I am very busy.

I don't like it when people said that to me in a chat. If he/ she is really busy why did he/she bothered with logging in the chat? So, when some people said they are busy in a chat, I would automatically say to myself: Yeah, busy chatting... with someone else...

All I can say is just read between the lines. You'll know if someone is avoiding you or not.

I have noticed this a lot in many people. But I have learned that many people are actually busy. I am myself, and I have so much of things that I have to do. So, when they say that they are busy, and sound like they really are, I will believe them. If they are always busy and they never seem to want to talk to me, I would start to think that they are just lying and they are avoiding me.

Hi dpk! Sorry I'm late for this wonderful discussion, but I was busy!lol No, I'm only kidding! I would never be too busy for one of your discussions. I find this one interesting coming from you though. I would think that your instincts would be "spot on" and you could tell if someone was avoiding you or not. I usually can! I also decide when I want to be "busy", meaning when one of my friends calls and I just don't feel like talking. My best girlfriend sometimes will call me 6 times a day and if I don't call her back will keep calling and leave me messages each time. I know it's about nothing and she can be really annoying sometimes and sometimes I'm just not in the mood! I love her dearly, but there are days I don't want to deal with her "drama about nothing"! But, if she really needs me I will talk to her. I guess it depends on the relationship you have with this "person" that you feel is avoiding you. If it is realing bothering you, which it seems to be why don't you just come out and ask them?

Hello dpk, Maybe they were really busy the time you wanted to see or speak to them.In my point of view If theres nothing to avoid or some reason they really don't want to see me that I just think maybe they were really busy but if ever that in the past we misunderstood each other then maybe being busy is just a way to avoid me.And so I just let them be, somehow if the time they want to communicate or see me then its their turn to make their way..lol. Hope everything is well with you friend..Have a nice day!

maybe they are just busy, but if after some times they are still not talking to you maybe they are avoiding you.... or maybe they are just not in the mood to talk to you...

As you pointed out, it depends on the person. Sometimes ..especially with people who I am close to.....I accept the fact that they are really busy. But sometimes...especially when it happens quite a few times in a row with people I am just friendly with....I take it as a hint that they are trying to avoid me. Either ways it doesn't matter. In the 2nd instance, I might feel dejected for a while...but then I know that they have a right to feel the way they do and I probably was being too pushy anyways. So, I let things be.

I am not sure about this Deepak! Normally if I say 'I am busy' I am really busy doing something.Others can behave they way they want.If I feel like it I would call a person and talk.I am normally quite quick in sensing signals and would check first of all if a person is busy, if I can disturb the person.

Hi DPK, Sometimes it really isn't convenient to talk. If I am too busy if someone calls I will usually give a reason, like I am just about to bath my son before bed but I will ring you back once he is settled. If the phone rings whist I am settling him I will ignore anyway. If someone calls by and I am just on my way out to work, I will say, great to see you but I really am just on my way out the door, will call you when I get home to arrange a time we can meet up. I will never say I am just too busy as that leave them feeling that you can't really be bothered with them. However if it is a call from a salesperson, I will say I am busy right now with no explanation. Huggles. Ellie :D

First time around that I say 'I'm busy' I usually mean it. But, if after that first time the person turns around and starts harassing me and checking up on me all the time, I get annoyed with them and 'I'm busy' just becomes a phrase to get them off my back. I guess I figure that if they refuse to respect the 'being busy' as the truth then they are the creepy ones that just can't handle life away from me. I had a friend that did that to me. I was knee deep in taking care of my kids and she couldn't handle it. So much so that she would call and have her friends call me constantly. She would show up at my house with an oversized hoodie on and try to cover the peep hole on my front door so I couldn't see that it was her that was knocking. She even tried to break into my back window one night. I wanted to call the police at that point, but my ex boyfriend told me not to because she had a young son and that would be taking her away from her child. He was right, and it ended up dying down after awhile. But, in that kind of situation saying 'I'm busy' is a lot better of a thing to say that 'Leave me alone you psyko creep, you!'

Most of the time I just take it to mean that they ARE actually busy and can't talk. But then, as you said, it depends on the situation. Like, if you were discussing something that you's don't really want to talk about then they might say that to avoid you and you know that's why they're doing it, so that they can avoid the conversation.

hello dpk, I feel guilty of this sometimes. Good thing you brought this topic here. First...when i said i am busy,it is true. It's not i don't want to communicate. If i don't want to communicate with others then i better go offline aint? Some reason why people says they are busy,maybe because they are talking with other person and having some important matters. One thing i hate is...when people are too insensitive to understand and keep asking "are you busy" or...okay,i guess you are busy ... When my friends are online...and i don't have important things to say,i jusy say hi or hello and it's fine. Unless i have a very important thing to say then i will asks hi/her if we can talk..that's better way of saying that you really want to talk. With day to day information,we can leave message anyway..just to let them know that we are fine and that we also want to know their situation. Or,maybe it depends with whom you are talking with...if you are talking with someone very special,and he/she says "i am busy" well...maybe something wrong. Hope to make myself clear here too

Well i don't think most of the time people are not really busy. I put myself busy sometimes so that i don't want to talk to some at some time or maybe they just called me at the wrong time which i really hate. I would just put my cell in silent mode and would prefer to let in ring continuously for sometime. However i find that some people play the same trick on me. That's not bad if u ask me because i do the same for them that's why... Cheers!

I think we should always give this damn benefits of the doubts if we don't want to get hurt. I always see this reason as an easy way to say "hey,wait, I get into you when I like it." It is the same with "hey, go away, I am not interested". But as always, we should give him the benefits of the doubts!

I would believe it unless it happened repeatedly. If i suspected they were avioding me i would just ask them if it were so. Then leave it up to them to contact me or not.

I think it depends on the situation and who the person is. I know they are busy alot, have a small business or whatever then I call another time. If it is someone I don't know very well I may not try again or wait for them to call me. I don't like to bother people. The few people I call or try to get ahold of aren't busy and I know that if they are screening their calls I know they will call me when they get to it.

It is fully depend on the relation with the person with whom you want to communicate. If the person is much close and we have informal relation with him, we have faith in them than there no room for doubt.

Well it all depends on the situation and the personality of the person you are talking about. If the person can't communicate with you once or twice because he/she is busy, then maybe ha/she is truly busy. But if the person is always telling you that they can't communicate because they are busy then it may mean that he/she is avoiding you. We can be very busy at times but that does not mean that we can be busy all the time. There are times in a day that people pause to relax or take a break. Thus, there are opportunity that "busy" people can use to communicate with other people.

it depends, if he or she is always giving that reason that is the time you get to doubt.However, see the nature of the work they are in - are they housekeeper or working in a status handling people. Let us put ourselves in them and find reasons for them why they keep on saying they are busy. we have to understand their status but be sensitive that you must avoid them if they really don't want your company,look for others to be with and have fun.

Yeah, I`ve experienced that. You can`t do anything, but let them be. They have their reasons for ignoring you. They may be mad, or it can be something else. If they are adult enough, they will come to you about it and tell you what`s wrong. If not, you shouldnt be friends with immature people like that.