Do you consider yourself a good husband or a good wife? Why do you say so?

Hong Kong
March 24, 2011 7:55am CST
Dating is a happy experience but once you got married, you will know that real life of marriage.sometimes you just getting frustrated on your spouse and starting to question on your choice in the beginning. Unfortunately,you have to face the consequence of your choice and thatis face your marriage with a positive manner. If you don't wnat to get divorce, then work hard in your marriage life is the only option you have. You will do your best to love your spouse and try to make your spouse feel happy about the marriage. I know that many of the husbands or wives in the world are very good to their spouse, are you one of them ? Share with us.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
I believe I am. Marriage is about compromise by both parties. If one partner does all the compromising then it can lead to great unhappiness. It really depends on the people involved and why they married. Not everyone marries for love and often the young ones who think they are in love find out they were wrong or they fall out of love because they change. If both people marry for all the right reasons and work to keep the relationship healthy then it should be fine. The important thing is communication. Too many people do not talk about their problems but let them fester until they become very serious. Lots of little niggles that are not dealt with or talked about can become huge resentments in time and that sort of thing is what leads to fights and trouble. I am suprised that so few people really talk about their feelings to each other. This is especially true of men and women talking to each other about problems or things they feel resentment about. I talk to my partner about everything like this and we do not fight because we talk out things that would lead to a fight if not dealt with.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Apr 11
I wish my huby consider me a good wife. I can´t tell it personally. I have been a Stay-at-home-mom always. He always has food, love and care. Well at least I try to love and care him as far as I can. We are in a church marriage ministry, we work in our relationship. My parents got divorced 13 years ago, just a week before our wedding =( ... but I can say we have 13 years married!! I thought we wouldn´t survive our first year! =) Blessings!... Dainy
@youless (112563)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Mar 11
I think I am a good wife. At first, I am considerate. I seldom nag to my husband. Second, I think I am somewhat diligent. I like cook delicious food for them. Third, I am faithful and I am someone who can be trusted. I treat my parents-in-law and my husband's friends and relatives well. If I have some shortcomings, the I must be impatient. I love China
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
25 Mar 11
Hi, It is a hard questions for me, and I really have no confirmation answer to it. Being someone's wife, I am trying my best to be a good wife and performing my duties. Of course, they were time whereby me and my husband will quarrel over small matters,but that was just for short period of time, after that, we will patch back again. So far, I don't have any complain from my husband,so I guess I am doing my duty in the right way and at this moment, I am stil trying hard to be a good wife for my husband and also a good mother for my son. To keep my marriage stay strong forever, a trust and mutual understanding are an important element. As long as we trust and respect each other,give space for own privacy,then our marriage will be in good term always.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
25 Mar 11
I think I am, although I don't know how to leave the house all sparkling and stuff, I'm very supporting when he needs, I talk to him about life and we also teach each other things. We are a little better of a person after being together, that's why it's the only time I feel it's right.
• Malaysia
25 Mar 11
I still considered I'm a good husband because I'm still loyal to the very same person, my wife even she is getting older every year, I am still loved her very much and accepting what she is throughout 23 years of our marriage. To prove of my sincerity of my loved to her, everything I owned from my savings, assets, cars and house in her name, and left nothing for me. We are not a perfect couple and we accepted what we have and what we are and try to live happily with all our might. All problems we try to face together and sometimes we failed and sometimes we succeeded , but we try not to blame each others. May ALLAH bless us. Amiin
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
25 Mar 11
I think we are very good for each other, as well as being good to each other. We try to help each other in our goals, and we talk a lot about what we want and need. We do argue sometimes, but we calm down and then discuss it.
