first you have to love yourself.

You have to love yourself first before you can learn to love others.How can you give something YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE....Learning to accept that every person is unique, has it's own talents and has it's own flaws also..but all of us are special in a way. Try to see your own assets and improve them.Be confident. I'm sure there's something in you worth loving for...smie friend!

"You are your worst critic"-this term is very true! I see this a lot from both male and female friends, and I even see myself doing it. Both sexes seem to be very conscious of excess fat; males also are self-conscious if they aren't tall or muscular enough. But I look at my friends and think, wow, they really have nothing to worry about! Even if they can't see the beauty in themselves, I do. When I find something about myself that I am critical about, I just think that other people do not care about it as much as I do, or may not even see it at all. This took a long time to convince myself of, but when I finally did, I started stressing out a LOT less about my appearance and personality flaws. I figure that if someone is worth keeping around, they will overlook all of my apparent flaws anyway.

hello swiss, This is true,we sometimes compare ourselves with other people,as if we can see their beauty and we don't appreciate our very own beauty. I can say that,the only thing i don't like with my self now is my body. I am getting chubby for the last 2 years and i hate it because i can't use/wear all my dress,and i need to have a bigger size and i don't like it. Aside from getting chubby...i love myself. I feel proud when people asking if i am wearing a contact lenses. I have brown eyes which is not common here in our place (mosts having black eyes) But before,i envy my friends for having black eyes...now i don't. thanks contact lenses...i've learn to love the color of my eyes

I agree. Humility is very different from self pity. Some people project that they are not worthy, but they're just being humble, but some really are pitying themselves and it's bad. In m country, it's customary to be humble. People frown upon others who feel like or show that they deserve something (even if they really deserve it). But I agree, loving yourself and being proud of who you are is important. Before entering any kind of relationship (whether it's a romantic or friendly relationship) you should love yourself and not look for somebody else to complete yourself

Hopefully with time women can accept how they look. I exercise daily and am a very healthy eater. I am quite thin but I work at it to remain this way. So my suggestion to anyone regardless of what they are unhappy about is to try and raise how they feel about how they look. If a woman or man really, is not happy about how they look, that would be like their worst enemy because we must love ourselves before we can actually understand what it is other love about us.

yes..true..what we are..and who we are is to be accepted by oneself first..like the saying Love thy self..then u can love others.. After that then its better and easier to understand someone else..and learn to love them more..