Girls, would you date a poor guy?

OMG I actually had this same conversion with my sister haha. I think it depends. I know that sound really bad and that I should answer that "of course I will date a poor guy" but it is true that you can't live on love alone. Of course love will always come first but what will you do with that love if you have nothing to eat or nowhere to sleep. If the guy is poor but is motivated, hardworking and industrious then I could definitely see myself with him but if he is poor and does nothing to get out of the situation then I think I will pass on it even if I love him. I'm talking about long term relationship and potential marriage here and not just the one month relationship. Money is important and that is not me being a gold digger or something but that's me being realistic and practical.

i wouldnt. not because im in only for the money. i understand that at a certain point of the relationship (if it develops into one) it wouldnt matter much who spends, not even if i do. but as i see men, i think it will be amiss in his ego if he doesnt pick up the tab. men would like to see themselves as good providers and no matter how self-reliant we women can be, its still doesnt work as an excuse for them. if he doesnt have money (because he's poor- what would be a better term for this? it sounds quite off) it would definitely be a cause of argument as i would always initiate taking matters on my own especially if i have the resources more than he does.its quite a sensitive thing to be dealing with money so id rather not date someone who lacks in this aspect.

Hi. katie0. Money is not important as love is. If a person has love for another person, then it will be easier for them to be together despite materialistic things. So money is not everything at all. To some women it is very important, but to me it is not that important when it comes to loving or liking someone.

There are girls who look for a guy and check their financial stability. They may seem materialistic but they are practical. It is also hard to marry someone who cannot provide for you or for your future kids. Though what you have describe i believe are really those materialistic ladies who wont accept a guy if there is no car or house of their own,that is a different story. As for me,personally, i looked for a guy who can provide for me, is capable of earning money for me and my family. It is not a material thing nor i am being materialistic but i am just being practical, it is hard to live thinking that you do not have food on your plate, thinking how about the bills to be paid, thinking where would i get tuition for my kids? you see, money is also a matter, well for me it is, money is a matter in marriage, when your husband does not work it is hard, i am just lucky because the guy that i love is one who is willing to sacrifice and work his as* off to provide for me and our kids. But i also reciprocate it, i also work so that things are both lighter for us and at the same time we still get to have fun and be happy. The ones you are referring are those materialistic girls who wants guys with flashing cars and luxurious houses so they could live life and does not have to work hard

Well it depends I mean define poor.I wouldnt care if the person wasnt rich but if they are sitting next to the dumpster behind Papa Johns with a can..I wouldnt really be interested .. .You need someone who has something going for them so yea money is important but it shouldnt be all your looking at. If the person is working and trying to make something out of themselves then i dont see a problem. P.S you both should be working unless your like a stay at home wife. Freeloading isnt cool.

hi katie, Well it's not big deal as long as i will not pay for the expenses besides loving someone is not about his bank account, assets and liabilities what would i do to his assets if he can't love me back or can't be faithful to me. Maybe those girls are not looking for a love but someone who can sustain they needs. happy mylotting

LOL I not only dated him but I married him 41 years ago. We are not rich by any means, But we do own 24 wooded acres and own our vehicles clear and have a small emergency savings in the bank. We struggle to make ends meet though but are keeping our head above water so far. I could have married other men who had more wealth and became richer. But they were arrogant, selfish and conceited. Two were also players and cheated on spouses. They should be glad they never married me. Haha I don't put up with such people. So just because some one is poor, there are riches beyond money and material goods. There is love, there is commitment, trust, honesty, sharing, giving, acceptance and blessings of various nature. We will celebrte our 41st wedding anniversary April 20th this year. We are still lovers and best of friends. Girls who look for money and easy street are easy girls and shallow, they cannot see beyond the surface and potential for something better. They want to be treated like princess's. A nice walk or bicycle ride and picnic lunch is fun and awesome. Take a camera too. Take some stale bread to feed birds or squirrels. Dating need not be expensive as long as it is fun and conversation is stimulating. Those girls should look at men of history, Abraham Lincoln for one, he was not rich and he became president of the United States. Elvis Presley came from a poor family and became a world renowned Rock n Roll singer and Movie Star. So when you hear those girls acting like that tell them you might think he is poor but he might become rich and you will wish you had not spurned him. There were girls stuck their noses in the air at my son, He is not an up and coming attorney and into politics as well. He married a smart woman who is also an attorney. So someone poor can become quite successful later in life.

i married a poor fellow! we have been married for 24 years and have had some ups and downs but we are still in love!

