dry. I am also in a loving relationship and both us understand that we are individual, we expect the same from one another and do not try to be too clingy.
You should talk to him and let him know your feelings if he too loves you, you may find that he too feels the same if not then you need to decide if this is what you want and or willing to accept.
Best of luck.
@Shazooo (296)
• Malaysia
19 Jun 12
Well, you should tell your partner how you feel about always being asked where your going. Sometimes, they ask that because they don't fully trust you or they feel that they are not good enough for you and that you may go for someone else. I used to do that, ask my partner where he's going, asking him to always be next to me, eventually, he got so frustrated cause he never talked to me about it. So you should definitely talk to your partner about it! :)
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
16 Mar 11
If you truly love him, you wouldn't feel like he was holding you back!!! Or maybe he just doesn't love you as much as you love him!!! I felt much like you when I was in a "relationship". However, once I was truly in love, I no longer wanted to be a free spirit. Yet I found him giving me plenty of room to be myself!!!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
23 Mar 11
Oh please don't break up or anything, to get distance from real love is crazy. Talk to him, he seems to be a very romantic nice guy, talk how you need your space. There are things that he will want that you maybe will have to do some efforts to do or something and he too! He needs to understand, with good talk you both will find the right balance between being together and being individual.