Two loves

@LeighB (700)
Thailand
March 22, 2011 10:13am CST
Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time and So, to have two relationhips at the same time? Let's say they both know of the others existence and there is no underhandness or lying. So, If one of these loves is your soul mate, life long companion and the other is your partner your lover, your world. Can it work or are you just heading for a big collision that will leave you with neither?
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edev85
@edev85 (26)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 11
it's possible to be in love with 2 people. You should decide to choose one of them. You should not hesitate to choose, otherwise both will leave you because they feel that you are kind of person that can't make decision.
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LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
31 Mar 11
It sounds so simple but honestly it isn't. One of them I have been with for 32 years and we seem to be more like soul mates that need each other to function. The other one I have been with for 2 years and says that I keep them on the right path in life and needs me to as their rock. Both of them love me for who I am and each knows about te other. But I only want one love in my life. Am I being selfish!!
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voldrox
@voldrox (7191)
• India
23 Mar 11
Hello LeighB, I guess i can only speak about myself here. I can't fall in love with two person at the same time. Maybe the situation is too complicated in your case, but i would rather not entertain both of them. It is going to get me into deep trouble, besides, i can't really love two persons at the same. One could be my best friend and the other my girlfriend. Take care, friend. Make your love your soulmate, that is all i can say in such a complicated situation.
voldrox
@voldrox (7191)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi LeighB, Just take care my friend. Even my girlfriend always said she needed my support, emotional support and now after 2 years of our relationship she has found some other guy friend of hers, and i am sure she seeks his support now. We broke up for good !
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
Hi voldrox, Thanks for your response. Both of the girls tell me they need my support (not financial) and stability. But I am not sure, after 32 years with one and 2 years with both, I can be here any longer for either of them.
knicnax
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Yes it is, but you can't have equal love for them, there is always someone who you love more
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
I agree with you both, feelings cannot be the same for the 2 people but each one has special qualities that determine a different kind of love.
jeffreyallen
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Wow. I really dont know how that would work. I mean I`ve heard of open relationships like that, but it`s mind boggling how this people keep it up. It can only work if everyone is on the same page, I guess. If everyone is okay with it, then sure. Anything is possible.
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
Yeah, I think it is me having the problem. It is not what I would call an ideal situation and not one I would have chosen to be in. But here I am and I know eventually I will have to choose, for my own sanity.
jeffreyallen
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I know this is cliche, but... listen and follow your heart. Best thing you can do.
saibal10
@saibal10 (89)
• India
23 Mar 11
No, I don't think it is possible. Love is a devotion. I don't think it should be totally platonic, but mental involvement is much more necessary than other. And if that involvement splits the gravity of love dilutes. It becomes fade.
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
Love is a devotion, that is true but what about a parent who has 2 children and loves them both equally. It depends on how you view the word love!
patrickjason_cheng
@patrickjason_cheng (24)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Decide decide decide..... Choose who you really want. Having 2 loves is just simply being selfish because you dont want to loose either of them. In the end youll loose both becasue of your selfishness.... No offense intended. Sorry....
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
No offense taken. The thing is I did decide but neither of them would accept my choice and leave my life. Now I have them both and it is as if the choice is no longer mine to make.
jahernandezrivas
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
22 Mar 11
It is possible to be in Love with 2 at the same time but you have to choose my dear. It will eventually turn into a collision for sure and I know it is a hard thing to deal with but I just don't think it is possible with out running in to trouble down the road sad but true, hope everything works out for you. Have a good day!
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
22 Mar 11
Yes, it is not easy, I am in the middle trying to juggle my happiness along with theirs. After 18 months it is becoming a lot harder to keep both sides happy and divide my time without causing problems.
Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
It is possible to love 2 person at the same time,it happens. But you have to choose,living with those 2 person is not possible (ugh!) You have to weigh things,who's to choose and who's to loose.
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
22 Mar 11
No there is no way I would share the same bedroom with both of them nor would I change rooms on alternate nights. As a song once said..."One is in my head, one is in my bed, but both have my heart."
Mrs Martinez
@pjnjclyn (176)
• Newton, New Jersey
22 Mar 11
There are all different types of love. Is it possible for you to love 2 people at the same time yes it is. If everything can work out is between all the people that are involved. The best thing that you can do is to be honest with everyone that is involved. It will not be something that is easy to do and depending on how everyone else feels it might not be something that they are interested in. It is better to know where you stand because if you keep it from one or both people that you are in love with then it will collide. I wish you the best in luck in whatever road you choose to go down
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
22 Mar 11
2 years ago, when I started dating my partner my soul mate of 32 years thought it was the best thing for me and what I needed. It seemed strange to me to getting their backing and support and to know that their feelings and love for me would never change and mine for her neither, but I guess we had evolved to a different level in our relationship.
asxenon
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 11
Love is a complicated subject. Don't get yourself into 2xcomplication :p Unless both your girlfriends are very understanding and can accept sharing a man, you better make your decision and be honest with it. I am definitely lucky not to be in a position like this :D All the best man!
Reneelao
@Reneelao (223)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
LeighB, it would really be hard to be in love with two people. you will get yourself in big trouble. your time will be divided in two. How would you do both things at the same time? I would say it's not possible to have two relationship at the same time. Yes, at the end... you'll get nothing. Think carefully...
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
22 Mar 11
The pst 2 years I have done little else than think and annalize this situation. But they both love me in different ways Ias do I do them.
Toni
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
This reminded me of my grandmother's brother who has three wives living under one roof and the two are siblings. I cannot imagine how they could have loved the same man and share it with each other and had lots of children with him. I cannot even imagine him loving all three of them equally. I guess it really is possible to love two people at the same time but with different intensity and the love contribution varies.
LeighB
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Mar 11
Wow, your grandmothers brother must be quite a guy, to live under the same roof with 3 wives and have kids from them too. For me it is a bit simpler, at least there are no children involved.
Jiabsa
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
23 Mar 11
Keeping love with two people at the same time is a kind of cheat. If it is mere friendship, there is no problem. i know that some people love with 4 and 5 people at the same time. For these kinds of people, love is time pass. They don't have sincere love. If our love with a person is sincere, we can't love others at that time.
Joeyfish
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
22 Mar 11
A collision is almost inevitable when it comes to something like that. It would only take a matter of time for one to fee less loved then the other, or one person to feel left out. So as a relationship together I personally think a disaster is bound to come. As for being in love with two people I highly, highly doubt it. You might have a strong connection between them, and love them both. (And it might just be lust in disguise). But as for being in love with them both, I don't think is possible. People underestimate love now days.
Joeyfish
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
22 Mar 11
I could see that you could maybe all be a really close group of friends. But as for all together in one relationship it would be very difficult to maintain. Relationships involving two people are hard to keep together as it is.. so with another person involved it would seem impossible. But if you think you can do it, go for it. There will be consequences involved in the future, good or bad, but if you're ready for it then do it!
johan143
@johan143 (164)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
I have no idea and i don't like complicated life. one is enough and two is too much. one of my mottos aside from the golden rule is to "never let someone be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option".
abatencila
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
I don't think so. You cannot serve two masters at the same time.It's either you will love the other more or hate them both. Besides, that's not fair for both of them. How can you start a family with two person, better yet decide early than being left alone.