Yes money is important to me. I'm not a materialistic person and I don't have tons of money myself but I at least need a guy who is on the same level or above me economically. I need them to be able to pull their own weight. I don't want to have to take care of them 100% financially. They can't be broke all the time that is a sign that they aren't responsible with their finances and if they aren't responsible with their finances then they probably won't be responsible in a lot of other aspects of their life.

I wonder how will that poor guy asks his girl for a date? Say,he is poor and don't have much money to spend for a candle light dinner in a high class hotel. then,how will the guy asks for a date? will the guys say...let's have a date tonight,but,it's just under the moonlight while eating junk foods No,im not mocking poor guys okay. For me,isn't more romantic,sitting under the moonlight,eating junk foods or even street foods. When you love someone,it's not all about money,unless you will be practical enough to look for a guy that has savings at the bank. note: you-refers in general

Hi katie: even if I'm not a girl I think that's a hard question. Specially because a lot of girls want stability and if your husband is a poor man, you'll have some economical troubles in the near future. However, I think that if you love each other you'll find a way to make this relationship work out and money will come to you sooner or later. For me love is more important but I can understand the reasons why a person would prefer to find a person that makes them feel safe. ALVARO

Yes, I will date a poor guy, you can never tell about our future, As long as the guy is responsible God fearing why not?

How poor are we talking? Dating in general is to meet a potential spouse (wife or husband) If the guy is poor, as to I can not have the basic things i need, like paying on a mortgage, lights, gas, food, and other expenses than no. I have to be honest I can not see myself in that kind of relationship. I wouldn't want to struggle, a struggle in general can't keep happiness in a relatonship. I don't see how. I'm not saying the guys I date have to be rich, but he has to at least have some form of income and legal at that.

Actually money for serious relationships is very important, its not most important but it is important. And for me, i have dated with poor guys, but mostly i do understand thats the reason why they are poor, mostly they just dont want to work, and earn money, they choose to wait, that someone will give that money, but i dont like such guys, i like mans who work, who always think where to get money to live, to please their girls, or even family...

To be honest,previous childhood think that money is not so important,but,as the growth of the age,people are becoming more and more practical,it is undeniable that now for me money or more important a standard!

I think love from each other is the most important,money can be earned later on.But nowadays most of the girls come on to the guys who have so much money to buy buildings or cars,if not,no way!So there's a describing:They are those girls who marry houses or cars,not their husbands!lol

halu katieo, if we are talking on dating,of course i can date on a poor guy,that something so different,you are going in the park,walking while telling some stories,we will know each other much,you can laugh loud,without hassles. of course money is important too,but i will choice a simple but happy life. if that poor guy will pursue to improve his life status and a hard working, i do believed he can move on. being poor is not the hindrances to make a dream come true. Bless day

I don't think money is the most important thing in a relationship...although I'm sure it helps! I grew up in a family where money was always tight. Yes, there were issues, but we always worked through them, and the most important thing was that we all loved each other, and found ways to get by and have fun without a ton of cash. So I'm used to being kind of strapped for cash, and I won't brush off a guy for being the same way. I might turn down a guy living on his buddy's couch cuz he can't get a job, but other than that, I'm not looking for much.

I think money is important for marriage life.To a destitute couple nothing goes well. if the girl is very rich,the guy is rich or not taht's not so important any more.so i can't agree with you more

Hi,good day Ms Katie! As saying says Money talks...but for me it depends because if i like the guy and from the start i feel the sparkle inside me its fine even if he's a poor guy but if not that much feeling just to so called show off boyfriend must have money inside his pocket.As an example based from my past relationship,hes only poor one but we understands each other and theres a good chemistry between us.I accepted the situation and help each other.i can see his determination and wit that he will become succesful in life for his positive attitude to learn and being hardworking for the future.And the thing is he dont want me to spend whenever we're on a date and even not expensive restaurant or place as long as we're together is fine with me.So we respect each others capability and his totality.