how to boost a man's ego
By nikramos
@nikramos (698)
Philippines
March 22, 2011 9:03pm CST
just responded to a discussion about dating 'financially-incapable' guys and i gave a point, with reference to male ego, as to why i wont date one.
so i was wondering, for women, what could be done to make him feel more significant? well other than generically saying you love him and what not, which actually worked for you?
and in a guy's perspective, how would you like women to stroke it?... i mean your ego there's so much to understand, and would love to hear it straight from the blokes.
i gotta learn a thing or two here. please share
5 responses
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I think that making a point to let him know that, although money is needed to pay bills and such, it is not the most important thing. He needs to hear that he is bringing other, non-monetary, yet equally important things to the relationship. Maybe he makes you laugh like no one else ever could, maybe he listens to you when no one else will. There are so many things that are more important in a relationship than money, it is just harder at times to remember them and make it known that they are important.
Saying that you love him is a good thing, but when it comes to him feeling as if he is a financial burden, you have to make it a point to tell him WHY you love him by pointing out all of the other qualities that he has.
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 11
My man will find his way through. There are times I beat his ego so much that he will yell at me.
Praising him is one thing I will do, like " today, you did the right thing by spending more hours working". He will normally nod his head as a sign that he agrees with me.
Personally, I feel there is a need for balancing his ago and taking control of ego.
Not too much of a boost coz they will run you over.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Apr 11
hi nikramos When I married my hubby we had only known eac h other six weekds but I learned to praise his good traits and in a way that came
over as being honest not just to please him. guys know when a woman they
love is just trying to stroke their ego and when she is being honest. do
not patronize nobody likes that, men or women. praise him where praise is
really due. also remember to thank him as you would anyone else who did something nice for you.also do not play the helpless silly bubble headed female, this does not stroke most intelligent men's egos it just makes them nauseated. lol lol lol.being honest and praising where its really due will go a long way with your guys
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Hello Nikramos,
I don't understand though i have read the entire discussion, i couldn't determine which type of ego men has ego with. I think it's more of a pride as a man, when a pride gets hurt they get severely injured. i think people who got hurt in the past tends to have strong ego things in the future. the only thing that reminded me of having an ego was when i was good with my academics, i thought i had real friends until i start loosing it. I think i still have this ego, even though i don't know what Kind.
I think there are things that men are hard to accept or change in their lives.
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
hmm... you had me thinking for awhile.
ego is a stronger term to use than pride. i guess its the thing when they most want to feel needed, and that they want to feel superior at most times. like the response prior to yours states, past experiences bring about such behavior. then i just came to think that the more egotistic the guy can be, the more insecurities he has.
i am more of an independent woman so im always having problems dealing with the issue as i always end up hurting a man making him feel as though ive belittled his capabilities-whatever aspect, when in fact i did not. what i hope to be given light on is how to make a man feel 'significant', thats what i meant with nursing his ego. ive already taken the first step and that is to accept the fact that most men (i dealt with) can be like that.
its something i or even other women really need to learn about. be it with dads, brother, guy friends, boyfriends or husbands.
@annapplez (208)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
Stroking it is a pretty good way to boost their ego; it works on my husband, I tell him what a big package he has and he's happy for days lol. When I met him, he had horrible self-esteem and didn't think much of himself and it was mainly through compliments and attention that he finally started to consider himself worthy of the attention and love. And a whole lot of intimacy in the bedroom works as well!