I need help to tolerate my dad more..
By Joeyfish
@Joeyfish (239)
United States
March 22, 2011 11:01am CST
So pretty much I think it's fair to say that my father is the reason for 90% of my sadness. My mom left him when I was young, and my two sisters moved out so now it's just me and him. And it seems like every day he just always finds a new way to tell me that I am going nowhere in life. Whenever I am doing something that I truly enjoy; skateboarding, listening to music, working on my truck, or just talking to friends online, he always has to criticize me in some way. Saying I should put my time into something more useful, or why work on something that I can't even drive (He is the one that won't let me get my license). He is always complaining that I don't do anything when really he won't let me. He won't let me get a job, get my license, go and hang out with friends.. I just don't know what to do anymore. I hate him. When I was 8 I was considering suicide just to try and to escape everything. I tried talking to him several times but he never budges. I ran away to try and make a point, and all he did was make things worse after that. I don't know any other way to get to him. Any ideas?
3 responses
@XxCodyScenexX (38)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Your in a tough situation dude, So am I. what I would say is to just ignore him and what he does. Just be yourself and know that in the end, It all matters about JUST YOU.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I was also raised by very controlling parents, and I always fought with them to no avail.
Maybe one thing you could do is try to compromise. Have you asked him what it is he wants you to do? If you have, maybe you could try doing it for some time, not letting it consume your whole life. Ask him, if I spend some time doing what you want me to do, will you let me do what I enjoy?
I hope this helps.
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Wow your situation sounds similar to my mom before I left home and lived with my sis.
Anyway your dad is prolly making you miserable because he is miserable.Um maybe you guys can find something fun that you both like to do? whether its video games or um watching a movie. (Sucker Punch is out in the movies maybe you guys could watch that) Its action packed so maybe you guys would like it.
Or another option would be to not live with him.I notice in some parent to teen relationships that sometimes separation is the best option.
when I left home for half a year to live with my sis my mom was downright intolerable and did stuff similar to what your dad is doing to you. But when I came back home my mom was better and realized she should of been nicer.
P.S she read my journal which told her why I left so I guess I left her feeling guilty which in turn made her nicer.
Best of Luck! and try to hang in there 
