will you always vindicate yourself?
By juhaynne
@juhaynne (10)
Philippines
March 23, 2011 4:59am CST
if, for example, you have made a decision that seems unfair for other people but you believe that it was the best choice, how would you respond to criticisms? or would you rather stay silent and let other people think bad about you just as long you know that what you did was the right thing to do?
2 responses
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
23 Mar 11
It would rather depend, I think, on how I made the decision. Some decisions are arrived at purely logically and can generally be justified to everyone's satisfaction. Others may be rather more 'inspirational' in nature and logical justifications sometimes have to be found 'after the event'.
Whichever way is one's natural way to make decisions (and if one is called upon at all to make decisions), it is necessary to have the courage of one's convictions and the self-confidence and communication abilities to be able to, at least, partially convince others of the reasoning behind your decisions.
Not everyone will see a situation, of course, in the same way that you do and, very often, the success or failure of a decision is due to the amount of assurance and dedication one has (and can inspire in others) that the course of action is worth following through. In other words, a particular decision may not be have been absolutely the best that could have been made but what, in the long run, will be seen as 'success' will be the way in which the decision was carried through to conclusion.
If the success of a decision depends on the actions of other people, it is very important to communicate the reasons for why the decision was made and why it should be implemented but, at the same time, to avoid becoming involved in arguments against it which lead nowhere. As a result, good and valid criticisms must be addressed but any which are not really relevant are best met with silence.
Whether or not one has the good judgement and self-confidence to inspire confidence in others, even one's critics, is the mark of a good manager or leader. It is something that can be learned but only, really, by those that already possess common sense and the ability to appreciate all sides of an argument.
@picjim (3002)
• India
23 Mar 11
If i believe what i did was right i'll stand by my conviction.But if someone points out with reason the error of my ways i'll change myself.I believe life is a learning process and we should learn from our mistakes and correct ourselves.When we correct ourselves we will not err twice.
