Wedding traditions

@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
March 21, 2011 1:46pm CST
Two days ago my brother got married. They had decided to get married at the town hall instead of having a church wedding. It was the first time that I went to a wedding that didn't take place in the church, and they didn't have a big party. We were 12 people and the party took place in their own home. At the big wedding parties there are usually lots of songs and lots of speeches, so the party was a bit unusual but it was a very nice party. After dinner we had coffee and the traditional wedding cake. The bride wore a blue dress instead of a white dress like a bride wears in church. Where do weddings take place in your country? What kind of clothes do the bride and the groom wear?
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
In my country couples have the option to either have a civil wedding or a church wedding. I had both. I had a civil wedding first and later, we had a church wedding because it was my mom's dream to see her daughter walked down the aisle. I really didn't spend much on our wedding because I think there are more important things to spend it on like building your own home. It is really not the wedding that matters but the marriage after that one time event that counts.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
Personally I also prefer to spend the money on our home and the life that we have together instead of having a big and very expensive wedding. My parents once went to a very big wedding, the party took place at a castle and it was really beautiful, and the food was very good, but the party was very, very expensive. My mother told me about the wedding afterwards and we both found it a little hard to understand that they chose to spend so much money on the party instead of spending in on their family and their life together. It is their own choice of course, but I wouldn't have done that myself.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
I also don't comprehend how some people can spent a fortune on their weddings and a year has not passed and they are already filing for divorce. At the start of the marriage they are so in love and then suddenly they would just separate and reason out irreconcilable differences. As simple as that. Whatever happened to the love?
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
22 Mar 11
The most common weddings here are also held in the church. Although there are modern ways and places to celebrate it at present like in a garden, or at the beach, which are just equally spectacular and wonderful, most people still prefer to have it in the church. Well of course there's really that strong sense of being wed infront of God. Not that God isn't outside the church, right? Civil weddings are popular here as well. But most traditional people do not opt for it though. Yes the celebration is very simple. Sometimes, it is only among closest relatives and friends and the reception is very simple too
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
In my country there are also some people who get married outside the church for instanse in their own garden. I have never been to one of those weddings myself, but I have heard that is often different to find a vicar who wants to participate in a wedding that takes places outside the church. If the wedding has to take place at home because of bride or the groom is ill, and isn't a problem to find a vicar, but if the couple "just" want to get married in their garden, in a forest etc it can be difficult to find a vicar.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
25 Mar 11
Yes, I understand that it could be a problem. Well, Philippines, being generally catholic, some priests do officiate outside weddings. But the best option is to find a friend priest who would gladly do the ceremony for them.
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@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Most people in my country prefer Church weddings than civil ones. Being a predominantly catholic country, people really view weddings as an oath in front of God than something legal. Usually brides wear a white dress and the Groom wears a "barong" (Native formal wear in my country), but now coat and tie weddings are slowly becoming a fad. Receptions involve a lot of food, games, dancing and speeches. It is also usually the guy and the guy's family who spends for the wedding. It used to be ill-manners to let the girl and/or her family spend anything for the wedding. But since times have changed, usually couples shoulder their wedding expenses
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
In the past church weddings were much more popular than civil weddings in my country, but today civil weddings have become very popular. Most people are protestants, there are some catholics as well, but it is only a small group. In Denmark most brides wear a white dress, but it is possible to wear a dress in another colour for instanse a red dress. My own dress was white and my relatives and friends all wore the traditinonal white dress, I have only seen the colourful wedding dresses in the shops.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
22 Mar 11
Mabuhay! Very well said!
