What A Gift From A Near And Dear One , Means To You? Can You Part With It?
By AKRao24
@AKRao24 (27424)
India
March 17, 2011 12:59am CST
I am very emotional and sentimental! For me a gift from some one who is near and dear to me means a lot! I see the love, affection and sincerity in it! How small may the gift be then, it becomes a priceless thing from me! I won't let it be taken by others! I often see people gifting away the gifts which they are getting ! For me it is next to impossible to do so!
I some times get irritated if some thing happens to the gift! My son got me small statue of 'Lord Ganesha' When he was a Kid when he went to visit India Expo Exhibition! It was a Cute little statue and immediately liked it and I kept t on the TV. One day it got fallen down and broken by accident , believe me my mood got spoiled like anything! I sat down and glues the pieces together o put it back to original shape! For me that is symbol of my son's love towards me!
How about you? How serious are you about the gifts those you received from your near and dear? Can you gift it some one else? Please respond ! Thanks !
8 responses
@chocolatechilli (246)
• South Africa
17 Mar 11
I even have birthday cards that are 20 years old. Obviously if it's something consumable like chocolate or bath oil, I would use it, but I still have a few nearly empty perfume bottles from various Christmases from my brother. You honor the person who gave you something by keeping it. I would have probably done the same with the statue. By the way, I love your animated horse avatar, it is so beautiful and graceful.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi Dear Chocolate Chilli! Wow that is great! You have 20 year old Birthday cards! I too recall having several greeting cards and birth day cards lying in our Cup board! How can these precious things can be destroyed or discarded after all! Yes consumables are meant to be used and there is a satisfaction using them ! You are doing a great thing by storing the empty containers as a memento, which I appreciate a lot! I too Do have a carton of Chivas Regal Scotch which was presented to me by my friend some 25 years back! Having consumed the Scotch I have kept that Out side Shell in which it is packed as a memoir! I think these things have lot of tales to tell when we look at them some times and go back into the flashback and make you quite nostalgic!
Thanks for you comment on my walking horse, which I too think is walking very beautifully and gracefully! You have an eye for a horse! By the way are you any way connected to horses? Thanks !
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Mar 11
That is great! I have met one who is horse rider today on this forum! By the way I am a Stud Veterinarian working on a Stud farm and we breed the racing horses Thoroughbreds! So I unknowingly associate myself with horses when ever it is possible me to do so! The Avatar of mine is result of that! Thanks and all the best!
@chocolatechilli (246)
• South Africa
17 Mar 11
I was born in the Chinese year of the horse and all my life, I have loved horses. I have never been in the position to own one, but I do go horseriding sometimes.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Mar 11
Hi AKRao
We Indians have a special regard for any gifts we get. I still remember that I would save even the wrapper of the gift for years though it will never be of any use to me. I think almost all Indians are that way and have special sentiments attached with the gifts.
For me, I would never ever part with the gift. I still have a window chimes, gifted to me years back (more than 15) that is now broken and beyond repairs, but I still have treasured it. I tried putting the metal rods together a few times, but never could get that working again. But I still treasure that one as it was the last gift from a pen friend from Rajasthan. We have lost touch today and I dont have any idea where is she. The last time we had spoken over the phone was in 2003 when she was joining some college for her MCA.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
18 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sids! You are absolutely right! We Indians are more emotional and have lot of regards to such things! I know many people they preserve the gift wrappers! My wife is one from that lot!
Parting with the gift or presenting it as a gift to some on else is something which I can never appreciate! I am happy to know that you have preserved the gift from your pen friend from Rajasthan though you have lost the touch in the recent past! Now such gifts are very precious as they have got lot of nostalgic feelings attached with them, which have a big role in our lives!
Thanks for responding! By the way how is your health now days, dear Sids?
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Like any gift, I think I would really be thankful for it. The thought of having someone giving you that gift is enough to say that they cared for you so much to give it.