@Galena (9110)
24 Mar 11
I'm a good wife. because, first and foremost, we are the best of friends. we enjoy each others company. we are both inclined to laziness when it comes to housework, so we do our best to each do out fair share. I stayed by his side through the darkest days of his life, when he had his mental breakdown. I love him. he can't work. I love him. he got very fat. I still loved him. he put a lot of effort into losing the weight, I was so proud of him. he loves the food I cook. I love to share with him the food I love to cook. I am a good wife. he is a good husband. we care what each other think and try to keep each other happy.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
my wife and i live in together for 3 years before i ask her to marry me. in that case we know each other very well already. of course we still have misunderstandings and short comings as a married couple but it is easier to patch things up. we are already married for 8 years and i can say that my wife is a good wife, a good cook a good mother and a good home maker. she left her career to be a stay at home mother but still work at home so she can earn and share with the expenses. i consider my wife a good wife, not perfect but perfect for me. i can say that i am a good husband too. i dont have much friends so after work i go home, if i want to go out i bring my wife and son along with me. if i wanted to go out and my wife is busy i bring my brother along with me. i dont drink or smoke and the only vices i have is playing video games that i play at home. so being a husband i can say i am a good one, and a good father too.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Well, I said I am a good and loving husband. I love my wife so much and I don't see anything good or wonderful other than my wife... She is the flower of eyes and I never think to see someone better than her...
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Hi; Judge if I am good or not, I go to work from 6 to 3, go to the market and straight to home, fetch up my kid, cook dinner, wake up at 12 to wait for her and eat dinner together. On weekends wake up early to cook breakfast, lunch, do the laundry and babysit. Do this 7 days a week. A friend, adviser, husband and father as well. Believe it or not this is true. What do you think?
@nj_1022 (251)
25 Mar 11
I consider myself a good wife. During the first year of our marriage anduntil now, we still discover something new with our spouses. But I opt to chose being married with thies person and I also want divorce or separation. Me and my husband talk about this and we both adjust to our situation.
• Australia
25 Mar 11
Hi there, I have been married for a year now and i guess i am a pretty good wife. I say so because my partner was very thin when we got married and now he has put on nearly 10 kilo of weight. He says he is very satisfied with his life now. Yes, sometimes i might be very stubborn but most of the times i am always there for him. I am ready to sacrifice anything for him because he has given me so much care and understanding. i am sure that our relationship will be more stronger in the near future.
@Janexiao (173)
• China
25 Mar 11
Haha, i am unmarried now,my friend. But i think i will be a good wife, if other people treat me a little well, i will treat them very well, and i don't like to take up other people's time, i hope when i get married, we can help each other and encourage each other like very good friends. by the way, i can cook very well, haha
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Well I am by no means a perfect wife..nor am I a perfect mother for that matter but I do the best that I can. Thats really all I can do ya know and if my husband isnt happy with it at any point he can always leave.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
24 Mar 11
I am a pretty good wife in my opinion. I take care of my husband and I stand by his choices. My daughter is a really good wife because she puts up with more than I ever would have. She puts up with her husband's temper and child like attitude when it comes to getting things that he wants. She does everything for him. What can I say she loves him so much. And lately he's taken a new turn and he's been doing the same for her. When she gets sick he's taking extremely good care of her and I'm happy about that.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
24 Mar 11
hello friend! i am still unmarried.so many people are just adjust with each other i do not want that i want to make my family with love.that is why i think i will be a good wife.it is very important for life.yes friend you are right it is happen in life but have to control our self and maintain our marriage life.i like to be good wife for my children and my life. thanks a lot.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Nobody is perfect, and so am I but I consider myself as a good wife and mother because I am ready always to sacrifice my own wants just for the sake of my husband and kids' welfare. I wanted always to ive them the best that's why I always gave whats best for them, I am also looking after them 24/7, I am not working that's why I am focused with them alone. I am not doing anything to make them feel bad, instead, I do wanted them to be happy always. Good night!
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 11
No body is perfect in this world. As long as we try our best, the rest depends on mutual understanding and how much the husband and wife can tolerate each others' behavior and habits. If you like a person, you must also accepts who they are, not trying to change a person into someone who you think he/she should be. Just try our best to be a good husband/wife, that's the only thing we can do and the rest would depends on fate.
@dznurani (160)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 11
i consider myself as a good wife and I think my husband is a good leader of the family too.. why? because we get married based on love, we trust each other, and we respect each other. of course sometimes problem can happen in every family. but for me, I will always try to forgive him as long as he's faithful to me