"Appreciation" is the key to a successful relationship
By lovebugjess
@lovebugjess (262)
Philippines
March 23, 2011 2:32am CST
It is in my nature to appreciate my boyfriend whenever he did something good just like when he finish doing a job like gardening, or making new things, or fixing things in the house or he did something good for our relationship or playing good in basketball.
He always tell me you are the best baby because you always appreciate me whenever i did good things and always there to support me when i have good ideas to do. And I love it when you appreciate me.
What do you think? Does appreciation makes our relationship good.???????
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11 responses
@krazaz (24)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Hi,
Yes! Appreciating what a person does or did build up that person's ego. Your relationship may last for a life time if you continue this kind of practice. In rought times, where you may have misunderstandings, the soothing words or should I say the compliments that you implanted in your partner's heart will be your strong foundation.
People don't like critism that's why they look for individuals who can understand them and appreciate what they do. Keep it up, lovebugjess. That's what men like me are seeking for from our significant one.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
mmmm I see, we have misunderstanding sometimes but we don't fight really like hell. We do a keep things in good mood and settle things. and always say what he don't like and like and that one thing he always tell is "Appreciation"
@narendra2n (445)
• India
23 Mar 11
but wrong appreciation can give misleading results. It can develop wrong self ego. The person will become proud even on wrong grounds. I think we must be very careful while appreciating others and should only appreciate when there is a genuine cause. If we keep on appreciating a person, that will be considered as buttering also.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
but i do tell things that is bad that he do in good ways ofcours. so i think it is balance. and I only appreciate the things that is really appreciative. ;)
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
23 Mar 11
You are right. You know, there are too many marriages break because of one person don't appreciate what the other person does. So many couples maybe get along with each other at first, they often praise and appreciate and touch each other in the first days. But as time goes on, one part will take what the other has done for granted. And the quarrel and fighting follows.
Though couples are very close to each other, but it is also needed to show your appreciation to the other side.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
You are right, i read that in one article on marriage that appreciation is good foundation on good relationship.
When ever you appreciate your partner she/he feels that you trust your partner, you are giving him the idea of how you love your partner
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
24 Mar 11
Appreciation of a good deed is always a good thing, it encourages and motivates and helps the individual progress in all terms be it a relationship or work. but appreciation can also lead to fustration like if you go on apppreciating someone just cause you like him/her even if he or she is not doing something right. l8r on when he/she realizes that its waster her/his work that you were appreciating that could lead to fustration. so watch what you appreciate.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Yes, it is very much a key to a successful relationship, though it's not the only key.
Appreciation really does wonders for a relationship, aside from the fact that you feel happy with your partner and you feel happy when you make your partner happy, having your partner be happy about making hm/her happy is just plain ecstasy!
Appreciating your partner encourages the partner to do more for the relationship, and also it gives a sense of fulfillment :) Kudos to your for always appreciating your BF :)
@waterproofpaper (139)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Indeed, No matter how big or small it is if we can show that we appreciate it it will add confidence to the one we love and all of the things they'll do they will do their best. Sometimes they feel down if we didn't recognize the simplest thing they did.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Yes, appreciating your partner is really good. Even if the the guy acts all macho, he still wants to be appreciated since his guy friends will probably not do it themselves. Everyone wants the validation that they are good at something. Over doing it is bad though. Too much of everything is always bad. If you keep on appreciating him then there will come a time where you might sound insincere because it just seems routine or you can even look passive.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
hahahah, feeling macho muchu, sometimes he feels that way when we are both alone. but then when i appreciate thing about him, i only appreciate the good side of him. like your eyes is cute but really he does have a cute eyes.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Yes that is the best thing we always do to our love one. Even us we love them also when they appreciate what we've done. This is really a big help to improve and to be strong our relationship with our partners. I always do this to him and he love it and i feel the sweetness of love we had every time. This is not only for lovers or husband and wife but applicable to all. Let's appreciate those good things that our fellowmen had done.
@Harold_ks (1673)
•
23 Mar 11
Yes, I agree, it is important in a relationship. It helps in strengthening the trust and loyalty of both partners. Appreciating the things your partner has done will make him/her feel more loved which will result in loving you back even more. Appreciating things that he has done makes him/her strive to do even much better. Feeling loved by the one you love gives you confidence to face the world. You and your partner is really doing a good job and no doubt that your relationship will keep strong and successful. Keep it up! Have a nice day!
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
23 Mar 11
People/couples do appreciate being appreciated :) I do think its important to however say it. As your boyfriend, my boyfriend tells me that he appreciates me a lot as well. Just doing things around the house or bringing him his lunch at work. He tells me how much he appreciates that. This is where i could be at fault, because I don't actually say i appreciate the things he do. But I most definitely show it. I'm starting to learn it can be better to both say it and show it.
@narendra2n (445)
• India
23 Mar 11
Everyone like appreciation. Even animals take appreciation in a very positive way. When we appreciates someone, we show our respect and love to them. It is correct that appreciations makes relationship stronger and long lasting. When we appreciates someone, he/she develops a positive image of us in his/her mind which always reminds him of our gentleness and well wisher feelings for him/her.
I also appreciates people when there is a reason. Over appreciation is not considered good as this is sometime taken as "buttering" so we must be careful in appreciating others for their work. Appreciation is an art of making relationship stronger and successful.
People have shown great result by the power of appreciation. When we appreciate a child for his little success, he gets motivated for some more difficult goal. This develops him further and makes him stronger and capable to take challenges of life. Appreciation is the most powerful tool in self development. Have a great day.
@luckyling21 (88)
• China
24 Mar 11
yeah , i can't agree with you more.you are always grateful with others.then your mind is balance. you will think he por she is to do well with you.just like me , i usually appreciate my husband ,he is very kind to me,he always encourges me,when i am not myself ,he will enlighten me and try to let me be happy. so i appreciate him .we have a very good relationship so far!