My daughter fears being left alone even for 5 minutes!

hello devijay, None of my kids ever act like that. But i knew a friend who has same problem like yours. But don't worry,when her daughter reached 4,she enrolled the little girl in a pre-school,but still the girl doesn't want her mom to leave. So,my friend stays outside the room and her daughter keep checking on her every now and then. This goes on for the whole school year. On the second year of school,the girl started to have confidence,but still keep an eye with her mother. But,it gives my friend some free time,when her daughter starts enjoying school. When her daughter is busy with coloring books and drawing objects,animals etc,she sometimes forget her mom. Before the school year end,she can leave her daughter at school and fetch her after class hour. Just give your daughter time to adjust. i am sure she will slowly be confident with you on her side. Try to give her things or works to keep her busy and would attract her interests.

It is normal devijay My three years young grand daughter behaves exactly similar manner, her mom keeps the bathroom door little open.. Thanks for sharing in details Cheers. BE HAPPY ALWAYS. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

You say she is 3and a half years old. Talk to her daily about this. Tell her that she is a big girl, soon she is going to be responsible for her baby brother or sister and she has to start practicing from now on. When you go to bathe, tell her beforehand that you are going in and give her a game to play, a target . Tell her you will be out within the short time she finishes the game and keep your word. Keep singing loudly to reinforce ehr.She is very small but now she will start understanding things. She would also be going to school; is it not? Just talk to her everyday about this and she will be ok.. I don’t think it is cause for concern. She has been with you throughout the day and also at night and is bound to feel insecure.

Hi. devijay78. I have an three year old daughter. She will be four in June. And she can be away from me for a while. When I am taking an shower if she is awake she will want to come into the bathroom with me. And my other kids were like this too, when they were younger. I had to break them out of this too. My kids will all get upset with each other, like your daughter is doing with you. My youngest daughter wants to come into her brother's bedroom. She loves falling asleep in there now. When my other daughter was four years old, she would holler and scream to be let into her brother's bedroom. My youngest daughter does the same thing now too. It is really stressful, they all can't be away from each other for a minute! My son is nine years old and sometimes he wants his bedroom to himself to play and to relax in, but his sister's want to come into his room with him. If they can't get into his room, they will holler and scream. They also will even bang on the door really loudly. Or my daughter will hit the wall. It is terrible! My kids still love being under me, but I have to tell them that they can't always come into the same room that I am in all of the time. I need my space, mommy needs her space. When my husband is home, I will tell him to come and get our daughter if she is crying. Two weeks ago, my youngest daughter was banging on the bathroom door. She was screaming because she wanted to come in while I was washing my hair. I told my husband to come and get her. I mean she was just hollering and going on. With me, my kids eventually our grew this attachment. It will take time, that is all that I can say. My oldest daughter is five years old, I can at least take a shower without her wanting to come into the bathroom. I know that she is learning to give mommy some personal space. So is my son. My youngest daughter is mostly the one that does not want anyone to have their space. She even wants to come into the bathroom when her sister or brother is taking a bath too. They usually want her out, but she refuse to leave. She will throw tantrums and cry like crazy. I believe that it will get better for you too. I can't really tell you what you should do, but I know that your daughter will eventually grow out of this strong attachment as you gets older. Take care.

It really sounds like she`s getting better. She`s only 3 right? She should out grow this. She`ll get use to things. If it`s still like this a few years from now, you should really go see someone. But I`m sure it`s normal. I use to be really afraid of the dark for a while. Long while, but I got over it. I think..... JK!

yeah, when she grows up she will overcome that fear. It's normal for kids or babies.

it is normal but you have to start slowly seperating yourself from her. You have make it clear that you will be back to pick her up or whatever or that you are near by but that she needs to be away from you. even if she cries, we all have hard lessons to learn through life.

My friend's daughter has the same issue, she siad the pediatrician said she is going through the fear of being seperated with the parents, she won't sleep in her own room and always want to sleep with her parents.

Children especially babies love to cling to their parents more so to their mothers. They are still young and I think it's only normal because they are not yet familiar with their surrounding and they are only used to the company of their mother. I remember when my children were still young, I can't go to the bathroom all by myself, they will still go with me inside, and I just let them. I savour those times when my children wants me by their sides. Now that they are all grown ups, I can't even find them at home, they are all busy with work and their friends. It's lonely at home during the day, I miss the cries and tantrums of my little babies.

It does sound like separation anxiety. Some kids actually have this fear and nothing really contributes to it outside of a bit of insecurity. My son went through something similar and I tried to make it where when he got home it was a very exciting time for the both of us. It took time but he slowly begin to realize that I was not going to leave him. I did several playdates with other kids so that he could socialize and play and not be so fearful of not having me constantly by his side. Mine to was in preschool but I felt the extra play dates helped.

i went thru the same thing with my son hes now three and now hes ok, it just depends who hes bein left with, he loves his grand parents and aunts i had to just break it by leaving and letting him realize that mommy cant be next to him 24/7. he cried for an hour and sat next to my mom and was ok for the rest of the day, it was harder on me i think than it was on him