Do you ever feel left out when it comes to friends???

maybe you can't get along with the bonding they like, for example bowling maybe you hate bowling that's why they don't waste time to invite you, or maybe before when they invited you you ignore them there are many reason why people don't invite someone, and the worst is that maybe they just don't like you, maybe you could ask them so both parties can give their opinions and explanation for these incident

they might have reasons why they aren't inviting you. for example, you don't show interest on things they do when your around or you don't go along well with them. i think finding new friends isn't a solution to that. why not ask them directly if what's the problem.

hi amime I am elderly and have just a few but real friends who do not play those kid games on me. I say those are not real friends if they did not say anime come along with us and go bowling . So do not let them hurt you like that. time to meet some new people who would not treat a real friend like that, a lot of young people call mere acquaintances friends when they really are just casual not real friends. real friends care about each other's feelings and include each other in invites.Anime those false friends are not worth your tears at all. find some friends who will be real friends. good lu ck. hugs.

hi there! i have experienced the same when i was in college. my group of friends are sometimes hanging out without me or without even noticing me. it happens when i was already working (i'm a working student). i guess they think that i am busy and so on that's why they didn't bother inviting me. its so frustrating when i am there and then they are talking about the fun that they have in their 'gimmick'. what i usually do is just to listen to them... but that also makes me feel a bit cold towards them and makes me feel that i am no longer part of the group. now, i still have contact with them, they are still my 'friends' (but just in a name) lol! but i think even if they will going to invite me to hang out with them, i guess i will choose not to show up, because i feel like i can no longer relate to them and their stories and we are all living a different kind of life and lifestyle now.

Maybe you should get yourself more involved with their matters. Maybe you're just too distant in their perspective that's why they forget to invite you. Or maybe you're giving them the impression that you're not gonna come because you're too busy or something.

I have never felt left out when it comes to friends.I think that hay you may not want me today or for the next few weeks as you are busy, but there will be a time when i am busy and i will make sure it is the time that they want to come to see me.That way they get to know how it feels.

I've frequently felt left out by my friends, even when they included me! And now that I moved, I'm even more isolated than ever before. But I'm no longer 'friendly' with some of these people who made it a sport to mock me when we were together.

I did feel this way before, when my friends hung out without inviting me or even letting me know about it. It felt as if they had something secret to share and I was completely excluded. In such cases, I could feel badly hurt and even thought of questioning them immediately. But anyhow I learned to control my anger and gradually understand why they did this to me. Perhaps they didn't take me as true friend or they believed I wasn't worth their attention. Whatever the case, it's unwise of me to feel upset. What I should do was to remain true to myself and never hurt others.

I do felt that sometimes. I cant help it sometimes but good thing I am able to set my mind not to let it overoll me. Maybe its because I'm naturally a jelous type but the good side is I can manage to control myself not to overeact over that matter and the odd feelings then would go away.

Hello ANIME123, Well its difeerent for me I get the invites but turn them down, I think its sad your best friend would do that to you, ask her why she didn't invite you, maybe she has a legit reason you would never know unless you ask, in this case I would talk to her for sure.

Hi anime: I think this will make me really angry and also jeaulous. We are friends right? Why don't you invite me? I'm sure that I'll enjoy the night. And I hope they have good answers for me or I'll start doing things with other people that love doing things with me. It's not ok that a so called friend forget that you exist! But if they feel sorry, I'll forgive then. But I'll do something. It's not fair that your friends do this to you. ALVARO

I think maybe the game they had been is not the kind of stuff you like that's why they didn't invite you. instead of hating them for not inviting you, I suggest you better look the other side. I mean ask them why they didn't invite you, let them explain and then understand both sides. It is also better to have new friends who has the same likes as you but don't throw the old ones. I mean if ever you got new set of friends never forget the old ones because they had been part of your growing up though sometimes you guys have differences or misunderstandings. Well, that's part of the friendship. It wont be healthy if there is no debate..LOL..Next time, if you want to hang with them, try to count yourself in. I mean, be participative in every gatherings you will be together so the next time they won't hesitate to invite you. Have fun being with them.maybe they feel you dont enjoy their company that's why they prefer to leave you out.

I used to feel that way long ago. now im over it now. unless you think that you are out of them you feel that. as now im with my friend all the time..so it all depends upon ur thinking.

Well finding new friends is not a bad idea. Have you ever told your friend how it hurts? If you look at it this way friends that's like that aren't really friends (true friends). I would rather have 2 real friends than 10 false friends.

I do not deal with that now, but I am much older than you. I can remember feeling left out and ignored, though when I was a young person, and single. I think you could instigate some of these activities and that way you would be sure to be included. You may want to tell the one very best friend that this hurts you feelings. If you are the planner, it is a positive move and you will still be included.

Sorry to hear this and yes I know the feeling well. I say if she were your best friend she should have least let you know about the outing and not flaunt it without considering your feelings. I won't say be rid of her since you consider her a best friend, but I would certainly say speak to her and let her know your feelings. Personally I do distance myself from people like this because a friend, and a best friend at that would have been a bit more consideration.

The more you know who you are, the more self esteem you develop and the more you love yourself the more your friends will love you. If you do what you really like and love your friends will try to get closer to you. Don't make the incident an issue. Keep your friends and be relaxed about them hanging out without you. If instead of complaining you do something which is fun for you and talk about it your friends will come back.