The problem of trying to be unique.
By vutum6887
@vutum6887 (118)
India
March 19, 2011 9:14pm CST
Trying to be unique is a huge cause of stress for many. Uniqueness is not something that can be acquired. If I try to be consciously unique that means I am only trying to satisfy my ego. The result will be a failure.
It is necessary to relax and perform what is to be performed; gradually the innate uniqueness shall manifest. Then it will not be necessary to exhibit our uniqueness; the world shall automatically point it out.
That, is being truly unique and at that point we shall experience almost nothing since that 'uniqueness' is normal, innate and sublime to us and nothing artificial. There shall be an inner satisfaction and calm within. Ego too, will take a backseat having realized the truth.
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8 responses
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Being unique is ultimately being just yourself. The more you try to be different from others, the more it will come out that you are trying so hard to become somebody and not yourself. Being unique for me is something innate in you that nobody has. Others see it but just not you. So we should all just be ourselves and most likely people will see the uniqueness in you.
@Psychedelic (22)
•
23 Mar 11
You said it better than I would have.
You have to be comfortable with yourself first... which isn't as easy as it sounds. I wonder why and wonder where the conflicts in characters come from? I understand image [a trend] but not character.
Acceptance in society? Is society limiting people or restricting differences? For those that struggle, are they struggling because they want/don't want to "fit in" society ?
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Every living being in this world is different and thats what makes us unique. I got confused when you said you try to be unique. That defintiely happens naturally and you expressed later in your discussion, so why try? The key to life is being yourself, and I'm not pointing this out at you, just speaking in general. So if a person or people don't like you for who you are, move on to the next. For me, there is no trying or faking it. I am who I am, I got where I am today without people who don't like it.
@vutum6887 (118)
• India
21 Mar 11
Very nicely put. I fully agree with you. I have highlighted that very fact that one need not TRY to be unique. Please read the discussion again. Nice to see someone like-minded. I am sure there are others...........
If you notice around you most people forget that all of them are unique in their own versatile ways. Still they try to do things, often going beyond their natural instincts and abilities with the sole purpose of 'being different' from others.
That is just not needed. Apart from adding stress to the system such attitude does nothing. Anything that is forced cannot be sustained.
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I never tried to be unique, I just was. So many young people bow to peer pressure in order to not be different. I never did that. I never purposely tried to be different either, I was just me.
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Being unique is good and everyone is unique in his/her own way. That is why I believe that just being oneself is already being unique because it will show unconsciously. I think consciously trying to be unique is already contradicting because a person will try to be different but that's not really who s/he is. 
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
uniqueness is not something that happens overnight.it happens slowly and deliberately.it starts with getting to know who you really are.it starts knowing what makes you happy,what makes you sad,what makes you angry,and what makes you disappointed.uniqueness is knowing your passions and your dreams.
@vutum6887 (118)
• India
21 Mar 11
A superb comment indeed. A great point -- "To know what makes you happy". In other words to be aware of the purpose of our life.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I think it's better to just be myself. By not acting or trying to be something I'm not, makes me uncomfortable. To be yourself is what makes you unique. Every person has their own unique qualities that make them standout in a crowd. Don't try to be something your not. That has the potential of making life difficult for you.
