she was stinking.

hi,,people should have some commonsense and knw how to mingle in public places and what to be used to be comfortable while travelign.I pity for u.I think she doesnt hae any idea about wht she is causing to others.Unless she herself knw the problem no one can do .Running awy is the best way.

Good for you ,you were able to tell her that straight to her face. I never had any chance of doing so. I just hold my nose of covered with handkerchief (that i never forget to have in my bag,in case like that) Or take out my cologne and dab on my neck just to cover the bad odor and will try my way to get out or moved away from the person. People who has the odor can't smell it,they're used to their stinks.

Hi. divyangshukla. Well you were being honest with her and it is not your fault that she has bad body odor. You are more bolder than me. I could never come out and tell a stranger about them being stink. I would feel so ashamed. I will try to avoid being around them if possible. If I can't, I will just hold my nose tightly. I have never been in a situation as this before. I am sorry that you were though.

I wish I have your guts. When confronted with the same situation, I would probably just hold my breath until I turn blue I think and I hope that you were able to help her. You may have been her bearer of bad news but I hope from then on she was able to realize that she needs to pay more attention to her hygiene. Have a nice day!

I laugh my assout with your story. You sure is too brave to tell her.If I was you I could have just shut my mouth and endure the smell. Mybe she reacted like that because she couldnt smell herself anymore because she got immune to it hehe ps. my keyboard sucks today.

I am impress by your guts to tell it to her straight out. Gosh, wish I can do that too! anyway, I havent encountered such. I usually go away from people that stinks and that's it.

When it happens to me to be near someone stinking I just try to tolerate it and breath as less as I can, I feel ashamed evenm to move to seme other place because I am afraid the person who smells bad would feel uneasy about it... Maybe I'm a little bit too much, but I am always afraid I coul hurt the other person. I think they have the right to use the public transports and maybe it was not their fault if they stink. There was a girl working in the same office as me and she smelled so bad we had to open the windows of our room if she entered it, the smell wouldn't go away even after she left. And we didn't know how to confront her about it. It wasn't like she didn't bath at all or smoked or else, we couldn't find a way to solve it. I don't know what happened after I left, anyway.

Hi Divyang, I understand what you mean. I have to travel many a times in Metro train in Delhi and in rush hours it is very crowded and if you take it from pragati maidan during International trade fair you would be lucky to take a breath, it is so crowded. On numerous occasions i have been next to someone who smelled totally of alcholo or beedi , i felt like vometting but i cudnt get out of train as next one would be same too.

You never know why she smelled bad. You never said what kind of odor, so everyone is assuming she is a nasty person. That may have been the first time in her life she smelled like that. If you are forced to us public transportation and there is an issue, you still have to be on that public transportation to get where you need to do to correct the situation. Maybe she was sick and had an accident. I would never tell someone in front of everyone else that they stink. That is downright ugly. Just hope you are never in that situation.

:) Bad for you. You felt the shame she was supposed to feel. Sometimes, those instances when I encounter, I simply ignore since I can adjust, like transferring to another part of the train or just go out. I will not tell anything to the girl since nothing will change even if I will tell her. She will just be placed in shameful situation.

I can imagine how bad it was! Here, at the office, we have a cleaning lady that always stinks. We have some security rules here and she can't clean the offices after the office hours, so she need to come for vacuuming early in the morning, when we are already at work. When she comes, we all get out of the office, with the excuse that she need space to do her job well. The moment she exits the office we widely open all the windows to clear the air.

One man's treasure is another man's garbage. Perhaps to you she stunk but to the next man she smelled sweet. There are some male dominated cultures where women wear offensive scents to discourage attention by outside males. Perhaps that was the case in your situation. Whatever the reason, I would have moved away but not confronted her. After all, in my opinion, she has the right to smell any way she wants just as I have the right to avoid smelling it. Question to you. Did confronting her relieve the offense to your olfactory system? If not, what was the point of the confrontation?

hi there, maybe she didn't like the way you approached her hehehehe but still she shouldn't respond like that too. she was probably immune to her odor so she didn't really care. but i hate that because that is just gross my brother's baby sitter has body odor too, but when we told her, she was sorry and tried to even avoid us so we don't smell her and then the next day, she was okay already. she didn't stink because she said she bought a deodorant already and that is good. unlike that girl, she shouldn't be acting like that

I understand how you feel. I once had to sit on a train from New York to Jacksonville, Fla. next to a woman who smelled horrible. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to hurt her. I believe we have to accept people as they are. If somebody smells, maybe it is because she is sick. Or, maybe she has some other serious problem. She is miserable enough as it is. Calling her attention to your discomfort is not going to change the situation and will only make things worse for her. I am sure she will take care of herself as soon as she can.

You know how you go into a public restroom sometimes and it is hard to go in there because it stinks from someone else relieving themself before you? When you come out, you think the person waiting to come in will think it was you who made the bad odor in there. Well, I was thinking that maybe you confronted the girl and others may have heard you because since you were standing right beside her you were afraid some might think it was you who was stinking.

Wow, that was something. Maybe she wasn't in a good mood and so she didn't care. She was clearly offended when you remarked, just take it light my friend. Maybe you did the right thing when you got off the next station and surely she must have felt something but she tried to conceal it. She simply didn't care about it. That was a bold statement you made to her, i don't know if i could have done that but i am sure i would not have been able to bear the stinky smell and i would have probably dropped with telling her anything. Anyways, you gave something to think about, at least.

Oh wow! divyangshukla for doing that straight to her face. I admire your guts. I did encounter some stinking people from time to time but I can never do what you just did. I can never tell a complete stranger straight in the face that she stinks. Maybe i can do that if the person is close to me, probably a friend or a relative. I will tell it to them in a very polite manner and make them realize that i am not critizing them but i'm more concerned about them. Maybe they will understand me and they will do something about it.

Wow can you give me some courage, I'd love to do that some day. I wish I've seen it happen but naahhh.....I'm happy not to. It was funny as if it's happening only on movies. I can't do the same thing cause most probably I would turn out rude.

OMG,Friend you had shown a real courage and honesty.If I was standing at that place I can't gather that much courage to tell her that "You are stinking".You know being male it is very difficult to say this kinds of things to female. One of my coleige have very bad body odour and he is with me at workplace most of times.I had taken almost one weak told him about this.Fortunately he didn't reacted like that girl and now using a perfume to avoid the bad odour. Happy mylotting.

Hi Mate! I sort of think that situation as funny. I hope you won't be offended. I sometimes find myself in the same situation, but I never get the courage to tell the concerned person directly. Lol, she should've been the one ashamed and not you. :)