Is brutally honest a bad thing?

@Joeyfish (239)
United States
March 23, 2011 12:16am CST
I am brutally honest with everything. Some people like it, some people hate it. Would you rather be brutally honest, or beat around the bush to sweeten things up? Would it differ if it was a close friend, or a stranger?
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@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Funny I'm blunt as well and in my opinion you should be honest and tell things the way they are in most cases.I am this way with family and friends but with strangers I am a bit more cautious with what I say. People are a bunch of sensitive hotheads nowodays and one wrong word and suddenly they want to kill u,argue day and night with you or just beat you up XD
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
23 Mar 11
That's what I usually do. And I found that most of the people who respect it, and are cool with it, will come to me later for my opinion because they know I wont lie to them. And the people who get all hot headed over it just need to understand other people have different opinions too. Sometimes I tell people who I know that are like that what's up, just to put some spice in my day, haha.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
23 Mar 11
Brutal honesty is not necessarily a bad thing but we ought to be careful. I have learned this in my past relationship, not to be brutally honest. Sometimes we need to keep a few things to ourselves for good. I think i pampered our whole relationship and it ended hurting her and in turn hurting myself.
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I had a relationship kind of like that. I always agreed with her even if I didn't truly think it was correct. And then when I did disagree over something, she got all upset. Off topic, but I also think that's why people shouldn't change for someone. They chose you for the who you were, so why change?
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
1 Apr 11
Hi. Joeyfish. Welcome to myLot! Yes, I am brutally honest to a certain point, I just have a nicer way of being honest with someone that is. I will state my honesty clear and to the point if need be. If someone does not ask of my opinion, I don't give it. If I don't have anything good to say about someone or something, I will not say it. This applies to anyone.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Mar 11
Well, I don't necessarily think that it's a bad thing. I think that there is a time and place for it. I don't always think that it should always be used, as sometimes some don't always appreciate it, and such. I don't mind hearing the brutal truth from some people, while other times I prefer being able to hear it in a nice way.
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Yeah, it's important to use common sense when using it. I for one just find it annoying when people want to tell me something, and spend like 10 minutes trying to say it in a nice way. But there's also people that just need to be told something. For example this kid at school had dreads in his hair, he was white, and it just looked completely terrible. Nobody would say anything though because they didn't want to hurt his feelings. What would you do?
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
I think that there is always a better way of saying things. You don't have to be brutally honest to give your point. You can say it without sounding like an ___ (you know). I find it easier to be more honest when a I'm talking to a friend than strangers. I don't think we have to right to offend someone we don't know. That being said, I find it annoying when people are being too 'sweet'.
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Well yeah, maybe brutal is a little too intense. But some people just need to know things. And I'm a little too lazy to 'beat around the bush' and often get sidetracked when I try to sweeten things up. But if something needs to be pointed out, I'm usually the one to just flat out say it. Like my one teacher; His nipples showed through his shirt on more then one occasion, and kids were talking about it behind his back. So I walked up to him and flat out pointed it out. Ever sense then, it hasn't happened.
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
its perfectly fine, at least for me. you just want to make your point right across without sugarcoating.just make sure all your views are justified so you wont get the same brutally honest treatment from others and find yourself totally embarrassed.
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
23 Mar 11
If I'm honest with someone, and I'm wrong, I would want them to tell me. But usually I just tell them my opinion so it can't really be 'wrong'. But if they have a comment back, then it's totally fine.