does compatibility really matters?...

Philippines
March 23, 2011 4:36am CST
my husband and i are married for almost a year now...we've been together for almost three years before we got married...we now have a 7 month old son...we fight often times...and most of the time we end up concluding that we really are not compatible...but i wonder...do we really need to be compatible?...what happened to "opposites attract"?...is it enuf that we love each other and it's normal to have petty things to fight over?...
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4 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I believe that compatabilty matters in any relationship that we have. if we are not comaptible with each other, how can we in all honesty expect a relationship to survive. there are enough trials and challenges to overcome in relationships. we shouldn't add compatability to the list.
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
at times it is hard...but then we try to fix everything up and understand each other...that way we try to be compatible during our most incompatible moments....
24 Mar 11
Yes it matters.. if you have different views in things and in ideas its really hard to create a good communication between the two of you.. so its really hard if that is the situation...
• India
27 Mar 11
hi i am rahul from india. dear!!! well dear you have not wrote why you were fought max mean what the reason. if reason is not so big then you both have to talk each other. you have to understand that your fighting is too dangerous for your dear son. now you both have not think about you you both have to think about your son first dear. hope it will help you.
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
we fought over petty things...sometimes it's hard to undrstand but then we know that we have to...
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
compatibility matters in a way that it keeps a common interest between a couple and it makes more easier to understand one another in a certain level. Don't worry my dear about the fighting [arguments], a normal thing i guess for married couples.. it is that stage where you find yourselves of learning more and more about each other.. an adjustment period wherein you have to realize or compromise on certain things in order for your relationship to work... as the saying goes, "if you have gone through the seven-year itch, then everything would be comfortable for a man and wife, relationship-wise."
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
well i guess you're right...maybe we still have 6 more years of adjustment...and learning...thanks for the advice though...we really are trying hard to make things between us better...
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Well, sometimes it is, compatibility really counts.If one loves slow music, he would enjoy sharing this passion with someone who understand slow music. But I think it is sometimes not always applicable. What if one is passive and boring? Finding a boring would make their world really dude world! Just kidding but it is true!
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hahaha...yeah right...incompatibility sometimes add spice in your relationship right?...maybe a little fights will make the relationship stronger...and on the later part makes you understand each other