Why is it that when people are desperate for someone...?

i once had a really wonderful boyfriend, everything that i could ever ask for. problem is, the relationship got too boring for me as he would just always say yes to whatever i want; he was too nice. i think the problem was with me. so i cheated on him, but of course never admitted to doing it. and this new guy i am with, is his exact opposite. i cant say i was desperate to be in love, because someone was head over heels in love with me at that time. i didnt know the reason behind me falling into the wrong kinds of relationship. i guess, subconsciously it must be the challenge i was up for. i wasnt looking for it; it has always been the trend for me. and i want to break from it.it did me no good.

A lot of people married to an OFW happens to experience loneliness at times and they can't give in to temptations. I saw a lot of broken marriages because of desperate reasons that they are lonely..We should learn to be happy on our own because nobody can give you happiness instead of yourself.

I've had my share of bad relationships because I was desperate. The last serious relationship I was in ended up being abusive. Learned alot though. Now I just hate men and don't trust them. Couldnt be happier :)

Desperation is the sign of instability. The first thing we should remember about any kind of relationship is to keep is safe by keeping it free. We human being are not animals. We don't like to be chains. Even after marriage or a serious relationship, one should give space to other. That is emotionally and psychologically, both. Love is free. Its divine and its freedom of expression and emotions. When you break this law of love, then desperation come and mess up the love story.

Hi. rogue13xmen13. My sister-in-law has been in this situation too many times that I can count. She will end up dating this guy and then she will find out that he is not the one for her. I have seen her jump from relationship to relationship. She has four baby daddies. And she has six kids. Four boys and two girls. She also has another child on the way right now. She is still married to one of her baby daddies that she has the three boys with. Her oldest son is living in Georgia with his father and his stepmother plus his stepbrother too. I love my sister-in-law but I feel that she should just take care of herself and leave these men alone. She don't need the stress of trying to stay in a relationship with them when all they want to do is just get what they can out of her. It is very sad! We all know that she is just going back and forth because she wants a man to love her. Which is not wrong at all. She is just looking for love and stability within the wrong man. I am not trying to put her personal business out there, but it is the truth. If I was a single mother, I would just worry about getting me and my kids straight, before I let another no good man in my heart and in my bed.

That is always the case when someone is desperately seeking to be in a relationship...you tend to grab the first person who pursues you even though he may not fit what you are really looking for...you are blinded with your desire to be with that "someone" so as not to feel alone. That's why it's much nicer if we just let everything flow. It's less complicated this way.

We all want to be loved, and when we lose someone we feel very alone to we reach out to ease the pain I think, I don't think we deliberately grab for the wrong type of person because nearly everyone puts on a facade and when we are in this frame of mind we fall for it, its not til a little later we see these people for what they are but by that time our hearts are reliant in them.

Lots of lessons will be learned through it all. In time the discovery will be that true love can't be forced.

I suppose it is because they are not thinking clearly and hoping that the person will comfort the lonely feeling. Although they may see signs that this is not for them they somehow turn a blind eye with hopes that they are no longer alone anymore, is my thinking.

I haven't been in a relationship like this but i have witnessed a lot of these. My sister is one of those people who can never be "alone". She fears that no one loves her when she is alone and has to constantly be in a relationship to fulfill something mental about her appearance i think. There is this fear that is inside a lot of people that they are going to get old and no one is going to fall in love with them. I think it's funny how rushed people are to get into relationships as if there were some kind of deadline set for happiness. Of course I can't speak for everyone who is like this but that's what I've learned from these kinds of people. There just seems to be a need to be wanted a need to be needed by someone else. I guess it doesn't really matter who it is in the end as long as we aren't alone, although in a world filled with over a billion people i don't really see how they feel so alone . As an outsider looking in, I feel that these people are ridiculous and put up with more crap than its worth. I don't know if they ever really find love, but they are always in love.

In some moment of our life we can feel lonely and run for someone just to fill that gap. But most of the time we just need to offer and to get love, affection and be in the arms of someone who is loved by us. We need that heat or chemical reaction. I can say we are addicted to love because we search it all the time and we do it like an animal instinct.

When somebody is desperate they all end up doing the wrong decisions because their judgement was biased due to their emotions. the tendency is that they will jump into the soonest situation that they encounter without thinking of the consequences. Easier said than done but you need to analyze all decisions that you make may you be depserate or not.

I say look deeper. Maybe you/anyone lack the love that a parent/s failed to give them when they are young or even now. Maybe you have not discovered your love language yet. there are many reason why we tend to find love in all the wrong places.

When people are desperate, they are likely to be not in their best shape emotionally, physically, or mentally. Maybe they aren't fulfilling their own personal goals, so they feel inferior to others. They just aren't reaching their own potential, so they may think they aren't capable of getting into a relationship with the right guy. On the other hand, people who are accomplishing all their goals might think, I am going to get mr perfect because I deserve him.

When someone is desperate,it means,he/she won't choose the best or better one,as long as he/she feels that ,that someone is showing care and affection he/she will jump into having relationship with that person. That is why mosts of relationship that is not taken with deep emotion,or just taken for granted (just to have someone to love and care) didn't lasts for long. Relationship should not be taken desperately,or for granted. It must be love,respect,trust and honest feeling that matters most. or else,it will just end up with another wrong choice and wrong decision.

Yes i know many girls and guys of my city, who are mad in love and feel so desperate, i see them talking for hours on cell phone.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .