Should I ask her or not?
By crackx
@crackx (628)
Belgium
March 19, 2011 7:14am CST
Hello there,
this evening I was planning on going out with some friends of mine,
and I don't want my girlfriend to think that I don't want her with me.
But the problem is, last time I asked her, she didn't want to go herself,
but she wanted to do it for me, just to make me happy.
Now, I'm going tonight, but I don't know if I should ask her?
Cause I'm afraid that she'll think that because she didn't go with me last time,
she needs to do so now, but just to make me happy. But I don't want her to be sad than, since it are people that she doesn't really know (and she is a little shy with unknown company). But if I don't ask her, and she figures out later, she might be sad that I didn't ask her, and that she might think she isn't as important to me as she always has been...
Can you guys help me? Should I ask her? And how?
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4 responses
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I guess you should ask your girlfriend and also tell her that if she wants to come she can come along otherwise it is not necessary for her to attend this party since it is not much important. I guess if she hesitates even a bit then you should tell her that it's fine if she doesn't' come, I guess this might work.
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I think you should ask her so she won't think you didn't ask her because you didn't want her to go. Tell her where you are going and ask her if she would like to join you. Explain to her that it is okay with you if she doesn't want to go. This way if she wants to go she will tell you and if she doesn't she won't feel bad telling you no. You should always extend the offer so she feels included.
@crackx (628)
• Belgium
20 Mar 11
I did what you said, and eventually also that she didn't need to, that it was okay. Turned out she said she didn't want to go, as it put quite some things off my shoulders^^ I had no bad feeling going, since I knew she was fine with it :) Thanks for the advice zuki,
definetly appreciated^^
@hazeljoymilloria (44)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
you may not ask her to go with you but you should ask permission or at least let her know that you will be going out with some friends of yours. so as not to let her wonder where you are and not worry about you. and if she decides to go with you then bring her.. it's up to her if she wants to enjoy or not.. :)
