Do You Help People When You Are Hurting Yourself?

Yes, sometimes people expect too much of us, when in fact we work hard to still have a roof to stay. I tried to give as much as I can let go, still people sneered and talked. So I stopped giving them. If I have sufficient money, I would send them to certain associations or orphanages.

Hi dear, You are rightly said. We know and are cooperating with the situations around. Whatever happened is absolutely unfortunate and we feel sorry for such incidents happens. The simple way is that whatever we can, we will do. But there are situations where we are unable to help in such emergency times. As you said, we are really trying to coop with our problems, an extended help may really painful. Last week one girl come to my door and were asking for a donation to the cancer patients. We had a discussion of about 15 mts. and she wanted to discharge a minimum amount for the sake. She showed me a lots of cheques and other receipts people have already supported. However, I was not in a position to give any amount to here as I was totally out of cash with me and I was not in a position to get a help from anyone else as I have already took money from several people. Even if we have the intention to help or willing to donate, our specific situation may not allow for it. Anyway, all those who have enough and more than enough money, they will give and I am sure that if we don’t have money with us, it is not a compulsory matter to help. We only know how we are surviving. Thank-s

I am very choosy who I do help these days as far as collections are concerned as a lot of charities hire people to collect, this I don't agree with, which means the actual charity is only getting a very small percentage of what you are giving, I will help anyone who needs it on to one especially my friends and people I know, it is very hard when you yourself is on limited funds you can't help everyone so you have to do it in the best way you can.

I think it's okey to not involve in donation if yourself is in difficulty. I didn't donate to Haiti and New Zealand earthquake victim but i did donate to Japan crisis. It is because i have some financial problem last year and my condition is better this year. Of course, when people ask me for donation, i won't tell them that i am not going to donate because i got no money. I just told them i had made my donation through some organization and bla bla bla =p.

I have often helped people in my life but not before I can help myself. I cannot allow myself to be put in a situation and still help others. I am willing to share what little I have but not be completely without.

Helping others is good thing, but i think it's based on your own financial station, if you are very poor,you even have a problem with living, there is no need to donate anything,maybe you can make a good wish for them. And don't feel shame,other people will understand you.

I can't always help and I am in the same situation I have a phone and internet, and although i don't 'need' them they do make my life a lot easier. I do a lot of volunteering though, so if someone made a snide comment about me not donating, I would just tell them, I do what I can do. If you can't help from your pocket book, then help with your hands. I have raised money for many different organizations through car washes and performances and I've made a lot of awesome friends that way. Just do what you can, and ignore the snickering, who are they to judge, they don't know you.

I will often help people even if I'm hurting myself because knowing that I've helped someone else in turn makes me feel better. Knowing that I've made someone's day always makes me feel better.