Dealing with a 6th grader

hi, my eldest son was grade 6 last year, think they already reach the age where they will try and test us if they can go there way or if we would buckle down to them or something. One thing I had observed is you are from the U.S. right but you are in India right now ( please correct me if I am wrong), so is he studying in India or in the U.S.?, one thing you can do is investigate what it is in study or maybe not study but school that pisses him off, perhaps problems with classmates, teachers, culture etc... think you have to delve deeper to the heart of the problem.( just a suggestion) cause I once also had a similar problem with my son when he got into a fight and I had to be called to the principal's office, think personal dialogue with him is the name of the game, good luck to you and hope you solve this soon

Hi Dee2008 and a warm welcome to you to myLot! I am sorry to hear dear about the stresses in your life. It is so that too many at one time do affect our mood and behavior. I would suggest you try to make study time a bit more fun. It is evident that he needs to study regardless of his resistance. So I would say pick an alloted time after school or during day, depending on his school schedule and the both of you sit and discuss the tasks at hand. Allow him to do what he can and you two sit together and go through the assignment. Once you have gone through the assignment explain and show him what you feel is perhaps wrong and how he can go about re-correcting. This sit down time requires a great deal of patience from you and no distractions for him. After the lesson is over, you and he get rewarded. Some special like a a slice of pie and a glass of milk where he and you can giggle and laugh about sweet nothings. This should be a continual consistent process that he and you can share. It will not guarantee to make him a a genius, but one thing for sure is that he and you both will have some quality time together. Quality time with children is very important. Nothing to do with the amount of time. While he is doing homework in plain sight, you can go about doing dishes, and or housework. But remember as much as we employ into the details of washing those dishes we as parents need to employ into sitting with our kids continually to hear them say, mom at school blah, blah.. sometimes we as parents get so buy that we forget that children to have (perhaps silly things), but at the moment it is important to them. This worked like a charm for me and perhaps it may not fully work for you, it is some humble advise that I really like to share from time to time with other parents.

My daughter is in 6th grade also. Upon hearing you, I can say I'm lucky enough to have a daughter so studious..I guess, just be patient enough to discuss about this to your son.. explain to him the consequences if he will not study. Let him realize that studying is basically having fun also.Maybe, give him a break this summer and have a good deal for him.