What's the worst part of breaking up with someone

Hello Cherish, I am so sorry to hear that.. I have been through a lot myself, lately. And she finally broke up with me after 2 years of being together. She didn't care to give me a proper reason too! I was devastated and i was in depression too.. I didn't eat much i didn't talk much to anybody.. I would lie on my bed seeing some tv series trying not to think about her, and that didn't really help. The best thing you can do is talk to your friends, Cherish. You have to grow strong in yourself, you can't keep giving and suffering. I had been giving her so much and i have suffered a lot too.. Yeah i know what first love is like and believe me, even i thought it was my first love.. After talking to my friends, they said she doesn't deserve me for my big heart. I did nearly everything i could to keep up with her, but she didn't want to listen, neither would she explain why she is doing this. She seemed to have found another guy who listens to her, and i was so angry when i found that out. It's like i am meaningless?? I mean all that i gave her, where in the hell did she throw all that?? Cherish, just grow strong, talk to your friends and think about it.. Does he really deserve you for all you give to him ? If he doesn't, then he is not your first love!!! When you find someone who really loves you for the person you are and not wanting you to change, that is going to be your love, not some guy who doesn't listen, who doesn't respect you. He is not your first love if he never loved you enough... Just think about it, and get over him and leave him... You can't keep suffering for keeping someone happy. A true relationship is relationship about caring one another and not what one wants from the other.. Calm yourself down and think for yourself. You really must have someone who deserves your love and loves you as much you do.... Don't give up on him, you really deserve someone better.. Don't let him destroy your life, Cherish. You have lots of love in you and you need to give that to the right person. Go find that person and stop being like this... I am only saying because i have been through something similar to you, and i thought she loved me so much that she wanted to marry me... God bless you... Take care...

HI Cherish: I am sorry to hear that you think that you don't have real friends. I hope that you can make your relationship work out. However, it seems that you feel too depedent to this relationship. I am not saying that you have to stop it but try to do other things by yourself. Your boyfriend and yourself are two different persons that share love to eachother but he can't be the only source of your happiness. Try to be more independent, this will help you to feel more in control of your feelings and your relationship. Thanks for sharing with us what is happenning. I hope everything will be ok for you and your bf. @Voldrox: Thanks for this advice. You are right. It's always better to have someone you can count to talk when you are feeling down, not only on these situation but in every step of your life. Friends have helped me to continue when I thought everything in my life was a mess. ALVARO

no it's not that. we are in a very rocky situation right now but it doesn't mean i cant fight for us. i am really trying very hard to work things out. i cant just throw 7 years of being together right away yeah i am not giving up on him, and i am not giving up on us. if i see and feel that there is nothing i can do anymore, then maybe that is it it will be very painful and very hard to accept :( oh and i have friends, but i don't have true friends. my best friend is my boyfriend, because he has always been there for me no matter what and through thick and thin. my "friends" are just there when it comes to having fun, but not when i am down. :( thank you so much for your concern and advise, i will have to find out if we can work things out (i really really hope we can)... at least if ever things come to worst, at least i can tell myself at least i tried everything, and there will be no regrets, right? thank you.

Thank you, nikramos. Yes, keeping faith in God and in yourself is one the most important things in life, it can make you stronger. I don't regret having loved her so much, she is only going to miss me. Lol. Whatever fate has in for me, i am willing to face, i have to believe in myself and i know i am going to find my right partner some day.

HI nikramos: Your routine makes you think about the person that has left you, I know. It's like a nightmare to know that you won't be with this person again because is over. Laughing with your friends is a good medicine and it makes you remember that life is not ending just because you're having this terrible experience. Thanks fro your answer. ALVARO

Hi voldrox: It's true. It's better to love and lost than never love at all. If we are hurt after loving we shouldn't feel sorry. We have learnt, we have given the best of us, we have experienced one of the most beautiful feelings on earth... being in love. ALVARO

You are welcome. I'm glad you are doing better. Take Care.

