it is not an assurance....

EXACTLY! I have often told my friends such a point. It is not an assurance that you've been together for several years then you could surely say that you'd be together forever. I am not an advocate of broken relationship, but I wouldn't force someone to stay in a relationship just because of the years of being together. I have several friends who feels like they are imprisoned in a relationship. They just can't let go because they are so consumed of the idea of "YEARS" in their relationship. I have known a friend too, who's got a college sweetheart, that was 7 years. But they broke up. And he didn't feel miserable, he just said, "it's just how it turned out" And there's nothing I can do with it. Then that's it. I could really and certainly agree that it is not and NEVER will be an ASSURANCE. :)

Your right about that. People are married for 20+ years and split up. There are never any guarantees.

Oh don't say that I'm in my 3th...I'm so sorry my dear...I don't know what's going on but you know there are crises in relationship, who says you guys don't belong together right? I think sometimes we stop valueing what we have and think that maybe there's something better, or we get bored, or we get irritated about the small things but where there's love there's always a way and the only way is to stay together.

I'm really sorry to hear that. Sometimes, we cannot force relationship. Nobody is perfect in this world. Each individual has their own pros and cons. In a relationship, understanding between each other and acceptance of each others' bad habits/behavior is a must. Although certain habits can change, there are some that cannot be changed and it reflects the uniqueness of the individual. There must be give and take in a relationship in order for it to stay strong. Maybe you should think over about the relationship, find out the reason for breakup and also remind yourself the reason for both of you to be together at the first place, the happy moments you have together. If the reason for breakup weights heavier than the reason being together, then your decision to breakup is correct. However, if it isn't, then you must think it over and try to save the relationship. Hopefully you'll stay strong and all the best to you!

Hi, Some of the biggest challanges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They are trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. In any relationship no matter, Trust, Love, Affection more than anything feel good factor to share everything with a person is very important. One thing i have observed in a relationship is small things are considered to be a big ON :) which is very common, and the biggest funny thing is will end up in big fights :) but with Love :) Problem in relationship occurs because each person is concentrating on wat is missing in the other person.And deadness occurs in a relationship when people areno longer willing to tell each other how they really feel. I would say to make a long lasting relationship, understand each other, show the other person you are the one for her or him who can take care for the whole life. and you will find more happy and enthusistic is the person for is is happy and comfortable with us. Breakup is 7letter word, but according to our INDIAN culture a relationship means live together for 7 incarnations. There is tooooo much to say but i conclude by saying, do not get the word breakup into any relationship... Plz... Live long together. If u cant stay with one person whom you loved the most, you will not be able to stay long with any other person for the rest of the life.

I am sorry to hear about your break up. I have been in several long-trem relationships before I married my wife. I know it is hard to share you life with someone over a several year period. You get to that comfert zone with them and thank you will always be there for one another. It is nice when it works out that way, but more times then not, for what ever reason things do not work out. Keep your head up and you will find the perfect guy for you.

As far as I know in a relationship to stay longer and forever. Both parties should consider respect, love, understanding and most of all fear of God. Because fear of God will hold the line to be stronger... If both parties have fear with God. They are afraid to something that is against each other and they are faithful to each other...