But I am not sentimental towards gifts. I often receive gifts that I can hardly use. So sometimes, I just give it away to someone who might need it more than I do. I think it would be more useful than being stuck in my cupboard. For me gifts are just material things that a person shouldn't really be attached to. So that if anything happens to it, you really wouldn't be so sad about it.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sweet Pea ! You have a point that receiving a gift from someone means that person is caring you! But with the changing times, in formal occasions we get lot of gifts from friends and other known people who are formally known to us and may not be too much attached with us!
Yes, Under such circumstances when one receives gifts from such people there is no prob;em passing those to the needed people so that the gifts are used by these people in case it is not required by us!
It depends on individual how he looks at a gift! Like for you a gift is a materialistic things and one shouldn't be attached to it, but for me thy mean every thing when I receive them from a loving and caring one! So naturally because of this difference in the opinion the behaviour would also be different if anything happens to the gift! Thanks for responding!
@changjiangzhibin89 (16785)
• China
17 Mar 11
The gift is the most telling witness of love and friendship so sometimes the gift is trifling but the feeling is profound.I consider it to be unmoral that gift other with gift which you have got.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
18 Mar 11
Hi Dear Changjiangzhibin! I fully agree with you and your views about the gifts! A small gift from a caring person can bring lot of happiness and joy in one's life and I too feel parting such valuable gifts as gifts to some else one is unmoral and unethical too! Thanks for responding!
@revtee (30)
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17 Mar 11
A gift is always a gift. And what i beleive is that whatever gifts we get in life brings happiness with it for free. And if sometimes we tend to get the gift of our choice then volla!!!! But what i personally think is that it is easy parting with gifts which we dont like much! and the pieces we love we seldom give away. Even in case of gifts which have sentimental value attached to it, we don,t prefer giving it away!
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
18 Mar 11
Hi Dear Revtee! You are right, gift always bring happiness with it for free! Yes sometimes if you don't like any gift you can part away with it! But then it depends who actually has gifted it! If a gift is from someone who really care for me then I may not part with it though I may not like it as I am bit emotional and sentimental about such things! Thanks for responding!
@blcoll01 (15)
• United States
17 Mar 11
I think that the gift someone gives you is precious, but at the end of the day it is a material item that you should not be so attached to. The feelings and emotions you carry are about the person and can be with you long after the gift is gone or broken. The true gift is the person in your life whom you feel so special for.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
18 Mar 11
Hi Dear Blcoll! May be you are right! It is but understood that we are attached to the person who is gifting a thing to us and there is no second opinion about the feelings and emotions towards that person! Those will be always there! But the gifts received from such loved ones also have some sentimental and emotional attachments for me! I associate the affection and love of the person with that gift! May be every body may not be like me! But I am like That! LOL!
Thanks for responding!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi AKRao24
The gift would be like Gold! I would treasure like the giving heart which it was given to me. I would not be happy to have something happen to the gift either. I would really cry and feel like I did not take care of it, even if someone else broke it.
I do understand you feelings and sentiments, because I would also feel the same.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi Dear Hardworkinggurl! You are absolutely right! For me also the gift from some one loving will be more than Gold! I attach lot f feelings with the gift by the loving one and really I will get irritated if some one cause any sort of damage to it! After all a lot of emotions and feelings are attached to it! Thanks for responding!
@Richard_online (138)
• United States
17 Mar 11
A gift would be something very special to me, if given buy someone who i know cares about me. If the gift broke or got lost i would feel very sad. Sometimes you find something special and sometimes you might not find something special like that again. So when you have it don't try to lose it because you might never get it back.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi Dear Richard! I fully agree with your views!It is always wiser thing to take care of such precious things as they may get lost some where and many a times we may not trace them back at all! So to ensure that they will be safe and close to our hart best thing is to take care of them as these things may come to us or may not in future again in the form of gift from some one who cares us! Thanks for responding!