I really miss him~

By Toni
@toniganzon (72517)
Philippines
March 23, 2011 3:53am CST
I met him last year in September and since then we always try to communicate with each other no matter how busy we are with each other's lives. We share our family problems and concerns, cheer each other up and talk for three hours the most. Lately however, we don't talk as much as we want to anymore and sometimes the day would just go by without communicating with each other. I wonder what happened to us. Have we grown tired of talking to each other? Have we ran out of topic? There's one thing that i'm definitely sure though. I really miss talking to him for hours.
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15 responses
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Try to contact him my friend. Make a move. Don't waste your time waiting. LOL. :) I have a person in mind that you miss but I am not sure that my mind is right. You can pm me if you want to talk about it. . . . :)
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
It's him! Yesterday, the whole day k waited for him to send me a message. I went out to watch a ,Oviedo in the theater with my family and I was worried that he might have send a message but I didn't get it. Luckily he fell asleep and wasn't able to send a message, but he informed me when he woke up. We talked for a very short time last night before he went out with his son and he sent me a message this morning again before he played with his grandson.
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Wow, my instinct's doing a great job. Well, I just knew it's him. He is quite busy now? hmmmmm.. anyway, I was still able to connect the dots in your posts. Anyway, he's quite bombarded with activities now? I hope you're fine there too, and be able to make some adjustments on your part... :) Enjoy life! :)
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 11
hunny, friendships change with time and life changes... growing up and growing old together is one thing... but being very close for a loong while then finding that time is shorter so have less time to spend with them.. it hurts but we all go through it.. iw as same with family when i moved out, was on phone all the time! bill was huge! then got job, 2 jobs, then friends and social life.. now i try to spend time relaxing and sometimes say i will ring family but end up roped into something and after it gets late, remembe i was supposed to be ringing family!! :'(
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
You ate right. People do change in time but I'm hopeful that he misses me as much as I miss him and hope he would ring me soon.
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Some friends move on and find new sets of friends. I think you should move on and find other sets of friends. If you really miss him, maybe you're infatuated.
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
that's funny! I'm more than infatuated, I'm in love with him . Kidding aside, he's not the type who would go and find new friends. We still talk everyday but not as much as we used to. I'm not missing his absence, I'm missing our lengthy conversations.
• China
23 Mar 11
It is not easy to meet a intimate friend .The true friend is not to be bought with money.You and your friend had heart to heart talk and may well say so you had a touch of that if only you met early.Later you don't talk as much as you want .For you I don't know much about so I am not pretty certain what happened to you.I guess that If something that you said hurt your friend's feeling.But there again,if it is due to that "familiarity breeds contempt."you don't mind totally.
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
We had our fights before but we always managed to get over it and make amends. I know that's not the reason why because he's a man who doesn't dwell on ill feelings.
• India
23 Mar 11
Hello my friend, I think you are talking about your close friend.You haven't mention that who stops talking first.I guess he is also thinking same.I think you should initiate it again.Atleast by this you will get to know what wents wrong in your friendship. Happy mylotting
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Yes I haven't mentioned who stopped talking first, but I believe it was him because I'm always waiting for his message ever day. I'm just a ring away. Maybe he got busy with his life and now that it's spring, he's enjoying the outdoors more.
@even1217 (61)
• China
23 Mar 11
talk to him and ask him the reason why his recent behavior was different.Don't let the friendship go without knowing the reason.
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I won't! I'm the type of person who doesn't like giving up easily on something so precious to me. He's one of my jewels and I just couldn't let him go that easily.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 Mar 11
do a surprise visit to his place. call his phone or send a simple "hello" message. he could really be too busy but a simple hello could trigger back the old times. cheer up.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Why not asks him if he is fed up or sick with monotonous routine. Sometimes giving space give each other time to think and missed each other. maybe he is just waiting for you to communicate first or open what is missing. just try to do the first step,there is nothing wrong with it rather than keeping in silent and waiting for unanswered queries.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hi, that i am experiencing now,but this is very different from yours, actually its my lover,and we have 1 week without seeing each other,no communication,and as what you feel,i also miss him,the reason why we experiencing this is because of his family.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Maybe he's just busy or just doing some important stuffs! Maybe next day or next week soon, he'll be with you again! I have experienced the same too.. But my friend is back! :)
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I'm glad to know that your friend is back. Yeah I suppose you're right. He must be very busy and so many things going on with his life right now. He has a lot of priorities and I should not feel bad when I can't hear from him.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
try to talk to talk to him about what you have noticed...save the friendship...talk about each other...remind him of how you spend happy times talking to each other and how important it is to you to talk to him...
