Do man still give their wife money for home expenses???

Hi dear, Of course, the time and generation and people also got changed a lot and thereby the life style also changed! As you said, the older generation have enjoyed their life much happier (even we are happy), but still, they enjoyed the their life much better way than what we do now. When your grandmother used to keep a small portion of the excess money and they made some valuables with it. Even I know my mom used to do the same. Unfortunately, she could not make really valuable because the left off money would be very less and could not do anything bigger with it. But they had the practice of doing the same. Now-a-days, even the husband's give a major share of their income to their wives, if they don't have a clear cut plans, all the money will get simply wasted for unwanted shoppings and purchases. Majority of the women's nature is spending money and not to save, especially if h/b's give something. Only a limited house wifes do it systematically. If they do so, we need to appreciate. But the modern ladies are good for nothing in such cases. If we give them 100 today, they will spend 110 and will demand more tomorrow. If this is the trend, how man will be ready to give excess money to them. However, a better and understanding family or h/w can make things better if they plan well and have mutual understanding about their future. Thank-s

i don't think so BECAUSE it is the other way around for me. My wife, being the financier and the holder of my ATM card, is the one responsible in giving me money for my expenses. I have fully given my love and trust to her the moment I walked down the aisle to meet her to exchange "I dos" and vows. I firmly believe that men like me, work harder to be compensated enough to raise a family. Some if not all wives budget well than husbands (as I've observed among my parents, wife, in-laws, and acquaintances). Husbands provide while wives budget and keep, not to mention the approval of the husband on all expenses with the decision of the couple of course.

I guess,that depends on the situation. If the girl accept this kind of agreement,then it's fine esp if the wife is also working,maybe they can some half-half expenses agreement. But for me,even if i am working,it is a must that the husband should give the money for house/bill/expenses and it's fine if he spare some for his own personal expenses .

No matter if both husband and wife are working, I think the husband still need to give some money to the wife. After all, she's the one cooking for the whole family to eat and the husband should be the one paying for the food to feed his family.

I believe it depends on whether the wife works or not. I think for the most part husbands and wives share a bank account now. Bills and groceries are paid from that account.

As a husband and father myself, I am furiated with the way the "MEN" of our generation act. I miss the old fashion way of life, when men new thier role as a pervider for thier family. I admired my grandfather and he was the same way as yours. He showed me the proper way to grow up into a true husband. Even when my wife and I were just engaged I would keep just enough to cover what gas I would need to go to work and give the rest to her to put up. We would both work and share the bills, but the money would be put together, not to be clamed by just one person like you see today. It agrivates me when a couple say's " he has his money and I have mine" or visversa. If you are in a relatsionship then it is both of ya'll money and should be spent on the family not on one indevidual. Now that I have a family the money is a little tighter, but I still follow the same principle. My wife stays home with the kids at the moment, but I still work with her on the bills and the rest she puts up for a rainy day or incase of an emergency. I wish more men would step up and quiet thanking of themselves. We need more family men in the world.

My grandpop gave his money to my grandmom but she ran the house. They raised four children, and somehow my grandmom managed to afford to help my grandpop become a citizen (he emigrated here in 1919 but became a citizen in 1951) and to purchase a home in the suburbs. My mother handled the bulk of the money but that's because that was her job outside the home. I do it now because my boyfriend has no concept of money.

yes they do, well my husband does. Since i do the shopping for grocery and stuff at home he gives me money for it..aside from my own money, he also gives me his money though i do not ask for all of it.

I cannot speak for all households, but in mine, my husband and I both work outside the home, but I am the one in charge of the finances. He works, and when he gets his paycheck, he signs it and I take care of it from there. He never goes without though, as long as we can help it. I tell him, and show him where the money goes, and he gets his spending money each week. I know a few other couples that handle things similar to the way we do, but I also know couples who divide everything evenly, and those in which the man takes care of the finances. I think that it is all just a matter of who is more responsible and/or who is more comfortable handling the finances.

