How much time do you spend on yourself every day?

Yeah,got it. It is really tough to decide. Great love always comes from a great mother. It is honorable to be a self-sacrificing mother.My hat 's offer to u!

I guess every mother is the same and it does not matter in which part of the world they are. Our mothers were like that too, weren't they? Good day

Hi shutong. Welcome to mylot. I actually realised when I started this discussion that even though we do go out or take vacations, it is always a duty to take care of things and after some time, it becomes routine and you no longer enjoy it. What I was thinking was have some me time. You are right, I could drop everything and take a walk but as my daughter is at home, sleeping now, and there is no one to take care of her in case she wakes up, I cannot even think of stepping out. Know what I mean?

yeah, that's also what my other friend's told me, enjoy the time while we don't have kids yet...but we've been waiting for how many years already that's why i am now wishing to have a baby sooner. and besides i am not getting any younger! well, lucky are those moms who are able to find some time for themselves and even manage to go out, treat themselves and so on. i have some friends who are like that, they are working moms but still they have time to unwind. their husband or sometimes their parents took care the kids for a while.

Hi ckyera. I did have a lot of time before my daughter was born but now, I absolutely have no time and whatever little time I have is spent trying to make a little money from the net. I guess I need some time for myself but since her holidays are nearing too, it will just be a wish till her school re-opens. I think it is like that with every married person till they become a parent. Enjoy your time now. Because once your kids come, you would have no time at all till they grow up. And best wishes for your future(having kids)

Don't worry ckyera. Things will happen in their own sweet time. Just relax and have a good time. I wonder too how these moms find time for themselves. I actually need some time for myself. My parents will help, but they are already looking after my sister's baby as she is working and they are old too. So I do not want to burden them with two kids even if it is only for a little while. Taking care of both small kids would be asking too much of them. And as my husband goes early in the morning and comes home late at night, it is impossible for him to look after my kid. so there goes my me time.

Hi sunny. You do live a busy life, don't you? Even holidays and relaxing is in that list. Everyone needs some time for themselves and some people are able to make it and some are not. I am actually not able to spend some time just for myself. I love reading, but it has been years since I even touched a book. All I read is story books of my daughter at bedtime. Just wish I had at least two or three hours to myself. At least once a month. Good day.

Yes, lucky you. I agree with you completely and that is what I am talking about. Even though I do like what I do, sometimes, I would love to just spend some time by myself, on myself or just laze around. But I do find a lot of work to be completed and have to start working with a sigh. Am so busy nowadays that it becomes very difficult to even think of having a break.

Well, it does feel nice doing things for others, spending time with the family and being with my daughter. But I would like to have a little time to at least comb my hair properly or go out and have some time to myself instead of always being surrounded by people or work. It is not that I do not count my blessings, but sometimes, it is all too much.

Hi somegirlonline. I do not work and am a housewife with one kid who is three and a half years old and another on the way. So being pregnant makes me tired all the time not to mention being nauseous and cranky. As I told jaiho, I hardly have time to relax or even try to take care of myself. I do get up a little late nowadays because of my condition. My husband wakes me up everyday. But that is the extent of help I get from him. He goes to work in the morning and comes back late at nights. Even if he comes early, it is my job to cook and clean and take care of my kid. There is no use asking him to help me. I have done that several times and there seems to be no response from his side. He comes home and either works from his laptop or is on calls all the time or max, watches tv to relax. This is worse on sundays. He used to help me in the early days of our married life, but everything has changed now. He sometimes works even on sundays and that irks me a lot. I do not mind working everyday, but I would love to have some time for myself every day just to unwind. But that is not possible now since my daughter goes to school only for two hours and it takes almost one hour for me to travel to and fro to her school. So I just have one hour to fit in. Sorry if my response seemed lengthy, just wanted to rant once in a while. And welcome to mylot.

Thanks for understanding sgo. My husband stayed home today but still, it was work, work and more work for me. He did help me to cut the vegetables today and that is a rarity. I do have my parents living nearby but they are old and moreover, my sister works and leaves her one and a half year old baby with them. So it would be very difficult for them to run behind both kids even if it is only for sometime. They are almost nearing their 70s and they find it difficult to take care of the baby and do their routine stuff. I just want maybe like two or three hours to myself - to go to the parlour and get a facial done or just plain laze around. But that is what I am not getting and the routine work bothers me sometime. Hope I get some free time this week.

Firstly, thanks for the welcome devijay. Secondly, do you have any friends or family who could maybe help you out once in a while so that you can relax once in a while? It is important, for your own sanity at least just to have some time to be you. I understand that your husband works and he must be tired when he gets home and he provides money. But he should realise that you miss him. Perhaps when he has some holiday time off work you could appeal to his better nature and sit him down and really talk and see if you can discuss with him about how you feel. It seems that you miss him as he even works on Sundays now. Perhaps if you can get a family member or friend to look after the children for a little while each week, then it wouldn't be so bad. Don't worry about the lengthy reply. It helped me to understand a little bit more about your situation so it's the relevancy that matters not the length :) I really hope that your situation improves. All the best.

I did spend my free time when I was a student pursuing my hobbies. I love reading books, doing handicrafts, embroidering and glass painting etc. But I hardly have time for all that now and it has been ages since I even touched a book. All the reading I do now is the story books of my daughter. I have to read and tell her stories every day and night and that is the extent of my reading. Enjoy your free time as once you get busy with a family, you would not find time for anything else at all. Good luck.

You are absolutely correct jaiho. That is what happens to me too. I was wondering how long it has been since I even looked at myself in the mirror properly. I look a sight and there is absolutely no time for me to take care of myself too. I do have all products at home and all I need is time to apply them. Sigh! Wish I would have the heart to spend a little more time on myself. But the main culprits are ourselves, aren't we? And as tomorrow is sunday, there would be no time for me to even look at my laptop. Happy weekend to you too.

What a lucky person! Hope I just have at least some time in a week for myself.

Hi. Welcome to mylot. Do you have a small kid or a grown up daughter? It was just the opposite for me even when I was working. I used to come back from work, cook, clean and do all the normal stuff, take care of my daughter and then go to sleep. Then wake up in the morning, do the cooking and drop my daughter at school and then go to office. No help from hubby dear at that time. Now that I stay at home, it is even worse. Working all the time and no rest. Well, life is like that!