Instant Marriage with True Lover

India
March 22, 2011 12:38pm CST
Sorry today I cant give any response and I can't submit any discussion because I am so busy in special or instant marriage. Today my cousin dever (Rohit) has came in our house with his lover, 5 friends, father and with pandit and he was saying us I want to get marriage. He said I want to marry with my girlfriend in your house but my father-in-laws says no we cannot performed in my house but we can performed your marriage in Temple. My dever was staying in other town but he came in our town to get marriage because my father-in-law is a nice men and get help any time to anyone. We all of us went to temple and attend this marriage. Marriage is solemnized very well Pandit was so comedy and in the middle they say some comedy words so we all of us enjoy this marriage ceremony. My dever's mother and father is ready for this marriage but girl's father and mother is not ready so he take this action. You can say Rohit is a true lover and this is called instant marriage what you thing put your valuable thought Rohit is right or not
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sameer_1984
@sameer_1984 (215)
• India
23 Mar 11
Hi friend, According to me Rohit had taken a right step to get married with poonam as both of them have true love for each other.I wish a very happy married life to the couple.But one thing Rohit should also remember that there is increase in his responsibilities.Fortunately Rohit's parent supporting this marriage and with the time poonam's parent will also accept this marriage.But still then Rohit should give mental and emotional support to poonam as she is seperated from her family. Happy mylotting
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smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Thanks friend to say Rohit had taken right step and you are right now Rohit's responsibility are increased and he should emotionally support Poonam and I know Rohit is a good boy. He is an Advocate so he can understand better. Nice response thanks to put your valuable response if you like this is good discussion you can rated it
umabharti
@umabharti (3972)
• India
22 Mar 11
hi, i appreciate and congratulations to your "Dever" and "Devrani" the new couple.i wish them a happy married life .Boys and girls should be like that only should take bold steps in love and marriage have a good planning about life.It is not that they dont need parents approval.Life is to live , and living with a person whom we have the passion to be with and love to live with its the greatest turn and step or decision to be chosen .i feel very happy that u are with them as a support.
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smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Mar 11
ohhhhhh thanks friend yes really they make a good planning. Yes my full family are support them and their lunch program also arranged in our house. Thanks to give nice response Good night
Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Mar 11
Hi surekha, Best wishes to the newly married couple. There is nothing wrong to marry a girl he loved. I am not sure about the background of the couples so I can’t give my judgment whether they did the right or wrong thing (lol). I mean I don’t know why the girl’s family opposed, if the boys parents agreed then they can arranged the marriage ceremony, why they people come to your home? I have an opinion that they could wait little bit more so the girl’s family agreed and make the marriage more blissful. This is only my opinion not a criticism against their act. He has every right to marry girl, who love each other. I hope the girl’s parents will accept this marriage soon and bless them.
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Yes friend you are saying we can arranged marriage ceremoney performed for that our relatives went to the girls house and say them the girl and boy love to each other and they want to get marriage so the caste is same, Rohit is a good boy he is an Advocate and his practice is good then why you are not agree but the girl's father was saying no I want to businessmen but mother say no I have no problem. Rohit wait till 2 months then poonams father was seeing other boy for poonam so Rohit take this action and Rohit dont want to get court marriage because he know his family member and relative like us are ready then why do court marriage. Both are came in my house because my father-in-law is very helpful men regarding any difficulty they always ready to help the people or relatives or friends so they trust on him and came in our house Thanks to put up your thoughts
Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
hello dear, When we think we found the right person,marriage is the last option to be with that person for the rest of our life. Maybe your cousin love the girl that much and don't want to lost her,so he took decision at his own (without the girl's consent) as long as the girl is of marrying age (legal age) there would be no problem. Here in my country,if two (lovers) are of the right marriage,they can get marry without parents consent anymore. We can never tell when love strikes. We can never tell when is the right or wrong time when our heart is full of love. have a good day
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Mar 11
ohhhh friend thanks but no no my dever not take a decision without girls consent he asks her and she tell yes I am ready so he took this action and both are in legal age. Yes you are true we can understand right or wrong when a person is fall in love Thanks to put your valuable thoughts
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Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
ohh i am very sorry (hahaha) i should say "without the girl's parents consent" (oh my hahaha)
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Mar 11
ohhh friend yes without girl's parents consent but with girl consent you write in you response without girl's consent so I am saying with girl consent but without girl's parents consent okkkkkk Have a nice day
satya4186
@satya4186 (279)
• India
22 Mar 11
realy it is a good thing and it is showing in very rare case no of people are self minded and selfish they do not think about other.you are too so lucky u got a good family.thanking you
satya4186
@satya4186 (279)
• India
23 Mar 11
no mention it really OK but i am not saying in rare case but most of couple who had made marriage love to arrange those couple are not so so satisfied compression to marriage made arrange to love it is my opinion up too what extent this is right i can't say?
