My heart feels so heavy hearing that the house I grew up in would be sold!

Oh that is terrible jaiho! I know it would have hurt so much. If the house was okay without much renovation to be done, then your cousin could have preserved it along with its memories. Some people do not understand the sentiments attached to a house like that. Oh I wish I had that much money to buy the house from my father so that he would not have to sell it to someone else who would definitely demolish it for a newer building and profit as well.

It really hurts dear. Just try to take pictures of every corner as souvenir. I know it won't be the same the next day when you passed on to that house. let the memory lives in our hearts.

I will definitely take pictures. I have loads of them since it was built but over a period of time, there have been changes made and newer extensions built. So it is entirely different now. Thanks for the thought jaiho. I hope it does not affect my parents either. At least as much as I think it would.

Sometimes we need a little bit of help to see things from a different perspective. I'm glad to be of some help making you feel better.

I'm really glad to hear that.

Thanks I am actually looking forward to the future and what it holds for me.

devi! Is your father planning to give the property to a builder who would construct 4 apts in the same premises? THat at least would be something acceptable. when there is no choice. EVen if it is one ground, some clever architect can design it in such a way that 4 apts can be constructed there.Your father ahs a valid point there isn saying thta it is not easy for 3 daughters and husbands to come to a consensus. I really feel sad about this.

No kala. Because as I told you, my other sisters are working and can afford to take a loan. But since I am a housewife, I would not be able to contribute anything towards the builders cost and my parents are retired too and do not have that much money to spend on the house. And even if we sell it off to a builder, they might give us only 50% and the other half would be sold to strangers. My dad does not want to live in the same place with other people. So the house would have to go. We would inherit only the money and we would have to find seperate houses or apartments for ourselves. Thanks for understanding. It is sad indeed.

Hi kala. It is really depressing. As I told earlier in this discussion, I did give my father and others an option of building seperate apartments for all of us and staying in the same place. But that is one idea which needs a lot of money from each of us which we cannot afford right now. And my parents are of the opinion that it might create problems within us(our husbands to be precise). So this is in their as well as our best interests. Oh how I wish I had the money necessary to build at least my apartment! I am the only one not working and I do not have that much money to spend. Nor can I get a loan from anywhere as I do not have any income. Tough luck. But the money from the sale of the house would be used to purchase four seperate apartments, three for each of us and one for our parents where they can stay till the end of their lives. They would not live in any of the daughter's houses as they are very particular about their respect and dignity before their son-in-laws and would not want to loose that. And moreover, dividing the house after their time or even if one of them is not there would be difficult for the other living person. So, it is better this way. It is only that my children and their other grand children would not have an ancestral home to relate to.Thats very very sad.

Hey, thanks. That actually made me think of how my life would change after that. I would be financially more stable and would even have a regular income from the investments I make. But letting go of the house is going to be difficult, really.

Hi. Sorry for such a late response. That was very thoughtful of you. But I do not think I would be able to do it your way. My father is still not able to decide and I guess it might take some more time. But I know it will definitely go this year. I cannot imagine how he would feel, selling his house built with his own earnings. That is one difficult decision I would find to make if it were me.

Hi. We have had the house for more than 20 years. I do have a lot of good as well as bad memories. There are times when I did wish to go far away from that house. But now, I realise that it was not because of the house but because of me that I was going through a bad time. I just wanted to run away from what was happening, thats all! But now that my father is thinking of selling the house, we all feel bad about it. But we do not have much choice. It will take some time before it is actually sold. It might take some months even. But that is the time I have to spend in that house.

Make it the best few months in that house. :) Goodluck and take care.

Hi Porcospino. I do know the house is way too expensive for me. I would never be able to afford such a big house. At least not in the next twenty years in that area! Maybe never. My husband does own an apartment which he purchased before our marriage but there is nothing like the place you grew up in, right? I do have many happy memories as well as sad and bitter ones. But it is part and parcel of life and the house represents mine as well as my sisters' childhood. So it is going to be difficult for all of us to let the house go.

Hi shia. I am not staying in that house. My parents are and I stay about 3 kilometeres away. But I do visit frequently and my daughter as well as my sister's kid are very fond of the house. I do not know how they are going to take it. And we would be buying seperate apartments with the money. One apartment for each of us. Good day.

Hi sender. My daughter is going to miss it the most. She was born there and we stayed there for sometime when I was facing a crisis in my life. So she is very attached to that house. And so is my niece. Oh! These kids are going to miss the house so much, I know! Hope she gets over it soon.

Oh that must have been one sweet memory you would never want to give up! Guess that is why you were so depressed. I do understand that my father has to sell the house. He has no choice now that he wants to settle things for us sisters before anything happens to him or my mom. That is a depressing thought indeed. But I do not have the required money to pay for the house as it is way too expensive. So I have to go along with their decision and hope all of us come out of this unscathed.

Hi cmang. That is a sad situation! I know how that would feel. I am thinking of taking pictures of the house along with my family members. The building being demolished is one thing but the whole area being bought and changed completely is another alltogether. You would have absolutely no memories of the place at all even if you want to walk through the lane or the place where your father's shop was. I am so sorry for you. Hope you do have pictures of the wonderful time you had there.

Thanks HWG. It is difficult for them to keep maintaining the house as it is old and something or the other needs to be repaired. And it is getting costlier too to get all the repairs done which they cannot afford in their income right now. My dad has been thinking about selling the house for the past few years but not actually gotten to doing it till now. It is a big process and hope everything goes well. I actually gave them another plan. It was to demolish the old building and build seperate ones for all of us so that we would at least be in the same place but only the building would be different. Or we could make some alterations. But both these ideas need money-lots of it and we sisters cannot afford that kind of money right now. So the house as well as the land has to go. I guess it is finally the time for me to allow it to sink in and move on.

Hi chang. Those kind of houses are found in my city only in certain areas. But the place where this house is located is not very noisy and a little calm. You are absolutely right about neighbours being in contact less. It will become that way for us too. Hope we do not stop being in contact with each other.