Hi sarah ruth beth: At least he doesn't hurt you so much, because he didn't made so much promises. And at the same time, I know how friends can help you just by the fact of being near you. Where you have to face a situation like this, you feel weak but we all can overcome these bad situations. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO

Hi dolce vita: I understand this fear. There are so many relationships that don't end in good terms. It's very difficult to deal with all these feelings reunited, the things that you've done from the pas with your couple, the promises, your expactations, the simple fact of just thinking about an scenario without his/her presence, etc. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

HI zukibucha: I am a lawyer and I remember that I have a case. It was a divorce. The person that I was representing cried when she was finally divorced. She explined: it's not that I love him. I don't love him anymore. But the fact of realizing that I won't see him anymore, that he doesn't makes part of my life anymore is what makes me feel sad. Same happends when you have to face the truth on these cases. ALVARO

that's what i did too after me and my boyfriend broke up. i think of all things negative about him, because remembering all happy moments or anything good just makes me feel that im the loser. I always think positively about it. i believe there's always a reason behind everything, and the reason is, simply he's not worthy of me. :)

Hi jaiho: When we end a relationship there's always a big WHY. Why is this happening to me? Is this my fault? What were we doing wrong? Was it just a dream? I have tried to think bad about this person but this just make me unhappy and feel like a bad person because deep inside of me I know we were a happy couple. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Hi rock rock: Yes, just the idea of breaking up makes you feel hurt. There are a lot of things that comes to your mind on these days that you actually don't know how to deal with this situation, I know. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO

Hi dexterous: I understand that on these situations you think that everything is negative and dark, so it's not good to take decisions in such a state of mind. I had a friend that use this same advice. She says that when she was feeling like that she cries all that she need in order to forget and accept this situation. She says she cry "until tears dried by their own". Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Hi jennifer yvette: When we love someone that don't love you anymore you suffer because there's a part of you that still believe that there's a way to make things right even if we know that it's over. ALVARO

Hi sender: I agree with you. If you lose your car, that's hard but you can replace it. When you lose a person that is important to you, there's a whole that makes you feel incomplete. I grab myself to the ones I love and care for me. This help me to lower the pain. ALVARO

Hi jak: I think that's sad. Are you totally sure that this is the best for you and her? There's always the possibility to rebuild a relationship, improve communication and make things right again but both of you have to be involved on your relationship. In case you are completely sure about this breaking up I wish you the best for your near future. For me, it's impossible not to remember a person that has been with us for so many time. Thanks for sharing with us what's happening to you. ALVARO

Hi sweet pea: I am glad that you have found a way to be happy again when this happend to me but I think that it's easier when you can open to someone else and talk about how you feel. Of course I don't tell everybody about my situation, just a few friends and family members. At the same time I need to be strong to wake up everyday and face my daily obligations- study, go to work and I don't want to look sad doing this. I think that pampering yourself is a good cure. Thanks for this advice. ALVARO

Hi xien xien: This was what happened to me on this case. Eve if I knew that there was nothing I can do and in fact that I have done everything for her, I have felt hurt but you are right on the fact that time always help. When you feel that everything is destroyed and you won't see the light again, we have to have faith and continue. If we want to pass through these sad situations, and I think the majority of us want to stop the pain we can't stop even if our heart is broken at the moment. Thanks for your words. ALVARO

Hi jean marie: You are totally right. God is the answer. When everything is destroyed, the answer is God. He has put order in my life when I thought everything was lost and there was no hope for me. I have learnt this lesson since I was a child and it has always be like this. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO

Hi clocks: I agree with you. It's hard to know that a relationship has gone to its end. We don't want that this happend. I believe we all have one true love and when we start a relationship everything seems to be so perfect. It's always difficult to face a sad reality. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Hi xpert comments: You are right. ANd how you feel when you know that you and your ex are going to be in the same room. It's awful. I remember about this when I was in my collegue and I have to see her everyday. It was so sad. I want to see her and not at the same time. You feel sick and hurt simply because you always get to the same point in your head. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO

Hi hard working gurl: We want to be happy. Everyone around us want the same too. But the pain. Even when you know that it's good for you to end a relationship, it will hurt you because you have given everything for this relationship. We can't act as if nothing has happend. But at the same time, we have to take these decisions sometimes and we have to go on. ALVARO

HI jeffrey: Thanks for your answer. Some of these questions actually don't have an answer. If we break it doesn't mean necessary that is our fault even if we think that way at the moment. ALVARO