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Mar 11
yes friend really i am so lucky because my other family member was saying to my father -in-laws why you are ready to do this but they said okkkkkk no problem both are ready and same caste then why saying not so this marriage is solemnized Thanks to put your response
annapplez
@annapplez (208)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
I think if they are both sure they have found "the one", their soul mate then good for them. My parents weren't ready for me and my husband to get married either, but we did it, and they got used to the idea of us as husband and wife. I suppose it depends on how long they have been together as to whether her parents are right with their concerns, hopefully they will get used to it and be happy for them. I hope they live long and happy lives together.
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Aug 11
Yes your thought is good both are made for each other. Thanks to provide blessings and my response.
noorhizat
@noorhizat (209)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 11
I feel that what Rohit is doing is wrong. Don't take marriage as a simple thing. It requires commitment from both of them and their families. Area they working? Can they support themselves on their own. One side of the family, disapproved of this marriage? What is he thinking
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
No sir I think rohit is not doing wrong I am not saying because he is a my cousin dever but I am saying this because I have seen in most of the cases they wants to try to end of his own life at least this is better than that. Here one thing is good Rohit's family member knows all these things and they are ready and happy for their marriage. First they try to saying this girl's family poonm's mother was ready but father was not ready our family said that the boy is good and they never live without each other they can take any wrong action so why you are not ready. The cast is also same the work of boy is also good he is an Advocate then please give the permission but say no. So he takes this action with the consent of girl and his all family members including us.
vanny
@vandana7 (100616)
• India
23 Mar 11
I am for love marriages, I am not for hurting anybody... including parents... I am for bravery, but I am not for sacrifices... I am for responsibility, and not for divorces... whatever be their decision, and action, they must now ensure that the marriage lasts a lifetime..
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Friend I seen in most of the love marriage cases atleast one family is not ready so so hurting is necessary if they dont understands their child choice
jagjit273
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
22 Mar 11
If You would have started this discussion 2 months ago then My answer would definitely be negative, But as I Know I have myself fallen in love from last month, I think may be I near future I would have to do the same, But I don't intend to do so.I want my better half's parents approval for our marriage and before that I want to settle first.But some times One has to take such bold steps
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Mar 11
wow! nice but really no age or no time for fall in love we not know at what time we can do this but good. Yes you are true you should take a bold steps because if you ready for love then you should ready to face the situation also and parents are most important but if they are not ready for this marriage then your situation will also same but my deverani is same caste so no problem for us. Thanks to put your thoughts
hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Sort of a difficult situation indeed! I understand the girls parents did not consent. I suppose they still went ahead with the marriage anyways. I wish them and blessings for a lifetime of happiness. With time the parents will accept, they may never forget but certainly will be forgiving. Nice of you to help them on their special day. I hope you had fun and all went well.
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Yes friend not parents consent but he takes girl consent and main thing is same caste and a rohit is good boy. He is an Advocate first he try to say their family member but they was saying no no no then he has no option. Thanks really I am also happy because both are good looking like seeing made for each other and I help them on their special day. Even poonam say me thanku bhabhi you are nice. So this was gift thanku
kwylima
@kwylima (451)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I cannot say if he is right or wrong...but f it is about love there is nothing we can do...they will do whatever they can to be together,....if they love each other i dont think it is wrong at all... love is love...nobody else knows what is going on in their mind and heart. I wish the best for them and they can find a good way to be together! good luck
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Yes this is my opinion also if they love each other and they cant live without their love then this is a good step. At least they are ready to face the situation other than try to end the life good decision so we all help them
saibal10
@saibal10 (89)
• India
23 Mar 11
Well, I have no doubt that Rohit is a true lover and wanted to give a mature shape of his love. But to your Indian context marriage is a phenomenon which has a festive mood. Involvement of family and family members is also an important fact. I cannot think my marriage without light, music, relatives, music etc. Well, I may an orthodox. But marriage is a question of hundreds thinking. Should we hurry there or will love persist if any flaw appears in near future?
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
Yes Rohit is true lover because he is ready to face any situation. This is true family member required at least Rohit's family member are co-operating with because the poonam's family member is not ready for this marriage everyone gone their house and say try to understand both are the same caste and the boys is good and he is an Advocate his practice is also good then why not agree for this. But they not ready to understanding this so rohit and poonam both are decided we will got married and do this.