Feeling reluctant to post my story here and not sure how to handle it
@motorizedmillie (138)
United States
March 19, 2011 9:17am CST
Good Morning everyone,
As some of you may know, I posted a question about length of posts yesterday because I wanted to post a bit about my life here and didn't want to risk going over the character limit if there was one. While most of the responses were very helpful and friendly, there were a couple of posts which, even though they were not flames as such, they made me feel just a bit uncomfortable and reluctant to share my story. One poster said that if my post was too long, others wouldn't read it, but the one that made me the most uncomfortable was a poster that said I should make it between short and long, otherwise they would feel it was a biography which would be hard for them to believe. What would you do if you were the one in this situation?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Hi motorizedmillie!
I see that in this topic you also mentioned the previous topic so I went back and had a look at how it has progressed and... well, I hope that I am wrong but, do you realise that you do not earn for those responses? You will only earn for yiur own particpation and unles you comment and further the topic, it is a question with some answers and not a discussion.
When you start posting topics regarding your personal life, those should be topics for discussion too and you should participate and keep it moving if you wish to earn too, as well as those who respond.
Will you be asking for advice in your next topics? If so then I think you should take the opportunity to post as much as you can in your topic so that there is a lot for others to respond to.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
20 Mar 11
Thank you for the BR here
but I do wish that you would come back and interact with us.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Hi mysd & motorizedmille!
My opinion is that you can make a discussion as long as you like but sometimes too it is helpful to not add a great deal so that during the comments millie would come back with you can continue to add and thereafter the members would continue to come back and add even more.
I do hope millie has understood your response, because not commenting back I am afraid most members later feel stressed because they feel they are not earning for so much efforts.
Best of luck millie and hope you too succeed here on myLot! ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Hi motorizedmillie
You write with your own style and that is what makes us all unique. At first it may be a bit slow to capture several responses but it does happen and not impossible. Please come back to your discussions each time you receive responses, some members actually stop responding to members who don't. To a sense they feel that if the discussion starter does not comment back, that their responses are not usually read.
Just do your best and not allow anyone to upset you in anyway. This is how I see it while an online member is that we as people have so much going on offline and when we come to an online site it is to have fun and gain knowledge. If the fun stops then there is no point in continuing. My suggestion to you is not allow anyone to upset you in anyway. You skip any response you are not comfortable with always remember that no two people are the same.
Best of luck millie and I do wish you well.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Mar 11
millie it is never too late, you can always go back to any of you discussions and comment. There is no time restriction to do so. I do hope you consider and give myLot a try. It really is fun once you can interact. Simply ignore and pass up any negativity. Just watch for the do and do not in the guidelines and you need not worry, we all have done it and we learn from them.
I am routing for you, you can do it. ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@motorizedmillie (138)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Thank you, I'll think about it for a while and see if there's a way I can do it that won't break any guidlines.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Personally for me, I for one am not afraid to share things about me here, and if people think I am being too personal and such then they need to examine themselves and are usually hiding some things as well. I know for me, there are people you will never relate too no matter what you post in here, and that is usually to be expected. But for me when something is going on I feel I need to share and talk about I post it hoping for someone to relate and be able to share some advice as well.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Hello Motorized
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Unless it's a violation of the guidelines WHO THE HELL TOLD YOU WHAT TO WRITE?
I think these people are LAZY to boot! i know i remind people about the guidelines and not writing one liners but never these.
I think you just ignore these people since they think they are "SMART" to boot. i think you have to right to do so, just don't post personal information because it can be deleted. just ignore them, and post (accdg. to guidelines)
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@doubledawn (69)
• Canada
20 Mar 11
My suggestion is, if you want to write a longer, more in depth post, then go right ahead.
Keep your sentences short and break it up into paragraphs to make it easier and more comfortable on the eyes. Remember, people are reading over computer screens and short bits are easier to take in than long ones.
There are all kinds of people on mylot, and I'm sure the ones who don't have the patience for a long post will simply move on. Others, however, will read it and comment if they feel they have something to say. There is no predicting what kind of responses you will get, but I think you should give it a try.
Good luck!
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
19 Mar 11
Most people would prefer something bite-sized so they can quickly respond and move on. The more discussion they answer, the more the earnings might grow. Don't feel upset, just accept it and move on.
When you start to read other's posts and if they are super duper long, maybe you can understand from their shoes point of view.
No offense in here ok?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Many users might well prefer something bite-sized but they are wrong that responding and moving on is going to earn quickly for them. We should take our time to post descriptive quality responses and try and further the topic to when (if) the original poster comes and comments to us.
It is not quantity but quality that counts, as I'm sure you know by now ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 11
Good afternoon. On My Lot it should be enjoyable and in general most members are polite in their discussions. A small minority can say uncomfortable things and these are best ignored. When a person joins My Lot he or she will be learning as he or she goes along. I write a mixture of long, medium and short responses. It just depends on what I have to say in the particular discussion. I don't think you should let these two comments about your post being "too long" and "like a biography". If I was in your situation I would carry on responding to discussions that interest me. Good luck.
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