I was taken off of being listed as family/cousin, by my own cousins.
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
March 18, 2011 10:11am CST
I don't understand this for anything. Yesterday as I was looking at my profile, I have noticed something very strange. Two to three of my cousins unlisted me as a family member. I am still their friend, but they have unlisted me as their cousin, under "The Featured People link". I really don't get this for nothing. How can they list me as their family member, then they then go and take me off?
I know that I have not done anything to them personally. And if I do say anything to them or about them, it is always nice. I have never been mean to them, nor disrespectful at all. As I am on Facebook, I just notice some strange things that are on there. I also can't even post on another cousin of mines, wall. I can post on his wife's wall though. I will ask him about this when I talk to him again. I know that you all may not know me personally. And for all that we know, we could be talking to a stalker or a serial killer online. But the truth is, I am not like this at all. I am a very sweet, compassionate and honest person. I just get chewed on by my family members all of the time. I ask myself, why does the people that I love so much, are the ones that break my heart.
I don't understand what am I doing to cause people to reject me and be so hateful towards me. I am not perfect and no one else is. I just try to do what is right. I just hope that my cousin's are not mad at me for blocking my other cousin. I blocked her from seeing my posts, because I felt like she was trying to start trouble with me. And that, I don't really have time for. When I come to Facebook, I come to enjoy myself and not to bask into drama. So, for them to get mad at me about that, is wrong. They have nothing to do with the issue that I have had with my other cousin. Now, I have this same cousin, unblocked. I needed some cooling time away from her. Now I hope that she is ready to approach me maturely. So, to all of my friends here at myLot, I am not an ugly person on the outside. I just try to do my best in life and many people take my love for granted. I did not ask my cousin's why they unlisted me, but do you think that I should? I just don't want to seem too sensitive about it. I feel that they should have told me why, I am no longer listed as family/cousin to them.
I know that I have not done anything to them personally. And if I do say anything to them or about them, it is always nice. I have never been mean to them, nor disrespectful at all. As I am on Facebook, I just notice some strange things that are on there. I also can't even post on another cousin of mines, wall. I can post on his wife's wall though. I will ask him about this when I talk to him again. I know that you all may not know me personally. And for all that we know, we could be talking to a stalker or a serial killer online. But the truth is, I am not like this at all. I am a very sweet, compassionate and honest person. I just get chewed on by my family members all of the time. I ask myself, why does the people that I love so much, are the ones that break my heart. I don't understand what am I doing to cause people to reject me and be so hateful towards me. I am not perfect and no one else is. I just try to do what is right. I just hope that my cousin's are not mad at me for blocking my other cousin. I blocked her from seeing my posts, because I felt like she was trying to start trouble with me. And that, I don't really have time for. When I come to Facebook, I come to enjoy myself and not to bask into drama. So, for them to get mad at me about that, is wrong. They have nothing to do with the issue that I have had with my other cousin. Now, I have this same cousin, unblocked. I needed some cooling time away from her. Now I hope that she is ready to approach me maturely. So, to all of my friends here at myLot, I am not an ugly person on the outside. I just try to do my best in life and many people take my love for granted. I did not ask my cousin's why they unlisted me, but do you think that I should? I just don't want to seem too sensitive about it. I feel that they should have told me why, I am no longer listed as family/cousin to them.3 people like this
8 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
I think you just have to take it easy about you worrying about every single detail in your online life. I mean, there are glitches and stuff that happen around and if we are going to look into every detail you'll soon find yourself worrying too much about everything that shouldn't be worried about in the first place.
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@sweetme329 (500)
• Australia
19 Mar 11
Hey Cream;
It is very sad to know about all this. I would be very pissed off if i was to face something like this....I hope it was all by some accident and your cousins weren't willing to remove you for real.
Good luck!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Mar 11
hi cream I have known you online for a long time and you seem very sensitibe and very creative and intelligent. I think you are letting some of that facebook stuff really get to you. I know some relatives can get very annoying and upset over the least thing so I basically let it flow off me as I know who I am, as yuo also do. they are being petty and I would not let it stress me out at all.Your children love you,your husband loves you and a lot of your other relatives love you.I was hurt for awhile from a cousin whom I had never met but who was keepingup a lovely email
conversation with me and now she just quit like that.I was ill and in the hospital for awhile so was not on line at all. but thats no excuse for her to write me off. but I have decided not to let it stress me out anymore. read that book Do Mot Sweat the Small Stuff.really most is small
stuff.I am your friend here at mylot and I am usre y ou have a lot of other mylotters who are your friends.do not let a relatives pettiness get you down.you know you are a very nice honest person so they are being petty.
conversation with me and now she just quit like that.I was ill and in the hospital for awhile so was not on line at all. but thats no excuse for her to write me off. but I have decided not to let it stress me out anymore. read that book Do Mot Sweat the Small Stuff.really most is small
stuff.I am your friend here at mylot and I am usre y ou have a lot of other mylotters who are your friends.do not let a relatives pettiness get you down.you know you are a very nice honest person so they are being petty.1 person likes this
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I would write her in this way. I noticed that on your area me being listed as your cousin got removed some how on facebook. I hope that it was a accident. If not I was wondering why. Talk to you later.
I have instances where some family or friend isn't on my facebook no more so I ask them to be my friend again and then they become my friend again.One time my daughter-inlaw was one of them that was removed from being my friend on facebook. I was a little upset. I told my husband about it and I said hopefully it was a accident.I don't know what I did to make her mad if it was on purpose. One day he asked her and she said that she didn't know that I wasn't nomore.
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@batool93 (10)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Hey cream,
I think the best you should do is talk to them, in a nice way lol. I mean they are still family so you should just ask them. Or i guess just ignore it and be the bigger person some people are just looking for trouble and drama for no reason.
take care!
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
18 Mar 11
Hello Cream.
Are you sure ? Because there is the option of hiding the relationship status and make them ONLY available for yourself (i hidden my girlfriend even from the friends listed on my profile).
If they have indeed removed you from their profiles, it is indeed upsetting and i can understand you getting pissed over it especially if you have done nothing to deserve it.
Take care dear !
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
hello cream,
I haven't experienced like this,but of course that would be painful.
Once i deactivated my FB account because one of my cousin get's angry when i did not follow/obey her request.
I did not obey her (my cousin's request)because she is asking me things that i can't do.
Actually,it's not that i don't want to grant her,but,i can't,because i am too busy with my work and with my kids.
She can't understand and she get's angry.
So,i deactivated my account for about a month to avoid her.
I don't understand why some relatives can't understand our situation and just think of themselves.
happy weekend
