IS my decision is right in this situation of love????????
By prazzii
@prazzii (42)
India
March 24, 2011 12:18am CST
a guy in my class fall in love wid me...but i dont feel anything for him..first he try to propose me many tym bt it dont work ...he do so many thing which i already told him not to do ...now he want a frndship from me ...bt i dont want any frndship wid him, as i feel if i agree wid him his expectation always increases ..if now he want me as frnd then afterward he like me to b his girlfriend and each tym i talk to him, his expectation will increase ..... even today whenever we have any conversation he always brought the topic of his attraction and likeness toward me ...even in facebook he comment our give status related to love which directlly our undirectally pointed toward me ... even all of my frnd and his frnd (who know the matter) comment on his status ..all this is very annoying and disturbing for me ... so i made the decision of not being his frnd and also stop talking to him as i beleive if i dont then one day he will be able to forget me ...so IS my decision is right in this situation
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20 responses
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
if you feel uneasy with your decision then you made the wrong one. however i do sense youth on your side and i think this is one of those times when you have to learn that once you made a decision, provided you though about it thoroughly, then you have to have the backbone to stand up for it. one's integrity is measured this way in the real world.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Well for now, I would just like to know your reason why you do not want to be with this person. Are you committed with someone already, then you can have that excuse with him. As for me, there are no reasons why you should deny him of what he is offering to you. If there is no love or attraction at least then I guess you should tell him upfront about it so that he may realize that as well.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
It can be too harsh to say that you even did not accept the friendship, however basing it on your story, you did the right thing. You know him better than us, so what can be annoying to you can be not to us. So, whatever your decision is, that is your life. You are the one experiencing the matter and not us.
@celticeagle (166915)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Mar 11
Sure it is! You need to either speak to him in person or email him exactly where you stand. I might even delete my FB account and change your name or something so he can't find you again. It is said but obsession is scarey. It can get very unruly and even to the point of having to call the police. I would try to talk to him and tell him the straight up facts then cut off all communication with him.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Apr 11
The best we can do with someone is to be always honest. Sincere. That is the way we should go through. Always. Don´t you think so? Blessings!... Dainy
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
i think you have made the right decision. the guy is alrady annoying whenyou have always informed him that you would not marry him. Better stay away from this man until he realizes that you really are not wanting him. Do not allow him to talk to you and be your friend ven in facebook so that he wont be expecting that soon you will have feelings for him.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I wonder if the guys is not that really good enough for you. I am not saying that you accept him but sometimes we are looking for love in the wrong place where it is actually staring at you. The guy loves you but you don't love him. And sometimes you loved someone who does not love you back. It would have been easier if you liked him even a little bit but unfortunately you don't.
If one day your mind will changed maybe you could give him a chance to prove that he really loves you. Maybe who knows you will find something in him that could make you fall in love with him. It is just my suggestion but you don't have to follow it. Just think about it.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Prazzii,
Well by reading this i can make out this guy is nuts over you and is head on heals in love with you. Unfortunately you dont like him so best thing would be to not him have any expectations. If you are going to be good friend to him then yes the question of dinner, date would come and then if you say no he might be offended. So the best thing is to ignore him.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Avoiding him is not fair.Cant blame if he's annoying because he really fall inlove with you! just talked to him in a nice way, he is not the man u like, encourage him to look for someone... and be frank to him that you cant be together as lovers. all u can offer is friendship and wont exist on that!
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
24 Mar 11
Well this guy is seriously annoying in here. It's a good thing what you did just now and i am glad you have ended the matter right then and there itself and he also didn't cause any fuss. However if he still continues to follow you then i suggest you take some serious action on him by complaining. Some guys even become stalkers and seems that this guy is one. Beware!
Cheers!
@edenosabel (69)
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24 Mar 11
I think you made the right decision. His actions are very annoying. But be very careful my friend. we dont know what he can do because of his too much love for you. If he is mentally ill then you should look out always. I pray to God he wont think to do something very bad to you. Sorry, i'm just saying this so you can protect your self. be very careful sweetie..
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Seems like this guy isnt getting the picture. It`s sounds like the right decision to stop talking to him. With this kind of situations, guys can really be persistent. You girls have to not be afraid to tell them your real feelings, because if you dont, you may lead them on and they will keep trying. Round of applause for this guy trying! XD
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
24 Mar 11
Yes, you do have that right. I also think you're doing t5he right thing of ignoring him. By not responding to him at all, maybe he'll get the message - find someone else.
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 11
Franky speaking, the guy is really annoying! But I think the decision you made was right; since you had clarified the relationship among yours and he is still behave the same. It is not good to be closed with him as he will think in the other way as you like him too. So my suggestion is that just keep some distance with him and if he cannot accept the reality you are just be normal friend with him, just ignore him. Hope this will help and all the best.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
First,you are right with your decision.
But be careful too,because he might be obsessed and might hurt you.
You never knew what's really on his mind.
Just be nice to him,avoid talking with him even in facebook never respond to his messages.
If he insist of talking to you in person,talk to him nicely and make him understand that you are talking to him in a friendly manner.
Just avoid saying words that might hurt him.
have a good day
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi dear,
if you don't like him, ignore whatever he does. Ignorance is the best solution and let it go as it is and once you don't bother about what ever he does, slowly he will turn away. But after doing all from your side and still he continue to disturb, bring the same to the notice of someone elderly (as it is from the school), you can approach any of the close teacher or anyone who has more responsibility, and tell him/her to advice the boy, who trouble you. If the teacher advice him properly he would distract. Still, he is not willing to do it, ask the class teacher to handle the case in public.
But please make sure that it will not affect your studies and he do not turn up with revenge. Many students have such a feeling once they get insulted or distracted by others. Take care and I think if you 'simply ignore' him, that would be the best medicine for such diseases.
All the best.
Thank-s
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 11
Yes, I think you do the right thing. Just be sure to tell him once again that you don't want to be friend nor girl friend of his, until he can behave like a normal friend, without popping the word like, interested and love every time the two of you meet.