I think the ideal way is for the couple to discuss about budgeting expenses whoever brings home the money because it is both theirs anyway. Me and my husband's case though is different, but i know many couples are like us. After we got married he wanted me to hold his salary so i can plan what i want to do with it but i sweetly refused and asked him to pay the monthly amortization for our little lovenest, the electric and water bills and i would take charge of the groceries, phone and internet bills. We both work in the same company, we know how much each one earns and part of the money goes to our joint savings account (we don't have separate accounts). Both of us are homebody, no vices, no unnecessary things to spend on. And whenever we give some cash to help our extended families (his side and mine) it's a mutual thing. We don't argue about money because we don't have any children. And since there are only the two of us, living as simple as we are, budgeting is not a problem. We do go out, get some dinner someplace, go to a cinema, go shopping and who gets to pay is never an issue. We just make sure that we both have cash in our pockets and wallets before leaving the house. But of course not every man is like my husband. And not every wife is like me. We are this way not just because we love and trust each other so much but also because we both know what the other is doing with the money. We don't keep secrets from each other. Everything is transparent. I do ask some money from him when i don't have enough to pay for something i want to buy and he gladly gives me the cash. I can say, i am blessed for the kind of life i have now. Not much money but no problem about it either. Hi, jack!

Agree ! It's not a good thing to keep self-feeds in husband-wife life. We should insist the cencept "family"! Though, husbands and wifes are ear money by themselves, there are many things need their coroperations in their dayly life.

Hi jacklintan, Well it was a little different in the past when almost all the women were household wives. Thins are slightly different now and women work too, that doesn't mean that men should not give them any money when they pay everything for the household expenses. They work and put all their money for the household expenses ? The man and his wife both ought to contribute for the daily expenses and hence the man eventually has to give some money to his wife whether he likes it or not, otherwise it is going to be unfair. I would do the same thing in my place, i will see to it that i am contributing to our daily needs on equal terms as my wife. The rest of the expenses depends on ourselves.

Well this is still what is being done in our household. My husband voluntarily suggested such an arrangement because he has seen it in his parents and I think it worked for them. So my husband thinks it will also work for us. I think the financial set-up in a household would really depend on what works for them as agreed by both parties. It may work for us, but this may not work for others. What if the husband is the better finance planner than the wife? I don't want to think that it is just a who-earns-more thing, but I think the husband and wife should talk how they would handle their finances that would work for their family. Handling the finances should be a collective effort of both husband and wife.

Honestly speaking....my husband does the budgeting in our home. He is the one paying all the bills every month. sometimes i do the grocery....he's the one who manage our bank account. Maybe it is up to both parties...who is more than willing to budget or responsible enough to take care of it....but the budget for each partner should also take for consideration because both parties do have their own personal needs.....

I don't work so my husband gives me money for house expenses. My dad and my mom both work and my dad gives her expenses every month which I Think it is necessary because everything is so expensive these days.

There are still men out there who will give their wives the home expesnse money,. My father always gave money to my mother for the household expenses. My brother-in-law still gives home expense money to my younger sister., in his case i think the reason may be so he won't be too tempted to spend it himself.

Hi jacklintan! I've been married for almost 27 years and in that 27 years I did not received money from my husband for household expenses. We were both working then, we go to the market on weekends, buy all the necessary stuffs, pay bills, children's tuition fees and all but it is him who pays and not me. Though I still pay for some small expenses. I save my money for emergency cases and when my husband turns lean, he borrowed money from me. Well, I guess, that is now how men look like, they want to spend for the family that's why they control their own money. If they will surrender all their money to their wives, they will look like kids asking for allowance from their moms.

So true on how the world had changed! Things are differently today where some do see it as ours anymore. Some actually look at it as your or mine. Pretty sad to see it this way. Family to me means one unit, what is mine is his and what is his is mine. I understand that times are different and perhaps the woman may make more but still the family unit should still be considered as one. I sort of look at it as together we live, together we accomplish it. I understand if the husband was making very little and the wife was making an exorbitant amount of money, but still they should together help each other out.

Sure, I'm not married yet but that's how my fiancé is doing and I'm preatty confident to get married to a nice guy like this, I think he also will be a good daddy.

I was raised that way, that my mother stayed home, cleaned the home, cooked and cared for the children. My stepfather provided for our family and took care of the bills and gave my mother money to get household items and things she personally needed. Things sure have changed alot and for those of us raised that way, it is kind of engrained into us that that is how its supposed to work but you won't find many old fashioned men out there anymore though there are some.