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Yeah I will try to do that. Thanks. I really missed him so and I miss the times that we could just go on and chat without noticing the time at all.
@azskull (90)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Reading this topics makes me think of my friend before,where really that close when we are in our senior years in high school,the last time we saw each other is our graduation day well you may think as this kind of event people tend to be with their family,friend taking pictures for remembrance.although I want to approach her but still I doubt it maybe I think her father wouldn't be happy to see her daughter talking to me or maybe if her mother would see that we where that closed maybe she will think that we are sweethearts because I know what else anybody would think seeing a boy and a girl that closed, first thing that would come to their mind that they have a relationship..although we're not..but i admit i had fall for her.,even i don't want to show it to her,by the way she is a full blooded Chinese girl..that is where the problem lies.Even though she knows that its not easy for me to attend her post graduation celebration she invited me and threaten me if I will not attend she will have to forget me for the rest of her life.,but I didn't attend because I want it maybe that way ending our friendship in our graduation day is so perfect just like saying this chapter of my life is a closed book,.tomorrow its another chapter again I need to end everything here and faced another ME a NEW ME tomorrow,although its so painful still i had no choice because I know deep in my mind her parents wouldn't allowed us to be that closed but i know I never tried its only my prediction,I don't know if my decision is good or bad because up to now I'm still questioning it in my mind over and over again,what if i did attend would it be the other way around,. still up to now 15 years had gone so quick we didn't have the chance to see each other.,and I don't know if i can see her again because I know somewhere,somehow we called ourselves friends..
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Mar 11
I remember when I would talk to my best friend for hours on the phone. It seemed like we never would want to get off the phone. Sometimes we would stay on the phone until we fell asleep. We also could talk for hours. You should talk to your friend about how you feel, and what you think is happening between the two fo you. It may be that he has been so busy with work or other things that he hasn't had as much free time. Let him know that you miss him and the conversations that the two of you have had together. Express that you do greatly enjoy talking with him. Sometimes we may feel as though we are being bothersome or annoying maybe that's how he's feeling. He could possibly be feeling that he doesn't want to be annoying towards you. Once you talk with him about it I think it will clear a lot of things up. The best way for us to know how someone is feeling is to ask. I can't wait until you speak with him again and I hope it turns out well.
23 Mar 11
I'm not sure how long it has been since you've spoken with your friend. However, I would advise you to contact him and express to him how much you miss him. Find out why the two of you don't talk as often as you use to. A good and true friend is hard to find so if this is truly real don't let it slip away!!!
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@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
=) It's so nice to have someone to talk with. I'm glad you found someone like this. =) If I read through the responses correctly, it seems you have talked with him again after this post? That's good. =) I had a friend who disappeared on me for more than 1 1/2 months. That's after leaving me a message saying 'see you later' on New Year's eve. You can just imagine how worried I was that whole time. All sorts of things went through my mind. Did he grow tired of me? Did I say something wrong? Was his New Year's resolution not to talk with me anymore? :/ Did he forget his password??? Or worst: did something happen to him? I missed him so much. I was preparing to resign myself to the possibility that I might never get to talk to him again. Then a few days after his birthday, I nearly jumped out of my chair when I logged into my gmail and saw a message from him in my inbox. He said he was extremely sorry. His schedule had been so hectic, he had almost no time to check his mail or go online. I was just so relieved he was ok. But I guess that's how it is. People get busy with their lives. And we have to accept that they may not always be around when we go looking for them. One good thing about friends though, is that we are entitled to have as many of them as we can have. So if one is not around when we are in need, we can turn to another, or another, or another... I do wish I never lose any one of them. Each one is precious to me.