He can't sleep without me~

It does seem comforting to have our babies sleep with us, but my suggestion is that at 7 he really needs to sleep in his room. It will get much more difficult the longer he does not. Maybe get the monitors you put in his room and one in yours so that you can be comfortable knowing that he is sound asleep. Since he is 7 it will be a bit hard at first so maybe start out slow gradually increasing. Best of luck.

All those times you were thinking that he can't but it's actually who really can't. Well, he will have difficulty sleeping alone though, it wouldn't be easy for him but I also believe he already can. I was once like your son. And even at my age now, I still sleep in the same bed with my mom. I love it when mom hugs me. :) A lot of people in our neighborhood teased me as "mama's boy" but it doesn't bother me much. LOL. It might be perhaps mom is always around almost all the time back then as I grew up. And maybe it's the same thing with your son. You are such a sweet mom though. :)

Hi. toniganzon. I am a mom of three and I have a ten year old son. I would never let him sleep in the same bed with me anymore. I will just allow him to sleep in his own bed. I would feel very comfortable with him sleeping in his own bedroom. It is more appropriate to me. You will just have to coax him into sleeping in his own bedroom. Put a night light in his bedroom and help him to relax by turning on some soothing music like waterfalls, rain petals and other soothing sounds.

At that age, I think that it's time for him to start sleeping in his own room. Sleeping with you after he has a nightmare, that's one thing. But if it's every night that's another thing. If you can find a way for him to sleep in his own room, that would be so much better.

The sad thing about being a parent is that your whole purpose is to work yourself out of a job. Meaning... you are supposed to teach your child how to not need you. If you do not, your son will end up like the pathetic people that I see here in America. They are 40 years old, still don't have a job, don't have a family, still live at home, and still can't handle being an adult. Their parents never taught them how to stand on their own. Don't be like that. If your child does not learn how to live life without you, then you have failed as a parent, and you have abused your child. Don't abuse your child. Teach him how to be an adult.

It is time for him to be in his own bed. Not just for him but for you and your husband. He is old enough to understand he must sleep in his own room. I am worring that my son will not sleep in his own bed, but he is only 6 months at the mo, and still wakes every few hrs at night and just wont go down in his bed. I really hope to break this soon.

Maybe its in your culture to have your kids sleep with you as long as they can…in India too it’s the tradition to have our kids beside us at night. Our only son is 11yrs old and we cant ever imagine sleeping without him. Kids having separate bedrooms is a distinctly western concept where kids as small as 4/5 yrs old are expected to sleep alone. However, like you, I too cant imagine sleeping without my son next to me…in a few years he’d be in his adolescence and very naturally want his own room and to sleep alone…I think that would be the best time to shift him.

Although I love taking naps with my 5 year old son sometimes, I have to agree with everyone else, at 7 years old it's long since past the time when your son should be sleeping in his own bed. I understand that you might miss him but honestly, it's for his own good as well yours and your husbands. What does your husband think of your son sleeping in bed with you every night? Your son may cry and throw a fit when you tell him he needs to sleep in his own bed but you really need to show some "tough love" and let him cry it out. If it helps, tell him that all of his friends at school sleep in their own beds and that he's a big boy now and that's what big boys do. It may be hard at first but he'll get over it very quickly I'm sure and he'll be just fine.

i also think it's about time he learns to sleep alone without you beside him. you really think he could make it? or should i agree that it's you who couldn't bear the nights alone? hey, what about your husband?

Hi toni.. This is called mother's affection. I was with my father to my age of 10. Lol

Hello, Your son is getting older you are married eventually you are going to have to let him sleep in his own bed, how does your husband feel about this? when he gets to be 12/13 will you still want him to sleep with you, maybe you should start getting him ready to sleep alone now before there comes a point he will be so use to you that he will never wanna sleep by himself, I know as a mom myself how you feel, but being married sleeping with your child is something I don't agree with, JMO

My son also could not sleep without me for a long period of time. This happened since a baby-sitter scared him at about 3 years old and after that he was afraid of dark and wouldn't sleep alone anymore. It was a very hard period and he slept in my bed for a long time and I did a lot of calming methods to convince him he is secure besides me. Then I bought my son a puppy toy, the one he most liked from the shop, and big enough to embrace tight when sleeping. After some time everything got to normal. The best thing is that a child has his own room and bed.

My daughter (5 years old) often also sleeps in our bed.. but I wanted to put a stop on it, she has her own room and she should get used to being in it. This is how we do it.. I put her to bed in her room at night, we read stories and I lay down with her and wait till she is asleep. Sometimes she'll sleep through the night, sometimes she won't.. if she wakes up she usually comes into our room and lays down to sleep next to me without me even knowing. Eventually she won't do it anymore.. I'm always thinking, when she goes to College she definitely won't want to sleep in my bed anymore, haha. It's a way of letting go slowly I guess :)

That`s very sweet and it is hard to let him go like that. But he`s growing up. Is he scared of the dark or something? You can start by lying down with him in his room and when he falls asleep, you can go to your room. But when he`s ready, he`ll be ready. I drop and pick up my little brothers from school, but now they are telling me they want to go home alone. It`s not that far of a walk and they know the way. So, yeah, when he`s ready, it`ll happen.

He can't sleep in his own room because you've never made him. My DH and I have NEVER let our DD sleep with us in our bed. She has her own room with her own bed. When she was an infant and we first brought her home from the hospital, she slept in a cradle next to our bed, but after that, she was moved to her own room with her own bed and she sleeps fine. If she has a nightmare she wakes up and gets one of us and we do the obligatory check under the bed and in the closet for monsters and we may read her a story or sit with her for a few minutes, but she's not allowed to sleep with us nor will we sleep in her room. Children have to learn how to self soothe. You need to move him to his own bed. Now. He's way too old to be sleeping with you. He's gonna cry and throw a fit, but he's old enough to be told NO and to tough it out. Life isn't fair and this is one of those times he just has to understand it. Sounds like you've got some dependency issues of your own as well. Just my opinion and you probably won't like it but again, life isn't fair.

Have you ever talked about this with your pediatrician? Is he having some seperate fear thing going on? My friend told me that her daughter is goin through the stage that she can't sleep alone in her room because she has the fear of being alone so she sleep in their bed every night. I let my baby sleep in his room only when I get too too tired in the early morning, I let him sleep on our bed after nursing him but not when going to bed at night. How about putting him to his own bed, tell him a story or sing to him, leave the room until he falls asleep?

so you have to work on that ...you have to understand that if your son is dependent of you for everything it is gonna be really bad for his life..he always will come back to see if you are there or not. you know that he can sleep by himself and maybe he will like that! having a bed just for him and bla bla bla...he will be there in the morning and you will see him again and you will have more fun sleep just with you husband...hahaha take care!