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 11
Before, Indonesia has 27 provinces and they all have their own traditional wedding dress, both for woman and man. Whew! Some people still like to get wed in their traditional dress, even though the reception is held in a hotel Some adopt the western style wedding dress, white for the girl and tuxedo for the man. The more young generation held their wedding receptions in a hotel or a building for rent. However, many of the actual wedding vows usually takes place in their house, or church, or mosque for Muslim.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
I didn't know that every province in Indonesia has their own tradional wedding dress, that is a lot of different dresses. In the old days we had a similar tradition in Denmark. The bride and the groom wore the traditional dress from their part of the country, but after some time the tradition changed and the bride started wearing a black dress. Today mpst bride wear a while dress.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 11
Yes, every province has its own wedding dress. I don't even recognized each of them as several are similar with only a slight difference. I would notice the ones from Bali, Central Java, Padang, Manado, Irian Jaya as they are really particular. I did not know that a bride wear a black dress. But that reminds me that West Jawa and East Java determine that the couple would have to wear the black traditional wedding dress before they changed to any color or type of wedding dresses.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Here in the Philippines, most of us still prefer Weddings at churches. Civil weddings are only done if it is preferred by a couple who hasn't had much savings to throw a church wedding. If they get married at the city hall with the blessing of a mayor, they will still opt to get married in a church in a few years time. It's quite a tradition here in our country to have the blessing of a priest or a pastor on your wedding day. Weddings can be done in some other venues as preferred by the couple but still it is being officiated by a priest or a pastor. These weddings can vary from big to simple weddings but family members are always present no matter what.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
26 Mar 11
Some couples in Denmark do the same thing. They get married in the town hall first and once they have saved up the money for a big party they get married in a church. But in other ways my country is different from yours, because many people choose a civil wedding instead of a church wedding. In the past church weddings were more common than civil weddings, but today it is the other way around and civil weddings (where the couple don't get married in church later) are more common than church weddings today.
• China
22 Mar 11
first,good luck to your brother, in china,wedding look same as your easter country,but the tadtional wedding isn't same as yours at all,that day ,there is palanquin,costume,rich dinner, also,we will hold some activities,for example,baitang includings to world,parsents.baidal chamber
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
I have never heard about the Chinese wedding traditions before, and there were some words in your description that I didn't understand. What is palanquin?
@Galena (9110)
21 Mar 11
weddings in the UK take place in religious buildings or licensed venues. in order to be registered as a place for marriage, a venue needs to be covered, and have walls. so not outside, which is a great shame. last I read of it, when I was planning my wedding, civil ceremonies make up over half of weddings in the UK. because you can't have any religious content in a civil ceremony, we had to have two ceremonies, in order to make an Oath to the Gods. so we first had a handfasting in a stone circle, and then went on to have the legal ceremony beside a subterranean lake in an old slate mine. which was absolutely beautiful too. in the UK there isn't this assumption that a civil ceremony will be any less grand or traditional than a church ceremony. many years ago, people would say that you "can't" have a big white dress/veil/bridesmaids/father walking down the aisle etc. but you can. and in fact, many people do.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Mar 11
Your wedding sounds beautiful. In Denmark it is possible to get married outside. I have never been to a wedding that tool place outside, but my friend's brother got married in their own garden, because the bride didn't want to get married in a church. I don't know how many civil ceremomies there are in Denmark, but I heard that civil weddings have become more popular than church weddings.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Here in my country the most common tradition are church wedding or civil wedding. With church wedding,it has to be with big expenses from church entourage to the reception. The usual wedding march with all the brides maids and groom's men,the secondary sponsor,flower girls,ring bearer and so on ten followed by the bridal march and the wedding ceremony. With civil wedding,it is simple held in municipal/city hall in front of the mayor or judge licensed to wed. Then a simple gathering. In some areas,some tribes has different wedding ceremonies too which lasted for 3 days of feasting and a lot more.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Mar 11
Weddings at your place sound different from the traditional weddings in my country. I have never been at a wedding where there was a ring bearer or flower girls. I don't even know exactly what flowers girls are. What do they do? In my country some couples exchange rings during the ceremony and some couples don't do it. If the engagement rings and the wedding rings are the same the couple already wear the rings when they arrive and they skip that part of ceremony.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
There are plenty of wedding traditions here in our country. There are many people who seem to like doing the traditions but its also nice to know that more and more people try to get away from it. I mean, change is good.
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